I give up guys, I'm going into a home next week

TheOtherRick said:
I've got an appointment on Wednesday to get Clawdia put to sleep, after that they can come and get me anytime. I'm trying to figure out what to keep and what to throw over my shoulder. My stepson and nephew are cleaning up on my cast-offs, I'd rather they got stuff now than after I'm dead.

Anyway, I'm putting things off, trying to delay I suppose, I'm getting down to sentimental possessions things that anyone other than myself would probably throw away, books nobody wants books any longer and there are boxes of those when they are packed away.

This isn't something I want to do, but, it's necessary, and unavoidable I'm tired of trying to take care of us, I've lost my house, and social security has cut me due to their miscalculation. I not fighting longer it's just easier and life is constantly changing this is probably for the best, I just hope they have good wifi there.
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Very sorry to hear about Clawdia, that's a difficult and heartbreaking decision, but she depends on you to do the best for her.....hugs. Sounds like you're going through a lot right now, but you seem to be reasonable and doing the right things. I wish you only the best, and a more positive future. Hope they do have good wifi and you will still be able to talk to us here. Take care of yourself. đź’™
 

TheOtherRick said:
I've got an appointment on Wednesday to get Clawdia put to sleep, after that they can come and get me anytime. I'm trying to figure out what to keep and what to throw over my shoulder. My stepson and nephew are cleaning up on my cast-offs, I'd rather they got stuff now than after I'm dead.

Anyway, I'm putting things off, trying to delay I suppose, I'm getting down to sentimental possessions things that anyone other than myself would probably throw away, books nobody wants books any longer and there are boxes of those when they are packed away.

This isn't something I want to do, but, it's necessary, and unavoidable I'm tired of trying to take care of us, I've lost my house, and social security has cut me due to their miscalculation. I not fighting longer it's just easier and life is constantly changing this is probably for the best, I just hope they have good wifi there.
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I hope that works out well enough, for you, Rick.

And we hope they have wifi.
 
You're a step ahead of most others who realize they can no longer take care of themselves and a household but refuse to move. My mother could no longer manage her house and fell a few times, but she still protested when I insisted she move to assisted living. She loved it, so good for you for making the move. I hope they have a great team taking care of you and that you thrive there.
 
Hi Rick,

I'm sorry to hear that you need tp put your cat to sleep. It's very tough, but you gave her 16 good years and you know what? 16 is pretty much the average lifespan of an indoor cat, so it really is about the right time, especially if she is sick.

You can always call the convalescent home and see if they have decent WiFi. You can also use your cellphone to provide your own WiFi through your cellphone service. How to Use Your Smartphone as a Hot Spot

Tethering eats up your cell plan, so I hope you have an unlimited data plan, and can drain your battery, but just keep the phone plugged in.

My mom was in one for a short while after major surgery and it was really the best choice for her. It helped her get better. It was not a 5-Star facility, it was more like a 2-Star facility, but it was OK. The most annoying part for her was having to share a room and hear the blaring of the other TV. I hope you get a private room.

If all the noise from other people there bothers you, God knows it can be hard to sleep even in hospitals because of all the beeps, conversations and TVs going, wear earplugs.
 
My condolences, Rick.

After your mourning period, hold your head up,
you have done everything you can do and you
have done it properly, according to the replies
from others who know you.

Stay safe.

Mike.
 
Murrmurr said:
Any possibility you can get yourself on a waiting list for a low-income apartment? If you say you're a displaced senior, you get priority status.

I don't know if you can do the waiting while you're in a nursing home, but maybe the staff can advise you about that.
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I think that I'm really beyond independent living, this is the best way.
 
HoneyNut said:
Is that happening at home? Several years ago I used a service to put my dog to sleep at home and they came and played the guitar and sang to her while they did it, it was very peaceful. Though a cat probably wouldn't appreciate it like a dog.


Taking a picture can be a useful way of keeping things without having to physically have them. I did that with a lot of things (such as old letters, special dishes, etc) when I moved.


So sorry to hear that, I can't imagine that anyone ever thinks to try to check their calculation, I tried googling the formula and there is no way I'd ever be able to calculate it.
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No, I have to get her to the clinic it's about half a mile away if nothing else I can load her in the carrier and ride her over in my chair, but my stepson will take her.
 
I am so sorry about your precious kitty. I wish you good luck in the nursing home. I worked in a few and can tell you that they all don't deserve their bad reputation. If you can adapt to the schedule and have a positive attitude you will probably get along well. Just having the help in your day to day life should be a welcome change. I hope you will be able to come to the forum and talk to your friends here.
 
Pepper said:
Best wishes to you @TheOtherRick. I always enjoy your posts. You feel like a familiar spirit. Hope you will continue to check in here, Please.
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As long as I remain cogent and I have a connection I'll be around, it's just moving across town and the Ford dealership is close by I can piggyback into their internet if I have to.
 
Rick, sorry to hear this is coming . If I may ask ? Why exactly are you making this decision ? Why is it you can no longer take care of yourself ? Hope I'm not being to nosey .

It is a shame about your cat. I lost my kitty @14 years ...... it about broke my heart.

Anyway, hope the future proves to be OK for you ..... and maybe someday a new kitty will come into your life ........ when you're ready .
 
So sorry to hear about Clawdia. I want to wish you the best in the future phase of your life. Please keep in touch with us.🤗
 
rgp said:
Rick, sorry to hear this is coming . If I may ask ? Why exactly are you making this decision ? Why is it you can no longer take care of yourself ? Hope I'm not being to nosey .

It is a shame about your cat. I lost my kitty @14 years ...... it about broke my heart.

Anyway, hope the future proves to be OK for you ..... and maybe someday a new kitty will come into your life ........ when you're ready .
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I'm a natural-born cripple, I survived cancer and never regained strength, and my wife helped me until her accident, I'm just tired, I can't take care of this place it's falling apart so it's time to let someone else do it.
That is just the short answer the whole tale is long, sad, and sounds whiney so I won't go into it.
 
you've seen her before but this is Clawdia.
Pepper said:
Best wishes to you @TheOtherRick. I always enjoy your posts. You feel like a familiar spirit. Hope you will continue to check in here, Please.
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Pepper said:
Best wishes to you @TheOtherRick. I always enjoy your posts. You feel like a familiar spirit. Hope you will continue to check in here, Please.
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Thank you I wish we could have met in better circumstances I like your posts Pepper best of to you.
 

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