I like being single.

fuzzybuddy

fuzzybuddy

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I like being single. People have always told me I was "independent". I'm not sure if that's good or bad. Yeah, it was nice having to come home to someone, but it wasn't always so nice. It's also nice to come home, and it's just me. As a single, I can do whatever I want whenever I want. If I want to vacuum the carpet at 3:47 AM, there's nobody all bent out of shape at me for doing that. I don't think I "give up" anything being single. I'm happy as I am. I like being single.
 

fuzzybuddy said:
I like being single. People have always told me I was "independent". I'm not sure if that's good or bad. Yeah, it was nice having to come home to someone, but it wasn't always so nice. It's also nice to come home, and it's just me. As a single, I can do whatever I want whenever I want. If I want to vacuum the carpet at 3:47 AM, there's nobody all bent out of shape at me for doing that. I don't think I "give up" anything being single. I'm happy as I am. I like being single.
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Me too! I've always loved living alone though child changed that. lmao Enjoyed raising her but now I'm also enjoying living alone again, coming and going as I please. Meals when I please and what I please, no argument as to what program to watch. No one trying to talk when I'm trying to either read or write.

And no one waking me up vacuuming at 3:47 am. lol Teasing you nothing wrong with that with no one to disturb but I will put this caveat on that - don't do it if you live in an apartment in which case there's people to disturb even though you live alone.
 
Also been single for over 20 yrs now. I don't foresee ever really falling in love and wanting to get married ever again. I am not even interested in dating. Haven't been for forever. My father worries about me being on my own but honestly, I'd prefer to stay that way.

I have no interest in sharing my life and home with someone whose schedule I have to work around. And having to worry about whether or not they're cared for. I am free to do what I want , when I want with no back talk. Live life on my own terms. Some people are not cut out for marriage. I feel like I am one of those people.

I tend to make cell mates miserable so no point in trying. LOL! I am too hard to live with and get along with. And it tends to stress me out too much. I think between the Tourette's and my introversion and anxiety I am just better off alone. I am calmer and happier.

I think the reason dad worries is because he is trying to adjust to life alone after 60 yrs of marriage. It's lonely for him. I don't think he understands that I am not lonely. Yes I miss having someone help when the car breaks down and all that crap but it's not worth giving up living my best life.
 
Nathan said:
Nothing wrong with being single, I was single for 6 years after my divorce.
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I was alone for 16 years after my divorce..my choice.. he soured me against wanting to be in a co-habiting type relationship. Had boyfriends but never allowed anyone to move in... Said I'd never marry again... raised my DD alone.. she left home at 23... I was a grieving empty nester... agreed to marry after all I'd said... wish I'd stuck to my decision...
 
Remy said:
No one bothers you, that's a big advantage.
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The sword cuts both ways because it's also a disadvantage at times. It all depends on the individual, their circumstances, and what they prefer. I've experienced both extremes of the situation. As I get older, I see the advantage of having someone else in my home to share my space and help and love me because I feel stronger that way and know I need someone else. I can't do everything alone like I did when I was younger. This is just a personal life change but I have to be honest about it. So I'm relearning how to live with someone else after a decade's break from it. It's strange but also good. :unsure:
 
MarciKS said:
Also been single for over 20 yrs now. I don't foresee ever really falling in love and wanting to get married ever again. I am not even interested in dating. Haven't been for forever. My father worries about me being on my own but honestly, I'd prefer to stay that way.

I have no interest in sharing my life and home with someone whose schedule I have to work around. And having to worry about whether or not they're cared for. I am free to do what I want , when I want with no back talk. Live life on my own terms. Some people are not cut out for marriage. I feel like I am one of those people.

I tend to make cell mates miserable so no point in trying. LOL! I am too hard to live with and get along with. And it tends to stress me out too much. I think between the Tourette's and my introversion and anxiety I am just better off alone. I am calmer and happier.

I think the reason dad worries is because he is trying to adjust to life alone after 60 yrs of marriage. It's lonely for him. I don't think he understands that I am not lonely. Yes I miss having someone help when the car breaks down and all that crap but it's not worth giving up living my best life.
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If you're happy, so be it.
 
chic said:
The sword cuts both ways because it's also a disadvantage at times. It all depends on the individual, their circumstances, and what they prefer. I've experienced both extremes of the situation. As I get older, I see the advantage of having someone else in my home to share my space and help and love me because I feel stronger that way and know I need someone else. I can't do everything alone like I did when I was younger. This is just a personal life change but I have to be honest about it. So I'm relearning how to live with someone else after a decade's break from it. It's strange but also good. :unsure:
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You are very fortunate.
 
I’ve been single since turning 60. It was an adjustment. Took a couple years to appreciate it. When one spends almost their entire adult life in relationships it’s almost like withdrawing from a drug (oxytocin?). I am now completely detoxed, and probably too difficult to live with. I have become spoiled doing things my own way without having to compromise. Oh, well.
 
EmptyCup said:
I’ve been single since turning 60. It was an adjustment. Took a couple years to appreciate it. When one spends almost their entire adult life in relationships it’s almost like withdrawing from a drug (oxytocin?). I am now completely detoxed, and probably too difficult to live with. I have become spoiled doing things my own way without having to compromise. Oh, well.
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Pardon me, Empty cup. I'm not at all judging. I lost one marriage to a wife to Oxycodone after an auto accident. Hang on to your new health. Never close the door to your heart.
 
MadMongoose66 said:
Pardon me, Empty cup. I'm not at all judging. I lost one marriage to a wife to Oxycodone after an auto accident. Hang on to your new health. Never close the door to your heart.
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Oxytocin - the love hormone, naturally produce by the body! I don’t do drugs, don’t even drink alcohol. My son calls me a “health nut.”
 
EmptyCup said:
I’ve been single since turning 60. It was an adjustment. Took a couple years to appreciate it. When one spends almost their entire adult life in relationships it’s almost like withdrawing from a drug (oxytocin?). I am now completely detoxed, and probably too difficult to live with. I have become spoiled doing things my own way without having to compromise. Oh, well.
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While I’m not single, I can relate to your post. My husband was gone anywhere from 10 1/2 to 15 hours a day for almost 32 years. I got so used to being on my own that being with him 24/7 was a HUGE adjustment. I’m certainly spoiled but only because I spoil myself. I make no apologies for it though.
 
Having been a widow for 10 years, I was without a husband, and I raised my son.

And now, I have been living alone these past four years.

At first, I did not like it because I had gotten used to having at least one person in the house with me. Now, I am very comfortable with it. If I feel I need to socialize, I visit SF, I go to the senior center, I square dance, I take watercolor classes, and go to church. I am also involved in a few organizations. I also work from home. My quiet and peaceful house has been more than a best friend all these years. I treat it like a family member. So being single with a home, a job, a social life, good health, and a good lifestyle are all coming together nicely.
 
hollydolly said:
I was alone for 16 years after my divorce..my choice.. he soured me against wanting to be in a co-habiting type relationship. Had boyfriends but never allowed anyone to move in... Said I'd never marry again... raised my DD alone.. she left home at 23... I was a grieving empty nester... agreed to marry after all I'd said... wish I'd stuck to my decision...
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I wouldn't even date for several years, my distrust of women ran deep. But, later on I met my wife, whom I trust implicitly.
 

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