I mildly berated someone and now I feel a little bad.

Bretrick

Bretrick

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On another site a guy said I post too much and that I am only seeking attention.
This guy often makes negative remarks to posters, trying to belittle them.
My response to him was - Stop it. You are such a negative person.
Nothing else, just that.
It is the most negative thing I have ever said to anyone, on any site.
He has not responded as yet and if he does I will completely ignore him.
Though I feel a little bad, I will not lose any sleep tonight.
 

dilettante said:
Yeah, I had someone similar suggest that I should leave the site once. But even at my lows I've had others ask me to consider staying on.

Sometimes I wonder why sites like this aren't used as resource material for sociology papers.
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Good idea.
Social network sites certainly have the whole range of human personalities.
 

I once read that you must first respect a person before they can hurt you. That's true but meanwhile they can sabotage your character behind your back to some of whom are quick to believe the untruth without seeing for themselves. That's sad. I know. To say "stop it" was the right thing to do but people like that probably won't. They're insecure.
 
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Lara said:
I once read that you must first respect a person before they can hurt you. That's true but meanwhile they can sabotage your character behind your back to some of whom are quick to believe the untruth without seeing for themselves. That's sad. I know. To say "stop it" was the right thing to do but people like that probably won't. They're insecure.
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He quite often belittles posters. It must give him a misplaced sense of importance.
 
that was very rude of him.

anyone can post as much as they like, not up to him. forums need such posters, especially ones who start threads ( I wish I did that more, cant think of new topics to start though)

and the 'seeking attention' seems such a silly insult - in a way everyone is seeking attention, that's not a bad thing - I mean, nobody posts or starts a topic hoping everybody will ignore it. :whistle:
 
January said:
that was very rude of him.

anyone can post as much as they like, not up to him. forums need such posters, especially ones who start threads ( I wish I did that more, cant think of new topics to start though)

and the 'seeking attention' seems such a silly insult - in a way everyone is seeking attention, that's not a bad thing - I mean, nobody posts or starts a topic hoping everybody will ignore it. :whistle:
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Some people simply like to rain on others parade.
To me that shows insecurity. Rather sad really. Going through life like that.
 
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Bretrick said:
On another site a guy said I post too much and that I am only seeking attention.
This guy often makes negative remarks to posters, trying to belittle them.
My response to him was - Stop it. You are such a negative person.
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Your response was fine. And quite constrained. If I'd been in a snarky mood and this happened to me, I may have found myself adding something like "but thank you for giving me some attention" with a ;) .
 
As a sociological subject, what would it possibly mean if someone were to start far more threads than others on the forum? What if this person introduced new ideas 10 times as much as taking part in other discussions? It seems to me that @Bretrick starts many new threads but just occasionally takes part in other threads. Is he being selfish? or self-absorbed? or is he expressing the vivid imagination that flows through his mind?

I have wondered about this. There are a couple other people who start threads way more than others, which would happen in any "group" forum. That is to be expected. If one starts a thread it shows they have a particular interest in the subject. Maybe others don't have an interest...just skip on by then. There is a new guy on here lately. @TennVet is posting a bunch of new threads about his interests.

IDK any answers to these questions, but I have noticed a distinct pattern to what others post, about what, the frequency, if it is personal or impersonal, opinions or facts, small talk or serious dialogue, and so many more social interactions. It makes for an interesting "guess" at the persons motives or personality type.? We all wonder about this occasionally. I guess some people will be offended by some of these traits. That too is in the cards.

Here is my story about @Bretrick.. He has led a very eventful life, and has had many challenges, including alcoholism. He is an affectionate guy, with a big heart who allows himself to express his feelings and imagination and curiosities. He lives in an exotic place, with very interesting creatures. Is he a team player? Yea, but he might be the quarterback calling the plays. :) I am no sociologist, so IDK how to use that language to describe forum behavior in such terms.

I don't feel like posting new threads is selfish, but it is coming from a self. In Brets case I find his posts spontaneously imaginative, and very interesting. To each his own...and let the chips fall as they may. :)
 
Paco Dennis said:
As a sociological subject, what would it possibly mean if someone were to start far more threads than others on the forum? What if this person introduced new ideas 10 times as much as taking part in other discussions? It seems to me that @Bretrick starts many new threads but just occasionally takes part in other threads. Is he being selfish? or self-absorbed? or is he expressing the vivid imagination that flows through his mind?

I have wondered about this. There are a couple other people who start threads way more than others, which would happen in any "group" forum. That is to be expected. If one starts a thread it shows they have a particular interest in the subject. Maybe others don't have an interest...just skip on by then. There is a new guy on here lately. @TennVet is posting a bunch of new threads about his interests.

IDK any answers to these questions, but I have noticed a distinct pattern to what others post, about what, the frequency, if it is personal or impersonal, opinions or facts, small talk or serious dialogue, and so many more social interactions. It makes for an interesting "guess" at the persons motives or personality type.? We all wonder about this occasionally. I guess some people will be offended by some of these traits. That too is in the cards.

Here is my story about @Bretrick.. He has led a very eventful life, and has had many challenges, including alcoholism. He is an affectionate guy, with a big heart who allows himself to express his feelings and imagination and curiosities. He lives in an exotic place, with very interesting creatures. Is he a team player? Yea, but he might be the quarterback calling the plays. :) I am no sociologist, so IDK how to use that language to describe forum behavior in such terms.

I don't feel like posting new threads is selfish, but it is coming from a self. In Brets case I find his posts spontaneously imaginative, and very interesting. To each his own...and let the chips fall as they may. :)
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The reason I post the way I do is that I like to share my experiences, I like to share my knowledge, I like to share the beauty of my country and I like to introduce topics that will enable members to interact with each other.
This is what social networks are all about. Members interacting and sharing.
I am not about being self absorbed because I am sharing a wide variety of topics. If I were self absorbed then the majority of my posts would be about me, me and me.
My goal is to bring variety and enjoyment to members and I feel I am achieving this.
 
Bretrick said:
On another site a guy said I post too much and that I am only seeking attention.
This guy often makes negative remarks to posters, trying to belittle them.
My response to him was - Stop it. You are such a negative person.
Nothing else, just that.
It is the most negative thing I have ever said to anyone, on any site.
He has not responded as yet and if he does I will completely ignore him.
Though I feel a little bad, I will not lose any sleep tonight.
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You were just being honest, and I wouldn't call that berating. Likely someone else has told him the same thing, but in not such a nice way. If he is negative all the time and nasty to others, then the other members probably are silently thanking you. Don't feel bad.
 
Bretrick said:
The reason I post the way I do is that I like to share my experiences, I like to share my knowledge, I like to share the beauty of my country and I like to introduce topics that will enable members to interact with each other.
This is what social networks are all about. Members interacting and sharing.
I am not about being self absorbed because I am sharing a wide variety of topics. If I were self absorbed then the majority of my posts would be about me, me and me.
My goal is to bring variety and enjoyment to members and I feel I am achieving this.
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exactly what are forums for if not to talk..?:D
 
Bretrick said:
On another site a guy said I post too much and that I am only seeking attention.
This guy often makes negative remarks to posters, trying to belittle them.
My response to him was - Stop it. You are such a negative person.
Nothing else, just that.
It is the most negative thing I have ever said to anyone, on any site.
He has not responded as yet and if he does I will completely ignore him.
Though I feel a little bad, I will not lose any sleep tonight.
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You DO create a lot of attention but thatā€™s not a bad thing. You are very social and create many interesting threads. Maybe this is coming from jealousy. Saying someone is negative all the time isnā€™t being nasty. Thatā€™s nothing. I wouldnā€™t worry about it. You are a popular guy. Most people like your posts.
Iā€™ve heard it said that if everyone likes you that you arenā€™t being true to yourself. You were politely being honest.
 
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