I opened my door and...

hollydolly said:
yes but at least she won't be living in the same buidling
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I agree. Even if the woman knows, she would Not have the right And the ease, to be in the hallway, which she has now, due to living in same building.

And she might likely latch on to someone or something else too, and just lose her focus on dusty, in that scenario.

I'm sorry that this was not just a short- lived situation and had not resolved itself,
@dusty
 

Nobody knows for sure why the lady is coming to your door @dusty
Just maybe she’s been “ dumped “ in the apartment by social workers / case manager if she has medial issues

I’m NOT saying she has mental heath issues …but who really knows ???

… here in Australia most mental heath facilities have been closed and people who have in some cases lived in institutions for a long time have been “ dumped“ in government owned low income homes called Housing trust here in South Aust, with no idea how to fend for themselves , so they are given a highly paid case worker …who in a lot of cases never visits / checks the client after they have been dumped ……

We hear people phoning the talk back radio about those who’ve sadly been deserted with no idea how to take care of themselves after being dumped in a single room / bed sit housing trust unit

My last job of 25 years was visiting many of those, I mentioned up here ^ one day I turned up to check a man who lived alone had taken his meds, that we’re packed in Webster pack (4 weeks supply of pills ) 💊

His case manager had been 1/2 hour before me and claimed he knocked in Erich door but he didn’t answer …..
so he’d left 4 weeks supply of mental heath pills ( in a clear see through dispenser) on his doorstep ….:oops::oops:

As I walked in the driveway , 4 small children were leaving with a brown paper bag , I asked where did you get it ….
They said that man that lives here gave us lollies …..it was Erich’s pills that would have killed the kids that were about 2, 3 and 4 years old…..( it was one of the most undesirable areas in Adelaide to live in )

most of the homes in that area have now been pulled down and land sold to developers

It was a big fat lie the CW had knocked ….as the man was in the room watching TV

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Kaila said:
I agree. Even if the woman knows, she would Not have the right And the ease, to be in the hallway, which she has now, due to living in same building.

And she might likely latch on to someone or something else too, and just lose her focus on dusty, in that scenario.

I'm sorry that this was not just a short- lived situation and had not resolved itself,
@dusty
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well.. the fact that the police have visited her twice now.. if she was to latch onto someone else then the police already be aware... but there's something wrong, that she could not just latch on to Dusty but to actually have delved somehow deep into her past and name names.. of people who Dusty knew.. even tho' this woman never lived anywhere near them..is just spooky... and I'd love to know her raison d'être :unsure:
 

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Sunny said:
Not to make light of this situation as it sounds as if it could be very serious. But wow, what a great movie this would make!
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perhaps not unlike the Netflix series Baby Reindeer - obviously the characters are different but it is a very interesting series about a real life stalker. (is based on a true story)

and how things escalated the more he tried to engage with her t o stop it
 
hollydolly said:
there's something wrong, that she could not just latch on to Dusty but to actually have delved somehow deep into her past and name names.. of people who Dusty knew.. even tho' this woman never lived anywhere near them..is just spooky... and I'd love to know her raison d'être :unsure:
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Yup... this isn't just some daft lady wandering the hall and knocking on doors. This Brenda had very private and personal information that Dusty stated she hadn't shared with anyone in the building... so not a matter of gossip from neighbors either. It truly is creepy.
 
@dusty, you may want to have the officer who was out there call you back on the phone. I'm surprised he didn't followup with you before he left.

I hope you get the other apartment soon so you don't have to deal with her. Just a thought, not sure if she drives or not, but if she doesn't drive you may not see her at all at your new place.
 
dusty said:
I have no idea what transpired between the police and her and they wouldn't tell me if I asked. It's all about privacy. I am waiting for the apliciation in the mail for a brand new built place near here.
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As a retired State Trooper, handling stalkers has it’s own set of rules that we followed. I know most people would like to know what the police officer and the stalker spoke about, but the Officer probably won’t tell you, not because of any privacy laws, but just good police work. Being the middleman and carrying stories back and forth would only most likely make the situation worse.

Facing your stalker is also a bad idea. If the stalker has the attitude of “if I can’t have you, then nobody can” and you tell that person there is no way I will ever date you or get involved socially with that person, they may decide, “Oh well then, I might just as well end it now and harm you.” If the police is aware of the situation and you filed a restraining order, you may want to just go about your business and not even give the stalker the time of day or acknowledge them if they should call you by name. IOW, look straight ahead.

The only other thing you need to be aware of is if you start getting hang-up phone calls. Hopefully, you have caller I.D. and if you do, start a call log and keep track of the date, time and number of each hang-up call. If after 3-5 days, you have several hang-ups take your log to the police and perhaps, they will decide to warn or issue a citation for harassment.

Peace!
 
CallMeKate said:
Yup... this isn't just some daft lady wandering the hall and knocking on doors. This Brenda had very private and personal information that Dusty stated she hadn't shared with anyone in the building... so not a matter of gossip from neighbors either. It truly is creepy.
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I'm a little worried that Brenda believes she and Dusty have the same father.
 
I mentioned if that was what she was hinting? at …..on the other thread by @dusty @gruntlabor
She seems to know way too much about Dusty ….its creepy …to say the least

I know very little about the law regarding someone like Dusty’s uninvited visitor ,but if she indicated in any way about “ hurting “ Dusty surely the police should inform Dusty ?
Having worked in the disability industry if someone even hints to a doctor they want to or are going to hurt someone the doctor is required to report it . ( well it was when I was working but that was …years ago )
 
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I wonder if Dusty has ever been investigated for a clearance for a government position. I know they interview neighbors in such cases. This is wild speculation but could this woman have been an investigator who later developed a mental illness?
 
911 said:
As a retired State Trooper, handling stalkers has it’s own set of rules that we followed. I know most people would like to know what the police officer and the stalker spoke about, but the Officer probably won’t tell you, not because of any privacy laws, but just good police work. Being the middleman and carrying stories back and forth would only most likely make the situation worse.

Facing your stalker is also a bad idea. If the stalker has the attitude of “if I can’t have you, then nobody can” and you tell that person there is no way I will ever date you or get involved socially with that person, they may decide, “Oh well then, I might just as well end it now and harm you.” If the police is aware of the situation and you filed a restraining order, you may want to just go about your business and not even give the stalker the time of day or acknowledge them if they should call you by name. IOW, look straight ahead.

The only other thing you need to be aware of is if you start getting hang-up phone calls. Hopefully, you have caller I.D. and if you do, start a call log and keep track of the date, time and number of each hang-up call. If after 3-5 days, you have several hang-ups take your log to the police and perhaps, they will decide to warn or issue a citation for harassment.

Peace!
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And a invention order seems to do nothing ~ in Australia , to stop stalkers ( ex partners in some of the cases ) but not all ~ by any means
 
My sympathies, dusty. (I thought it best to edit this reply, as you do really have a serious problem.)

I think you've got a lot of (mainly) good advice here. I would try to determine why this person is always hanging out so near your apartment, and I definitely would not confront or threaten her. Moving to a different location is always a possibility, of course, but it seems a bit extreme. Unless you wanted to move anyway.
 
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I wonder if Dusty has ever been investigated for a clearance for a government position. I know they interview neighbors in such cases. This is wild speculation but could this woman have been an investigator who later developed a mental illness?
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I have had my fingerprints taken by the FBI because I was a medic on a rescue squad in Virginia, but everyone did. I have been watched by the Secret Service since I married my ex in 1978 as he was an agent. Two guys in a car---lol---always in front of the house on odd days for the entire time we were married and even when he was out of town for the job. After we divorced they still watched me the same way and once went to the manager of my former apt to talk about me. I know this because one of the residents in my building had gone to pay his rent and he overheard the conversation and told me.

I do have caller ID but nothing suspicious there.
 
gruntlabor said:
I'm a little worried that Brenda believes she and Dusty have the same father.
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I wondered this, too... but then I realized that Brenda was claiming the very same birthday along with some other "too freaky to be true" facts like sons born at the same time (and both sons artists, etc.) Same birthday would make them twins. Whatever the reasons, just having moved into Dusty's building four months ago is very concerning. Sorry, @dusty ... didn't mean to talk about you like you weren't here. 🤭 Crazy off the wall question... does Brenda look like you at all?
 
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Kadee said:
And a invention order seems to do nothing ~ in Australia , to stop stalkers ( ex partners in some of the cases ) but not all ~ by any means
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Same as having a restraining order. I posted in another thread, these court documents are only effective if the person being stalked has a police officer outside their door.
 
CallMeKate said:
I wondered this, too... but then I realized that Brenda was claiming the very same birthday along with some other "too freaky to be true" facts like sons born at the same time (and both sons artists, etc.) ...
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Yes, but to have the same birthday is not necessarily to have the same birth date.

Didn't you say, Dusty, that you are 74 and Brenda is 72? Or something like those numbers, maybe?
 
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I wonder if there is a psychological condition where a person latches onto another person and wants to actually BE that other person. So they
"adopt" all the details they can get hold of, of the other person's life and finally convince themselves that they are that other person.

I don't know if this condition exists, but it would fit the description here.
 
Sunny said:
I wonder if there is a psychological condition where a person latches onto another person and wants to actually BE that other person. So they
"adopt" all the details they can get hold of, of the other person's life and finally convince themselves that they are that other person.

I don't know if this condition exists, but it would fit the description here.
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Called being nuts.
 
Sunny said:
I wonder if there is a psychological condition where a person latches onto another person and wants to actually BE that other person. So they
"adopt" all the details they can get hold of, of the other person's life and finally convince themselves that they are that other person.

I don't know if this condition exists, but it would fit the description here.
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Sounds very much like BPD: A person wanting to be another person can be a symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), which involves a desperate fear of abandonment and a fragile sense of self. They may "latch onto" others to regulate their emotions and avoid feeling incomplete, sometimes leading to "chameleon-like" behavior and idealizing or devaluing relationships.
 
Sunny said:
I wonder if there is a psychological condition where a person latches onto another person and wants to actually BE that other person. So they
"adopt" all the details they can get hold of, of the other person's life and finally convince themselves that they are that other person.
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Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID):
Also known as multiple personality disorder, people with DID experience distinct personalities (alters) with different behaviors, memories, and thought patterns. This can manifest as wanting to be or taking on the identity of another person.
 

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