I Will Be Gone For A While...

Steve

Steve

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Massey, Ontario, Canada
I will be gone for a while starting tomorrow..
Our friend that spent Christmas with us who is from Elliot Lake (about one hour away from us) went to get her mail and fell down on the ice and is in the hospital..
She is being released tomorrow and she will get a lift to our house and she will be staying with us for a while till she gets back on her feet.. Evidently, she has stitches in her leg and was told she will be sore for a while starting tomorrow..
She lives alone so we can't ignore her in this time of emergency..
When she called us, she was crying with pain and we suggested she comes here for a while..
We have a chair lift which means she will NOT have to climb up any stairs..

The computer I have is in the guest bedroom which means I won't be able to use it while she is staying here.. I can't very well say to her I want to come into your bedroom to use the computer.. C'mon.. There is something called privacy..

She will be coming with her dog, a Chiwawa that gets along just fine with our Pomeranian.. That means we will be taking care of her dog as well..

At least she will eat good food while she is here..

In my opinion, she will probably be here for the better part of a week, if not longer..
I will be back on here as soon as she leaves.......

Sorry, but we have to do what we must to help out our friend when she is in need....
 
Sorry to hear this, Steve. It sounds like your friend has no one besides you; no family close by?? If so, she is fortunate to have you and your wife as friends to help when it's needed, and I know she knows that.

I don't know her of course, but I don't see that she'd mind if you were on the computer sometime when maybe she is awake reading, or maybe up for a while?? Maybe in a couple days she will feel rested enough to allow you that. Anyway...hope she recovers quickly, and you all do ok while she recovers, and take care of yourselves, too.

Steve - you need a laptop or ipad. I have an ipad, and it's handy when I'm in another room or outside, tho I'm not so good on it yet. Nice to have, tho.
 
Yes Steve it's good to have friends who you can rely on when you really need them......
She's lucky to have you and yours to offer your help, not everyone has such friends....
I hope she's feeling better soon....:rose:
I'm sure you'll more than make up for not being online when she goes home....:friendly_wink:
 
The internet will wait. Your friend needs you now.
Enjoy being host and carer and enjoy the extra dog too.
Then come on line and tell us all about it.

Meanwhile :bighug:
 
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"I am just going outside and may be some time."
Captain Lawrence Oates, famous last words
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..moment there. Glad you cleared that up.

You and yours are among the good guys Steve. She certainly needs someone and is lucky you are there to 'catch' her.
All plain sailing for you all from here on I hope. ... and we expect stories when you get back online.
 
Thanks everyone.. Someone has to do something and care..

She has 3 children: When I called up her son that lives in Peterbourough (an 8 hour drive away) to tell him, he said "so, what do you want me to do about it? I can't come up to see her..Your there, so you look after her.. Call me if she passes away !!!"
Her daughter that also lives in Peterbourough said "Oh well, call my brother and tell him because I an NOT coming up to look after her.. NO WAY !!"....
Her other son lives in Calgary and only speakes to his mother about once a year.......
Her 2 children that both live down in Peterbourough don't talk to each other unless necessary...

She will not spend any time in her bedroom other than to sleep.. She will come downstairs (via the chairlift) and be there all day.. I give her my chair to use while she is here which is a "lazy boy" while I take the couch to sit on..
I will try to come on here but I really don't like abusing her privacy.. I will ask her first.. Perhaps during the day when she is downstairs for a quickie and an update..

I didn't tell you that she is a bad diabetic,(insulin), is on oxygen 24/7, has congestive heart and has just been diagnosed with COPD ... She takes more medication daily than the drugstore has.. Her diet is something else.. No salt, no sugar, low fat.. Cooking will be a real challenge, but I did it before and I will do it again...

Bottom line, she is a friend and we will NOT throw her out to pasture.. We will do everything we can to make her stay as comfortable and pleasant as possible....

I will suggest to her that perhaps the time has come for her to look into a sort of a home where she will get some supervision and perhaps her meals as well.. She can't keep on living alone much longer.......
 
This fall could be the wake up call she needs Steve. I had a scare and when you realise you are reliant on the kindness of a cousin because there's no one else then it does focus the attention on making better living arrangements in case it happens again.

Shame about her kids but sadly that's not uncommon. A neighbour years ago had 5 of them and died alone in the hospital. Plenty of other examples too. Beats me why they do that. I had cause enough sometimes but never dumped mine, don't know how they sleep.

Anyway you can only do your best to steer her to better, safer, accommodation, it's ultimately up to her. Good luck with it all Steve.
 
Steve,
You can borrow my Toshiba laptop since I now have 2 of them.
One is Vista,the newer one is windows 8 that Im really beginning to hate now.
 
Again you and your wife are Saints Steve.

And reading about her children certainly proved a point for me.

When I was still of child bearing age people used to tell me how old and lonely we'd be because we never had children..and "Who is going to take care of you when you get old?" :rolleyes:

I always maintained if you only had kids because you need somebody to look after you and keep you company in your declining years......Good luck with that!
 
We had an elderly neighbor whose children were like that; Christmas, Father's Day, his birthdays; all passed with no card or call from them. We did what we could for him, and he had friends from church who were there for him, also.
Granted, he was Christian and brought up the children and stepchildren as such, so I suppose they had a strict childhood, but it could have been a lot worse. He treated them like his own, and didn't drink or smoke or abuse them. I never understood how children can neglect their parents when they've done their best.

OH, you are right; that's no reason to have children...just so you can be taken care of later on. There are no guarantees, for sure.

Best of luck, Steve, and come back whenever you can.
 
I just have a moment so I thought I would pop in just to say everything is going as well as can be expected..
The poor woman is bruised and sore all over.. I think her pain threshold is low as she complains all the time..
Very hard to ignore her so we are now catering to her..
I think (just quietly) it might be time for her to go home and she will just have to work things out for herself.. 4 days should be enough.. I think we did our part..
To make matters just a bit worse, her dog (a chiwawa) is something else.. I am now taking care of her dog as well as mine..

I will come back on here in the next few days to update you on the situation..
 
Well, she decided on her own that she was feeling much better and it was time to go home..
She attributes her getting better to our gracious hospitality and care.. That's OK as we did our best and it wasn't easy..
We don't feel bad at what we did because she needed some help and we are the only people in the world that can help her and be there for her..
She got a lift to come here but I took her home.. I drive a Ford Pick-up and she had enough stuff to actually fill up the back part of the tailgate.. Her oxygen machine is quite large and heavy.. Her dog crate is also large..
Anyway, its all over !!! As my wife says " It's over till next time"....

Now we are back to our way of life.......
 
Thanks W gal...
I am definitely going to take my Princess out somewhere this week-end, if not tomorrow...

We must do some grocery shopping as she ate us out of house and home..
My fault as I cooked generously and flavourful...
 
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