If you had in-laws ,were they good or bad ,or crazy ?

My GF's family competes with each other and everyone else. They wear personalities to suit their agendas. I'm not like that, so they don't talk to me. Phew!
 

Aneeda72 said:
Jujube

Reminds me of my mother-in-law. I had been married once before so "used goods" for sure. Although I wasn't pregnant, like her daughter was when she married a few months later. Lol.

Both his parents were drunks. I remember going to an early morning baseball game, when I first met her, and she could barely stand up. They were never grandparents to my (our) son, and when our daughter came along they gave her one doll. That's it, one doll for her whole life.

The father in law died young, in his fifties as I remember, from liver diease due to the drinking. The other children, especially the sister, did not want to give my husband his little share of what was left. As far as I was concerned they could keep it. My mother in law died in her early sixties and his sister sent notice of disinheritment along with her death notice.

The court was displeased with the disinheritment. Sent notification for him to respond, lol, I told him not to. The others had to wait a year to get their money due to his lack of response. We were never interested in money. We were so poor during this period of our lives a few nickles and dimes would mean nothing.

In fact, this is such an issue for my wealthy brother, money. I told him to keep whatever mother leaves. I don't need any of her nickles and dimes either. I fail to understand the importance people put on money and the fear they have in sharing it. The clothes I buy at wal-mart do the same job as the clothes someone buys at a speciality store.

His wife once said to me that her favorite thing about us was that we never asked them for money. Ugh.
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Oh, that too. She was SURE I was "tricking" him into marriage by being pregnant and didn't mind telling people that. The fact that we were on opposite coasts and hadn't laid eyes on each other for nine months until a couple of days before the wedding didn't sway her opinion. It must have been a great disappointment that I didn't give birth until 18 months after the wedding...…...unless she thought I was an elephant, of course.
 
They were great...they lived in Hungary. Met them for the first time when I took my daughter for a visit when she was about 3.

My FIL was an alcoholic and a nasty one to boot. He was always yelling at his wife to do this ..get him that, etc. My Mil was a hardworking quiet woman but stubborn and set in her ways.

She decided to visit us in Illinois in the winter for 3 months the only time I ever worked while married. My daughter was already in College and my son was in high school.

It wasn’t pleasant.

By the time my husband and I moved to Hungary for 6 years they were both deceased.
 

Jujube,

My husband and I were seperated for, 9 months, before we decided to marry as well. Saw him about a week before the marriage, stayed at his mom's where I learned just how much they all hated me. Lol. But I thought, at the time, getting to know someone through letters was better than in person. Course, just another thing I was wrong about. I have been wrong a lot.

CeeCee,

I lived in Downers Grove, IL for a short while. My first husband was from Kankakee, Il. Illinois gave me something I'll never forget-pin worms, lol. Who knew you were not supposed to walk barefoot in the dirt. Not me. Hehe.
 
They were....polite, nice people. But I had very little in common with them, and they never understood me at all. Being Asian first-generation immigrants, it was like dealing with my grandparents, only my grandparents didn't speak English and died when I was young so I never had to deal with them, LOL.

As my DH likes to say, I'm a "grapefruit" (aka "banana"). 'Yellow on the outside, white on the inside.' Big differences between a third generation AsianAm and first generation naturalized AsianAm FIL/MIL. Probably worse because in many ways, I'm more like the fourth generation in lifestyle; e.g., my nieces/nephews.

We all did our best to tolerate one another, and respect boundaries. It mostly worked, although it was tougher when MIL developed dementia. She had lived with us for 7 yrs but things were getting worse every month. DH got really stressed over it until I put my foot down and said it was time for us to find her an eldercare facility nearby.

We did so, and she was very happy there until peacefully passing away. She needed that social interaction which we could not provide her with.
 
Lethe200,

It's great that they were polite and nice.

I would have settled for polite and/or nice from my in-laws.

My son's girlfriend is Chinese. Born in China and moved here, I think, at a younger age with her parents. I remember the first time I asked my son do due something in her presence. He said, as usual, he'd do it in the next week or so. And he would. She nudged him and said "you do now!" :). Neither wishes to marry, they are in the over 45 crowd.

No offense meant, but her attitude is working great for me and my husband! Lol. (I think she would be considered 2nd generation. She speaks two dialects. They have traveled to China as she has lots of relatives there.) I told my son he can't break up with her until I die. In fairness, I told my daughter she can't move till I die.

As as I mentioned, I was in a nursing home for 24 hours. They were neither skilled or caring, but charged 3000 for that 24 hours.
 
Mine were ok far as inlaws go. My MIL passed a couple years ago and I really miss her. It was't always like that though. time heals all I guess.
 

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