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Jules

Jules

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If you start a new topic, do you feel that you are expected to answer each response individually? Do you expect the topic originator to reply to your comments? I read and react to each comment.

Is this something that stops you from posting a new comment?

And no, I won’t be giving individual replies.
 

Jules said:
If you start a new topic, do you feel that you are expected to answer each response individually? Do you expect the topic originator to reply to your comments? I read and react to each comment.

Is this something that stops you from posting a new comment?

And no, I won’t be giving individual replies.
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Sometimes I feel giving "individual" replies is the courteous thing to do, but I usually do so by tagging individuals in the same reply. Perfect case in point is my thread about my son's engagement, which I still have to compose my thank you for. I also like to use nice GIFs or graphic greetings. I certainly feel I should at least react to the replies of those I don't give personalized responses to.
 

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I’ll let you know if I ever start another thread. 😉🤭😂

New threads are the life blood of a forum but I have never had much response or felt comfortable enough to start many threads.

I do think a 👍 is a way to thank people or acknowledge a person’s participation without having to do an actual reply.

What I do find annoying/impolite are people that start a thread and try to moderate the thread or scold people that have taken the time to contribute.

Just put it out there and see where it goes, respond when it feels right, nothing we discuss here is going to do much to change the world.
 
Jules said:
If you start a new topic, do you feel that you are expected to answer each response individually? Do you expect the topic originator to reply to your comments? I read and react to each comment.

Is this something that stops you from posting a new comment?

And no, I won’t be giving individual replies.
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Naw. I expect that threads will bomb, or just get likes, but I do try to respond to people who address me directly, unless I'd just be cluttering up the board with one word answers.
 
Aunt Bea said:
I’ll let you know if I ever start another thread. 😉🤭😂

New threads are the life blood of a forum but I have never had much response or felt comfortable enough to start many threads.

I do think a 👍 is a way to thank people or acknowledge a person’s participation without having to do an actual reply.

What I do find annoying/impolite are people that start a thread and try to moderate the thread or scold people that have taken the time to contribute.

Just put it out there and see where it goes, respond when it feels right, nothing we discuss here is going to do much to change the world.
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I know you don't typically start topics, but I personally think you are one of the most grounded, intelligent members in the forum. I always appreciate your responses. You should absolutely feel comfortable starting a topic, but if that's not in your wheelhouse it's all good.
 
Whether a topic starter on threads should respond to other member's subsequent posts in some way, depends on the nature of a significant list of possible community thread types and how that person chooses to involve themselves so it is not so black and white but rather like so much else...IT DEPENDS. Thus, a more focused topic of discussion for the thread could be under what circumstances might a thread starter respond or not, and how?

Sometimes I don't respond to other's postings at least immediately, simply to keep a thread from going where I prefer it not go. Other times, someone is just adding idle humor they don't expect any to answer and rather just get a few humor smilies. And then sometimes people are addressing specific others that have posted and not the OP. The OP may or may not have a reason to post something. Many times what people write and what true meaning is going on in their head is poorly translated, so comes out wrong. Especially when emotions are involved. Better to give others benefit of doubt until otherwise more certain, instead of creating critique friction even if true that isn't necessary or constructive.

Much more. Interpersonal communication is complex and not subject to simple analysis, because human interrelationships, vocal communication, nonverbal communication, and language is complex.
 
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I respond to most of my topic responders.
If I do not respond then I always give a reaction emoji. Though sometimes I do not receive notifications so I do miss them from time to time.
Many times I post it is to provide a topic for members to interact with each other.
I feel that is one of the main reasons for sites such as this.
Interaction between members. As many say, they rarely start topics so my topics give them something they can engage with.
 
Jules said:
If you start a new topic, do you feel that you are expected to answer each response individually? Do you expect the topic originator to reply to your comments? I read and react to each comment.

Is this something that stops you from posting a new comment?

And no, I won’t be giving individual replies.
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No, I never felt I was expected to reply to each response. The topic is for anyone interested to share their stories, concerns, opinions, etc. I'm still getting some Likes from threads I posted over ten years ago and haven't participated in except at the very beginning. I have to look at the thread to even remember what it was about. :)
 
January said:
I don't start many new threads - not because of anything other than I can't think of original and relevant topics to start them about.
No I wouldn't be responding to each post individually though. Or expecting the OP to neccesarily respond to my posts in threads.
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I think a lot depends on how busy we are in real life on that day. Most days I pop in and don't stay long here, usually check the music threads for songs I really like. I believe forums should be fun, no obligations or too much thought required. :D
 
SeaBreeze said:
No, I never felt I was expected to reply to each response. The topic is for anyone interested to share their stories, concerns, opinions, etc. I'm still getting some Likes from threads I posted over ten years ago and haven't participated in except at the very beginning. I have to look at the thread to even remember what it was about. :)
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Me to.. SB...exactly this.... ^^^

...but in answer to the OP..no I don't reply to every post on any threads I start... I do acknowledge everyone with a like or similar response
 
OneEyedDiva said:
Sometimes I feel giving "individual" replies is the courteous thing to do, but I usually do so by tagging individuals in the same reply. Perfect case in point is my thread about my son's engagement, which I still have to compose my thank you for. I also like to use nice GIFs or graphic greetings. I certainly feel I should at least react to the replies of those I don't give personalized responses to.
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That's wonderful news @OneEyedDiva :) I didn't see your thread.
 

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