I'm beyond consolation....

Katybug

Katybug

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Just when you think it can't get worse, sometimes it does. My precious 17 yr old g'daughter is missing....since late last night. She was on restriction w/her phone and grounded for some relatively insignificant something and in spite of that, asked to go out tonight.......NO!

She and her brother are my only g'children and I mentioned in an earlier post he's bi-polar, but gawd, he's extremely sensitive, caring, very affectionate, loaded with charm, and my first g'child. He adores me and I worship the ground he walks on, as I do her.

Around 11 last night, pissed off that she couldn't get permission to go out tonight, she told him she was going for a walk and would be back shortly. They live in a very nice neighborhood, but I know she went much further. I am a basket case knowing all the crazies out there and she's drop dead gorgeous!

They kept it from me as long as they could but I just found out they have all spent the day looking for her. My g'son is researching all her e-mails incoming/outgoing in an effort to find her. I am sick to death with worry and can't stop crying. Me, who almost never cries. If you could send some special thoughts in our efforts to find her, please do.
 

OMG Katy that's just the most awful thing to go through. We hear of this but until it hits home we can't really appreciate how devastatingly worrying it must be. Please be sure we are all hoping our hardest she will soon be found and we're with you there, worrying, as no advice will stop you doing that.
Cyber hugs are in order Katy, can't do more than that from here.
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Just you and her be safely through this soon.
 
O Katybug, I'm so sorry to hear your news but if I can offer some consolation to help you right now it is this - bad news travels very quickly and as long as you don't hear anything it is quite probable that she is OK.

Teenaged girls can be very dramatic and she will most likely turn up safe and well after staying overnight with an accomplice friend.

I will pray for you, your family and your granddaughter.

 

Thank you so much, dear ladies. The police are all over this and even they said they think someone is lying....oh, how I hope they are. I can't tell you how much your concerns mean to me.

Another thing I want to point out, I haven't called a single friend about it. I can't verbalize it, makes it too real. It's so much easier to spill your heart to those you know care, but don't know you personally. Have no clue why that it is, but that is definitely me. I tell you folks things I never mention to my real life friends -- for whatever reason.

Thank you again for caring, means so much. I'm damned near beside myself with worry.
 
Katybug said:
Thank you so much, dear ladies. The police are all over this and even they said they think someone is lying....oh, how I hope they are. I can't tell you how much your concerns mean to me.

Another thing I want to point out, I haven't called a single friend about it. I can't verbalize it, makes it too real. It's so much easier to spill your heart to those you know care, but don't know you personally. Have no clue why that it is, but that is definitely me. I tell you folks things I never mention to my real life friends -- for whatever reason.

Thank you again for caring, means so much. I'm damned near beside myself with worry.
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Oh Katy my dear woman, I can't say how awful I feel for you, what an ordeal for you and your family, I hope she will be found safe and soon.

I consider some of my on-line friends very dear friends and you guys are just as real as anybody else in my life.

I'll certainly hope for the best and just keep thinking positive, easier said than done I know, but it won't hurt.

Hang in there Katy.

Deb
 
Hoping for the best and a good outcome, Katybug. Fingers crossed. You and yours are in my thoughts.
 
Oh no; this is something we all know can happen, but try not to think about it. Prayer and good thoughts your way, and hoping for a good ending to this - I do think there will be, it's just the waiting. Yes, teens can be very dramatic...let's hope she has someone nearby to help her see that home is the best place to be.
 
THANK GOD, FOUND!!!! And g'son did it via several different types of technology. It was preplanned and I personally want to beat the shit out of her, but teenage girls being what they are (I REMEMBER,) we will all move forward. In the meantime, since I am extremely protective of my daughter being stressed, Katie is going to be with me through the Xmas holidays. If you met this kid you would never imagine her being capable of such a thing...shy and innocent looks....no way could she be anything but a sweetheart! She is all that and more, but looks are deceiving and she was extremely upset at having her phone & computer taken away....do we remember rebellious?

Katie should be damned glad I'm here because her mom can't cover the way I can (just like her dad) and we need to gentle it up a bit more than she's capable of doing -- especially given what she's been thru battling cancer for the last 2 yrs. Nana can handle it, but OMG, I may challenge Meryl Streep on acting w/my interactions with Katie as we work through this. I forgive, but I don't forget and I've removed 8 of 10 of my biggest presents to her from under the Xmas tree. It's gonna be a different kind of Xmas and g'son RJ will be rewarded on the side for all the help he gave in finding her. You have to be reminded if you're good, so is Santa! I've saved her gifts for later, but my g'pups have more gifts than she does. Gawd, how do we get through these teenage years??!!!
 
Glad she was found Katy, I did the same to my mom when I was a teen, stayed over a friends house and didn't inform anyone of my whereabouts. Luckily I got to apologize to my mother for all the BS I put her through during my rebellious teen years.
 
Oh Katy, so sorry what you are going through. I came to this late, but my initial thought was that she was hiding out with friends, as teenagers are so good at covering for each other. I had no doubt that she would be found safe, just sitting back,enjoying and fantasizing the drama she was causing. Teenage girls are masters of their universe, and great manipulators.

Thankfully, she was found quickly and safe, but you need to exact your pound of flesh from her for what she put the family through. I might (and just might) give her a couple of those gifts, but if she were mine she would be marched down to the nearest local charity with the rest to be donated to the charity in her name. Failure to follow rules, and then decide to put the family through hell because of it needs special consequences.

Go treat yourself to a nice glass of wine and a bubble bath and take a deep breath.
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All's well then Katy, and good for you cutting the presents back. It's best to forgive, but never let them forget that you had to.

Gawd, how do we get through those teenage years??!!!
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Fear mostly....and self preservation. I was told clearly if I ever left home not to come back. "If we're not good enough for you now, then we won't be in the future so make sure you can support yourself on your own." I guess (hope) it was bluff, but I never tested it.

I learned later it was a family tactic. My cousin pulled that stunt and packed his 'swag' and yelled he was leaving and they wouldn't be seeing him again. His father ran after him and grabbed the swag (bundle of clothes and stuff in a bag and blanket) and proceeded to go through it.
He sorted out everything my cousin didn't pay for and 'own' and it left him standing there with a shanghai (catapult) and a tin of stamps he'd collected.

We have a laugh about it occasionally, "at least the old man left my arse covered." There was never any more of that teenage angst stuff pulled in that house either.
 
Look at all these posts, this is what this board is all about -- support. Thanks to each and every one of you for caring. I can't thank you enough and so glad it had a happy ending.
 
I'm so glad all your news was good news, Katybug.

Katybug said:
Gawd, how do we get through these teenage years??!!!
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Take heart, in no time at all this disease called adolescence will be over and a wonderful, responsible, young lady will emerge out of the chaos like a butterfly from a chrysalis.

I'm glad your grandson is being affirmed for his responsible actions in the drama.

to all, including the errant grand daughter.
 
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Oh Katy, so sorry what you are going through. I came to this late, but my initial thought was that she was hiding out with friends, as teenagers are so good at covering for each other. I had no doubt that she would be found safe, just sitting back,enjoying and fantasizing the drama she was causing. Teenage girls are masters of their universe, and great manipulators.

Thankfully, she was found quickly and safe, but you need to exact your pound of flesh from her for what she put the family through. I might (and just might) give her a couple of those gifts, but if she were mine she would be marched down to the nearest local charity with the rest to be donated to the charity in her name. Failure to follow rules, and then decide to put the family through hell because of it needs special consequences.

Go treat yourself to a nice glass of wine and a bubble bath and take a deep breath.
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Excellent suggestions, OG, and I'm in for all of them, bubble bath running. Especially receptive to donating...as she picked out the clothes and very much needs to know the consequences of not deserving them. Wish I'd thought of that, but that's the route we're going! Thx!! It's so much easier to see it from an outsider's point of view....greatly appreciated from all of you.
 
Katy, so happy to hear she is safe, and I can understand how upset you all must be with those antics. Kids have no clue how parents worry when they pull some of these stunts, guess you don't know until you are a parent yourself, as most of us know.

Donating some of her gifts is a fantastic idea; might not be easy, but surely worth the lesson it will teach her. Just glad she's back; now you relax and try to enjoy the time of year. :)
 
Katy, I'm also late reading this thread.......so happy to hear she has turned up safe and sound.....
Relief for all concerned......I also agree with donating some of those Xmas gifts, just may make
her realize what she's done and how much distress she has caused to her family.....HUGS :girl_hug:
 

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