I'm worried about my sister...

My closest friend is very high up on direct donations, it has been her entire career. If the charity is legitimate, they do not know of her monetary situation. They ask, it's up to the donor to give. I doubt any Catholic Church is deliberately squeezing your sister, Brian. All you can do is speak frankly with her about her situation. If she is not of sound mind, go directly to the Charity with this information and demand they stop. If they are legit, they will, and the Catholic Church has a good reputation charity-wise. Would you speak with her Parish Priest if you suspect she has some type of dementia? If so, you should.
It's not the church she's donating to, although I'm sure she supports them as well, but more than a dozen Catholic charities. I am considering speaking with her parish priest, but I don't want to cause any rift between them. Her religion is her life and I'm not sure she could go on without it.
 

Sometimes (I am not implying your sister, I don't know her) people who give are very selfish, wanting something in return. Her something might be the knowledge that you and brother will not let her lose her home, go on welfare; if she does, one or both of you will take care of her, so she can squander as she pleases. You are what god provides. I don't know. She's your sister! All you can do is be honest. Hopefully, you are worrying for no reason.
 
Hey! I resemble that remark! o_O
Believe me, please believe me when I say my stepfather is weird. Example: Sunday he can't find the cat's medication. All upset and stressed. So I find out it's been recalled to Costco after I called the vet Monday. I tell him I can go pick it up Tuesday and bring it over, doesn't work, he might go shopping. WTF? I thought you were so concerned about the medication. I'm taking it over Wednesday.
 

It's not the church she's donating to, although I'm sure she supports them as well, but more than a dozen Catholic charities. I am considering speaking with her parish priest, but I don't want to cause any rift between them. Her religion is her life and I'm not sure she could go on without it.
Talking to the priest won't help unless he can direct her to a support group. These charities are scams and will take all her money unless she has someone to support her in dumping the mail she's receiving from them, ignoring the phone calls, and not opening the door to strangers.
My mother got caught up in donations. It becomes a hornets nest for them. They can't refuse as they're made to feel guilty or selfish.
 
I only have a story to share with her...
It had been raining for days, and the river had flooded the streets. A man was standing knee deep in water on his porch when a boat approached.
" Get In"
"No I'm fine, God will provide for me"
The boat heads upstream and after a while comes back and the guy is now standing on his roof.
" GET IN!"
" I'm fine and trust God will provide for me"
A short time later a helicopter flies over and the man his clinging to his TV antenna with just his head above water.
They drag a rope around him begging him to grab ahold telling him the damn is about to fail.
As before, he replies " I'm fine and trust that God will provide for me"

Well the damn fails and he washes away and drowns. As he gets to heaven and meets God he cry's out in anguish... " Why did you forsake me?"
God replied..... I sent you 2 boats and a helicopter, what more did you want?"
 
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My guess is that giving away the money meets some need in her. What might that be? Perhaps you need to find a different way to meet that need.
 
When my dad died a couple of years ago at 93, he left the home and bank accounts to my sister; she was the one who cared for him in his last years and all the remaining family, including I as the executor of his will, thought it was the right thing to do. My brother who lives next-door to her in Florida, knowing that she trusts me and not-so-much him, recently asked me to talk to her because he was worried about her financial situation.

After examining her banking records, it became apparent that she has been giving a lot of money to religious charities, to the tune of nearly $60,000.00 in the last year alone. She is Catholic and apparently, they have been sharing her name and donation information among themselves for some time. Her only income is less than $600.00 a month in SS and a small amount of savings interest on what is left in the bank. If this situation continues, I fear that she will lose the house and be on welfare in less than a year.

She believes that God will provide and that as long as she has means, she must share what she has. I am not a stupid man but my pleading and sense fall on deaf ears. What am I to do?
First of all, you need to determine if she can do the math of her living circumstances.

Seriously - make her a budget based on all her bills and show it to her. See if she comprehends it. If she doesn't, call a lawyer for advice.
 


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