In Matters Of Romance, Do (Did) You Lead With Your Heart Or Head?

OneEyedDiva said:
In Matters Of Romance, Do (Did) You Lead With Your Head Or Heart? And how did that work out for you? I've always led with my heart and it hasn't always worked out well.
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There were times when I led with something other than my head or my heart. And, no, it didn't always work out when my head eventually caught up. These days, my head has to be there first; that's the only way my heart can truly follow.
 

Both! I was smart enough to recognize what a fantastic young man I was getting (at my age of 17 and his age of 19)! We were married June 10, 1957 and I was just graduated from high school, he was in the Navy. We are in our 80's now and to our surprise we are both still alive. We are still together and he is still a fantastic man! I am so glad every day, that I still have him!
 
mrstime said:
Both! I was smart enough to recognize what a fantastic young man I was getting (at my age of 17 and his age of 19)! We were married June 10, 1957 and I was just graduated from high school, he was in the Navy. We are in our 80's now and to our surprise we are both still alive. We are still together and he is still a fantastic man! I am so glad every day, that I still have him!
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my parents were the same age and my father also in the navy.
 
The old adage that "Love is blind" has earned itself blue ribbons in every decade of societal courtship. When emotions are allowed to stampede and trample the common sense of an otherwise sensible person, the result can leave one helpless. Often, we don't see things that should have been obvious to us from the very start. I have been there, and paid the price.

I am more cautious these days, and I try to remove the "love goggles" from time to time so I can make sure I'm not just seeing what I want to see. It can be hard to be objective when the perfume of love has you intoxicated. Fortunately for us seniors, we have a bit of experience under our belt, assuming we have done an autopsy on past failed relationships. Plus it has given us more time to get to know ourselves much better, and what we really want and value in life. I have admonished my heart (Emotions) to be sure and check with my head more often. We'll see if it actually works.
 
I find it impossible to think of leading with my head when it comes to romance. "Heart" only, otherwise it is just physical attraction or chemistry! That's okay with some but not with true romantics! I am the knight who tucks my love's kerchief into my armor before I joust. I am the troubadour who serenades the maiden on the balcony! In other words, hopelessly otherworldly! :love:
 

In Matters Of Romance, Do (Did) You Lead With Your Heart Or Head?​


My heart led
My head followed

OneEyedDiva said:
And how did that work out for you?
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This begets a little story;

Late sixties
I’m not quite twenty
Been passing for mid-twenties for some time, thanks to my ruddy Irish completion

Met what could be the lady of my life
Together for some months
‘Some months’ never happened before
Not intended
It just happened

Got a bit claustrophobic
Didn’t actually realize it, as I wasn’t in tune with feelings
I’d been thru wimin and wimin had been thru me at a rather short/fast rate

Needed to be free…er
Told her I was taking some time off, going on a trip with some guys
‘It’s an annual thing’

She didn’t say much
She probably felt the same way I did

Packed a few things
Grabbed my buddy, George, and off we went

Gonna hit the Pacific coast, about 1200 miles west
Time to drive….breathe

My heart was sinking, but my mind fought back
We were done
She won’t be there whenever I get back

I’d done this a few times before meeting her, and had a great time
Not this time

Grabbed George
Headed home

We normally took turns driving
I drove all the way
Straightened some curves

The only thing this trip did for me was show me who I needed, wanted more than anything

Got back into Houston
Dropped George off

Drove into the gravel drive of the garage apartment on Munger her and I both loved
It sat nicely nestled under the huge pecan trees
We’d lay under them, on the random edged lawn after dark, discovering chiggers

When I got off work, grime from head to toe, hard hat hair do, dried sweat, grease, and just plain filthy, I couldn’t even get outa the truck….here she’d come,
running, cutoff jeans, my shirt, tied at the waist, no shoes
…..and throw herself into my grubby arms

These thoughts crowded my mind as I threw my bag of clothes over my shoulder and trudged up the garage apartment stairs

I so missed her
My heart literally ached
Wonder where she is….
….who she’s with

Half way up the stairs a heavenly aroma enveloped me
Shrimp gumbo
I opened the door

My lady, my gorgeous, comely, lovely lady ran into my arms

That was over fifty years ago

Thru the various events of those years, that harden couples…..nothing’s changed

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The heart doesn't see things clearly ... emotions always cloud the reality of what's taking place around you. Once I learned that & relied on my head, things worked out as they should be. Friendship comes first & then love. I don't believe you can have one without the other. My one & only has put with me for over 30 years now.
 
With my heart as I have been married 3xs. The last time I thought I was being smart by living with him for 6 years before marriage but people can hide things and also change.
 

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