In your life, what has made you say, "what's the use?"

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fancicoffee13

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There are events such as a spouse who has passed on when you have done all the praying, caregiving, etc. for and still they went home. Then there are other times when things happen and life seems to lose ALL interest. But, then to give up and lose all motivation is not good either. So, please give some insight as to how to overcome losing all interest in life.
 

I tell myself two things:

1. "Life will always have good & bad times. We're supposed to get through the bad times & make the most of the good times."

2. "We're not designed to live forever...nothing is." That's why it's important to remember ↑
 
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Become part of something bigger and more important than yourself, participate without any desire for recognition or reward.

It won't solve all of your problems but it will help you to keep your own problems in perspective.

Good luck!
 

I worked at a local hospital for 27yrs as a pharm tech,I along with some co workers could never get a holiday week off because of seniority
In our dept, there were 3 other co workers who had been there the longest,they always got the holiday weeks off,Thanksgiving,Xmas&Easter.The rest of us could take days off first come first serve on the schedule
Over the yrs,trying to tell my family why I couldn't come for Thanksgiving was very frustrating.I kept telling them'whats the use in me explaining this every yr,I can't come' I gave up after that
When I retired 8 yrs ago,I made up for lost time by spending couple days with my brother&family at Thanksgiving,try&go there every yr Sue
 
When I was very young and I thought the hell would never end. But it did, I clawed my way out of the pit, and here I am. What worked for me was trying to give warmth and compassion to others when I so desperately needed it myself. That and having the unconditional love of animals to comfort me. The serene beauty of flowers help also. I no longer have family, have chronic CPTSD, the pit has swallowed me more than once in my later years, but the way out remains the same.
 
To me it is just to be appreciated, if you have no family left, but you have a pet, dog or cat that depends on you, you are appreciated.
 
Losing all interest in life seems kind of harsh to think about. Maybe visiting a place like the crippled children's hospital in Hershey PA. seeing kids in wheel chairs laughing & interacting with other children that will never run & play would help you realize that life isn't fair.


That is only one example, there are plenty more that might get you to look at the good in your life and decide what you feel now can be temporary if you compare what you are experiencing to the really horrible misfortunes of others.
 
Nothing has made me say "What's the use." It's synonymous with giving up. You pick a goal and say "I'm here, I want to be there, I don't know how I'm going to get there, but I'm going to get there." Then you just press forward. Even if you fall a little short, you're better off than before.
 
I wish I could help anyone with something as traumatic as the loss of a spouse but having lost my sweet wife 5 months ago, I am still struggling.
 
Thank you, Aunt Bea and Win 231. I do that already, I keep busy and serve community and church. That helps a lot.
 
I am so sorry to hear that, AZ Jim. I hope and wish you well, that doesn't help or do much. But, I do remember the first year after I lost my husband.
 
Yes, yes. I have seen people make the same bad choices over and over. But, what I turn to is praying for them forever. Or until my prayers are answered and they start making better choices. I am still waiting and praying. And I won't give up!
 
What makes me say “ What’s the use ?”
Nothing that I can openly talk about here.

What methods do I use to cope with it?

Since I have a mind that complicates things, I tend to need to pull back some to see the bigger picture.
Then I try and manage my life without my own self importance
I slow my life down by prioritizing it to my values
and start cherishing the simple things in life, like sitting alone in complete silence, walking in nature, reading spiritual inspirations. It helps slow and calm my mind down
I take some Rescue Remedy ( homeopathic remedy for anxiety )
Practice gratitude
 
Never have given a thought to ‘what’s the use’

So

I prolly have zero advice

But

I jus’ find life, people, nature so freaking interesting

Guess I’m just an observer
Can nay be helped

Ever day is a surprise, some pleasant, some odd, some devastating, some downright aggravating

But the pleasant ones seem to always outweigh those pesky aggravating ones
So, I tend to dwell on the weightier

And the devastating ones?

Well, one would have had to’ve had something/someone taken away that was mighty prized

Those prizes are gifts of yesterday/today…and hopefully tomorrow


In a nutshell


Seize the moment


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It can cause one to beam a genuine smile

It can nay be helped

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I have some hurdles facing me every day-health and financial problems that have seemed unsolvable and left me with feelings of despair. I just try to do the basics every day like keeping myself clean, working slowly towards resolving some of my problems as best I can. With my health I have thought "what's the use?" but try to eat better to give my body some positive effect. With my financial problems I am trying to do some positive things now to make them better-not sure if what I'm doing now is going to help me or not-it's scary, too, but at least working in the direction of overcoming the problems is what I'm doing and hoping so much for a better future. I have my little pets that keep me going every day to make sure they are doing well. I always tell myself I have something to live for and life can get better. I hope I'm making some sense.
 
Thank you, Ruthanne, that is what I normally do. Find something time consuming that will take my mind off of the present depressing thing. And sometimes I look forward to tomorrow, cause, I know that whatever it is right now, it won't be that bad tomorrow.
 
Keesha, you just reminded me of the walks I used to go for to clear my mind and look around at all I have to be thankful for. Walks are good and soothing. Thank you.
 
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