Introvert or Extrovert or a bit of both?

Treacle

Treacle

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I consider myself an introvert. I don't like socialising although I can meet on a one to one basis. Social chit- chat is something I find difficult to indulge in. I don't like being in groups and really prefer my own company. On a positive note I love to learn and can be in that type of environment surrounded by other people, where learning is the objective. I also prefer to be a listener and feel I'm helping others if they have a problem and need an ear. My happiest place is in the Library surrounded by books. In general I am content as an introvert but often people think that is strange especially if they are an extrovert. We are all 'made' different ☺
 

I'm right in the middle..Ambivert,. I prefer my own company, and revel in it, .. but I'm ''recharged'' by people.. and I'm very chatty... and friendly..., however I can only take a finite amount of people after a while, I've had enough.. I hate noise, but I can chat all day long...
 

hollydolly said:
I'm right in the middle..Ambivert,. I prefer my own company, and revel in it, .. but I'm ''recharged'' by people.. and I'm very chatty... and friendly..., however I can only take a finite amount of people after a while, I've had enough.. I hate noise, but I can chat all day long...
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I could'a writ this

Love one on one
But large pods of people? I can mix in, or leave 'em be
Crowds don't bother me one bit
Sometimes their effect on me is akin to swilling a pot of coffee
Other times, I move on
 
I’m an introvert, never been one of the crowd, and only ever see friends one at a time, always sit in quiet corners in restaurants etc.

I avoid crowded places, more so in recent years as tinnitus has affected my hearing
 
Hate parties - don't mingle well; Enjoy one-to-one, in-depth conversations; Prefer being home to anywhere else; Like my own company. Guess I'm an introvert. That being said, in 'work groups' of any sort, I'm generally the person put in charge. I'm a good listener, value fairness, and am not afraid to speak up. So, hmmm... 80% introvert, 20% extrovert.
 
Rosemarie said:
I'm definitely an introvert. One of the things that puzzles me in the current world is that some children are being diagnosed as autistic, when in fact, they have an introverted personality. They are made to feel there is something wrong with them, which is not the case at all.
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That should not happen! I'm curious as to what diagnostic guidelines they are using. Here, there are reasonably clear criteria for diagnosis - it takes much more than one symptom!
 
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I was watching an interview with Greta Thurnberg. She said she had been diagnosed as autistic because she prefers to be alone and has difficulty making small talk. As far as I'm concerned, they are not the symptoms of autism.
A child who is autistic is completely withdrawn and doesn't interact with other people at all.
 
HD on post 3
Need to be around folks about 2x a month, used to go to library, have two friends
on the staff. no long chats, mere phrases exchanged about this author or that author.
Once I'm chatted up, a steel trap descends on vocal cord, no more need for talking or socialization. back to the cave.
Chats are like gas in the car-needed, but conserve.
 
Heavily extroverted, onstage, big loner, introvert, when going about my daily life, EXCEPT when doing anything having to do with business and sales. If there's any kind of an audience, for any activity I'm into, yeah, I'm ON, like a light bulb! In a crowded room, I'm looking for ways to escape. I hate bars and clubs, unless I'm on a gig. Even as a kid, at parties, I'd find a good looking gal, give her the, "Let's get out of here," and go off to have fun with her.
 
Definitely introverted however I’m a musician and somehow I manage to do ok when I’m creating music for others. They seem to like it and I don’t have to say a thing. I dislike being around people but people do seem to like me . It’s just a personal preference to have plenty of space.
 
Rosemarie said:
I was watching an interview with Greta Thurnberg. She said she had been diagnosed as autistic because she prefers to be alone and has difficulty making small talk. As far as I'm concerned, they are not the symptoms of autism.
A child who is autistic is completely withdrawn and doesn't interact with other people at all.
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There is an autism spectrum from very functional to very withdrawn.
 
I refer to myself as a gregarious loner. On tests I almost always score very highly as an introvert. I really enjoy spending time around other people and being part of a group, but I also love my alone time. I am recharged by being by myself and doing what I want to do. My wife is the opposite and needs to be around others to be recharged and feel fully alive. It works well for us because we we're in group situations she does most of the interaction so that I can be somewhat withdrawn if I need to be.

I enjoy being in groups with a shared activity or goal. I can also be quite extroverted when I have a role or function to perform.

I really have to force myself to try to interact with other people at gatherings where I don't really know any or many other people. I'll usually hang around with the people I know at such events and probably come off as stand offish, conceited or too full of myself because I don't deal with then (the people I don't know) like I do with others (people I know.)

I'm very happy going places by myself and enjoying them without any interactions with the other folks who've chosen to be there as well. However I also have a longing for meeting people who are like myself and enjoy the things that I enjoy.

I think I usually see myself as an outsider who is not part of the group and certainly have never felt like I was cool or popular.
 
asp3 said:
There is an autism spectrum from very functional to very withdrawn.
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asp3 said:
There is an autism spectrum from very functional to very withdrawn.
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It's become fashionable to label people as having a mental health problem when in fact, there is nothing wrong with them at all. There have always been people who prefer to be alone. They were either thought of as simply unfriendly or an ascetic (someone who lives in isolation for religious reasons).
 

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