Invitation to dinner/BBQ with stipulation that everyone contribute with money for food.

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A person I know (friend of a friend) who is comfortably well off likes to host family and other get-togethers and dinners (not pot-luck). Everyone attending was told they would have to contribute money for the food. Would you go?
 

More than likely NO, it could end up costing you more than a good restaurant,Wouldn't it be classed as running a business if you are charging guests for meals ?
 
I've just been invited to a birthday party. The honoree requests "no gifts" but wants everybody to kick in $30 for the party, which is going to be in a nightclub somewhere and you have to buy your own drinks. I drink very little and am not a nightclubber. I just consulted with my crystal ball and I predict that I'm going to have some sort of 24-hour virus that will coincide with that date.
 

NO. I have never charged people to be guests in my home. Now should they want to bring a bottle of wine or a batch of cookies, that's fine.. But it's never requested or mandatory.
 
That is beyond rude. It amounts to merchandising her home and "hospitality". Obviouslly I would not only go but would taper off on my friendship with anyone who would do such a thing to "friends".
 
I agree with you all, I find it very offensive, but the family members of the 'hosts', went and paid.
 
Falcon said:
Are there REALLY people who do such things?
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Oh, yes. My friend was telling me that it was his cousin who did it this way, as had her parents before her. My friend was not happy about it, but didn't want to make a fuss, so he went.
 
We were expected to pay $2000 to attend My hubby' s sons wedding, we would have had to borrow the money, but the female stipulating the conditions didn't care. It wasn't hubby's sons idea
 
It wouldn't bother people who have money to "play with". They wouldn't call it "rude" or anything like that. If I had enough "zero's", with a big number in front of them, in my banking account, it wouldn't bother me.
 
Kadee46 said:
We were expected to pay $2000 to attend My hubby' s sons wedding, we would have had to borrow the money, but the female stipulating the conditions didn't care. It wasn't hubby's sons idea
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OMG you and your husband were expected to PAY to attend his own son's wedding?...what?..Good god, I've never heard of such a thing!! Did you go to the wedding in the end?
 
hollydolly said:
OMG you and your husband were expected to PAY to attend his own son's wedding?...what?..Good god, I've never heard of such a thing!! Did you go to the wedding in the end?
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No we didn't We could not afford to go Her parents were paying for wedding capped at $10.000 and we were expected to pay for the honeymoon.
Its strange, though Hubby"s Ex was not expected to pay anything because she has nothing, but because we have a home we were expected to pay up and shut up.

We had booked a motel room to attend, prior to being informed about the money they expected , and we were informed by her parents that they wanted the room for GUESTS and we COULD NOT have it We were ordered to bring our Caravan which would have involved a 1000 km return trip.

I put a huge tick on the invite, ticking the sorry unable to attend Box and posted it back to them ....
 
hollydolly said:
OMG you and your husband were expected to PAY to attend his own son's wedding?...what?..Good god, I've never heard of such a thing!! Did you go to the wedding in the end?
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I believe it is customary for the Groom's family to pay for the rehersal dinner ususally the evening before the wedding. AND sometimes the Liquor ie.. the bar bill. But I've not heard that they must pay for the honeymoon. Anyway... how sad for the son to not have his dad there at that very important day.
 

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