Is happiness really a choice???

In a way, it is. Your mental mindset is most of what determines if you're happy or not. If you're looking at the world negatively, you won't be as happy as if you look at the world with positivity.

In other words, don't let your brain become your worst enemy, sprinkle happy thoughts on it and watch it grow.
 
My perspective of MY HAPPINESS is that it is a state of mind. Circumstances can be anything or nothing particular. My focus in the moment is what spells out happiness. Strangely, when I think of or search for happiness I am actually not there. Either I am or am not happy. All or nothing. Stopping to analyze it or disect it to see if it has all its ingredients is not being happy. Happiness is simply a state of being. Either I am or am not.
 
Mr. Ed said:
Happiness varies from time to time and never identical to the time before. Best way to describe happiness is an elation of good and positive spirits. Is happiness a spirit or an emotion we are able to conjure up for ourselves? Is happiness ever evil in its making? Evil can reach a status of happiness in the misery presented to another.
Happiness is jovial, it can cause you tears as well boisterous laughter and sometimes both. Happiness is profound joy found and created by humans.
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I respectfully disagree, Mr. Ed. The happiness you describe seems almost manic, can lead to a deep plunge in mood when one is disappointed. Maybe happiness is the absence of misery, with an appreciation of that thrown in.
 
gruntlabor said:
I respectfully disagree, Mr. Ed. The happiness you describe seems almost manic, can lead to a deep plunge in mood when one is disappointed. Maybe happiness is the absence of misery, with an appreciation of that thrown in.
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My mood varies day to day, same with happiness. I donā€™t happiness well enough to claim it full time. Sadness is the state of being I am primarily associated with.
 
gruntlabor said:
I respectfully disagree, Mr. Ed. The happiness you describe seems almost manic, can lead to a deep plunge in mood when one is disappointed. Maybe happiness is the absence of misery, with an appreciation of that thrown in.
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Hard to say.

But if someone can be happy for days and then suddenly turn hostile and bizarre, and this cycle repeats like clockwork week after week... they may have bi-polar disease or some similar condition.
 
Wes said:
My perspective of MY HAPPINESS is that it is a state of mind. Circumstances can be anything or nothing particular. My focus in the moment is what spells out happiness. Strangely, when I think of or search for happiness I am actually not there. Either I am or am not happy. All or nothing. Stopping to analyze it or disect it to see if it has all its ingredients is not being happy. Happiness is simply a state of being. Either I am or am not.
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I think it's that way for most of us, isn't it? Either you ARE happy or you're NOT and you know the difference.
 
The king was unhappy, so he sent for his advisors. "How can I be happy?"
The advisors pondered the problem at great length, both spiritually and practically, and decided, "You must wear the shirt of a happy man."
The king smiled. "Find me a happy man!"
But he waited and waited as his good advisors searched and searched. Finally, he called for their presence. "Where is my happy man?"
They hung their heads, and the bravest said, "We found him, Sire, but he had no shirt."
 
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NewlySenior said:
In a way, it is. Your mental mindset is most of what determines if you're happy or not. If you're looking at the world negatively, you won't be as happy as if you look at the world with positivity.

In other words, don't let your brain become your worst enemy, sprinkle happy thoughts on it and watch it grow.
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That's what I'm talking about. We can control what we think about and how we think about and react to things in our lives. What we allow ourselves to think become our emotions, our mood and general outlook on life, our attitude. Don't under estimate the power of your mind, both conscious and unconscious, to shape and color the reality in which you live. That power belongs only to you.
 
Total nervous breakdown Thursday due to out of control circumstances, namely AccessARide. There is no way I can avoid dealing with them. I'm trapped. Having no control in a situation is not conducive to being happy. Acceptance is not happiness, and there are many unacceptable traps in our journey. Making "the best" of a rotten situation is not happiness.
 
Pepper said:
Total nervous breakdown Thursday due to out of control circumstances, namely AccessARide. There is no way I can avoid dealing with them. I'm trapped. Having no control in a situation is not conducive to being happy. Acceptance is not happiness, and there are many unacceptable traps in our journey. Making "the best" of a rotten situation is not happiness.
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I agree... and neither is smiling. I saw someone with the biggest (and obviously in hindsight, fake) smile ever a number of years ago... next day almost died from suicide attempt. A smile on a face means nothing to measure or indicate happiness. That AAR better stop messing with you, Pepper, or I'm gonna have to come up there an' "give 'em what for." šŸ‘Š šŸ˜ @Pepper
 
Pepper said:
Total nervous breakdown Thursday due to out of control circumstances, namely AccessARide. There is no way I can avoid dealing with them. I'm trapped. Having no control in a situation is not conducive to being happy. Acceptance is not happiness, and there are many unacceptable traps in our journey. Making "the best" of a rotten situation is not happiness.
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I'm not going to list for you all the things going on in my life which I could complain about or allow to rob me of my happiness, but I assure you I have plenty going on of what would do just that if I chose to dwell on primarily those challenges and not make a deliberate effort to acknowledge the positive aspects of my life. But, like I said, it's really all up to you - your choice. And I really am sorry you are having such a hard time with things right now. I hope things get better for you soon.
 
It should be noted, an unsuccessful suicide attempt is nothing but an attempt to attract attention. Everyone knows how to do it, successfully, but failed attempts are just people seeking attention.

I know this because when my brother succeeded in his suicide, there was no "attempt" about it. He blew his brains out. I scoff at suicide "attempts."
 
DaiwaGuy said:
For me, it's cats. I like that I must earn their love.
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That is so true about cats. I have had many over the years, each with it's own unique personality, and each one putting me to the test before he/she would accept me as worthy of its attention and affection. Cats won't have anything to do with a human being who doesn't show them the respect and appreciation they are due. Yes, I love all critters, but cats are special.
 
Choosing happiness does not mean that we expect to be happy all the time, or that we compare ourselves to others who seem happier than us. Happiness is not a destination, but a journey, and it can vary depending on the circumstances and the context. Choosing happiness means that we appreciate the joy and satisfaction that we can find in the present moment, and that we use it as a fuel to move towards our potential.
 

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