Is sleeping in separate beds the beginning of the end?

Mitch86 said:
I've been married to the same woman for 63 years. We sleep in twin beds positioned right next to each other. However, we had 2 kids, 6 grandkids and 3 great grandkids. However, we never ever kissed because I am afraid of catching germs. One does not need to mouth kiss at all as long as the sex organs can connect. After many decades we also do not have intercourse anymore. My sex organ does not respond for the last 30 years. I'm 88 and she is 84.
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Interestingly, I’ve met a lot of married people who have stopped having sex somewhere in their late 50s and 60s. Other than a few obvious medical issues, I don’t know why, and am reluctant to ask why.

I’ve found that by the fifth date, if I don’t bring it up they do. As one told me “Neither of us is getting any younger or sexier, so why wait.“. The other thing is that by dating women my age, there is no fear of a little surprise package nine months down the road. That has to be a big relief for both. To each his or her own.
 

Brookswood said:
Dog and other pets have no place in a human’s bed. They should be outside in a sheltered place where they are safe. Besides who wants dog slobber all over the house. Nasty.
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I agree with the first part, animals do not belong in our beds. For me it's about hygiene. It cannot be clean to have dogs in our human beds.
However, dogs need warmth and comfort same as us. So our dog has her bed on the stairs landing at night and another in the kitchen. She is perfectly happy there, never ever in or even on our bed.
 
Mitch86 said:
I've been married to the same woman for 63 years. We sleep in twin beds positioned right next to each other. However, we had 2 kids, 6 grandkids and 3 great grandkids. However, we never ever kissed because I am afraid of catching germs. One does not need to mouth kiss at all as long as the sex organs can connect. After many decades we also do not have intercourse anymore. My sex organ does not respond for the last 30 years. I'm 88 and she is 84.
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How very honest and brave of you. Each relationship is different and privately it is fine if both of you accept and understand each other.
 

Brookswood said:
Dog and other pets have no place in a human’s bed. They should be outside in a sheltered place where they are safe. Besides who wants dog slobber all over the house. Nasty.
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You are telling members how to care for their own pets? That’s nasty. Why would I leave my family members outside? People should care for their 0WN pets as they wish. Others should mind their own business.
 
My sister's husband has spent the last 6 weeks in hospital because of anxiety and sleeping problems. He is now back home so she suggested he sleep in the other room to give him peace and quiet like he had in the hospital. He refused to sleep in another room because he said, "I feel like a visitor in my own home". End of story.
 
oscash said:
My sister's husband has spent the last 6 weeks in hospital because of anxiety and sleeping problems. He is now back home so she suggested he sleep in the other room to give him peace and quiet like he had in the hospital. He refused to sleep in another room because he said, "I feel like a visitor in my own home". End of story.
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He needs the comfort perhaps of his wife beside him after being alone for such a long while. It is so important to be able to hold hands, touch feet, snuggle up warm. Your sister meant well and it's a good idea to talk about it and explain to each other.

I'm lucky my husband doesn't snore and it is so reassuring to have his presence and breathing next to me especially when I am unwell.
 
oscash said:
My sister's husband has spent the last 6 weeks in hospital because of anxiety and sleeping problems. He is now back home so she suggested he sleep in the other room to give him peace and quiet like he had in the hospital. He refused to sleep in another room because he said, "I feel like a visitor in my own home". End of story.
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That is horrible.
 
JMO ... sleeping in separate bedrooms seems like the beginning of separate lives.

That's how I would feel about it anyway. I always wanted/needed my husband's presence with me at night ... wouldn't sleep well w/o.
 
oscash said:
My sister's husband has spent the last 6 weeks in hospital because of anxiety and sleeping problems. He is now back home so she suggested he sleep in the other room to give him peace and quiet like he had in the hospital. He refused to sleep in another room because he said, "I feel like a visitor in my own home". End of story.
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Perhaps your sister can take over the guest bedroom. I wish they designed more homes/condos with two main suites.
 
DaveA said:
been s[eeping in the same bed since we married back in 1953. A little snoring here and there and a few illnesses over the years separated us for short periods but that's it. She doesn't want to get out of my arm's reach as she does love her backrubs.😊
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My mistake = = = we MET in 1953 but married in 1956.
 
Sometimes Ron will end up on the couch so as not to disturb me if he’s having a restless night. Occasionally I’ll sleep in the guest room if my back is bothering me..the harder mattress is helpful. . Other than that we sleep together in our queen sized bed very comfortably.

Both of us sometimes snore, but it’s light and easily interrupted. I only snore when so end up on my back which doesn’t happen often, but when it does he’ll gently roll me to my side and that stops it. He snores in any position, but getting him to move to a different one stops it.

We haven’t been married that long and I wondered how difficult it would be getting used to sleeping with someone again after 15 years of sleeping alone, especially because my prior marriage was so disastrous and I tried never to sleep with my ex. It was a surprisingly easy transition though!
 
Mitch86 said:
I've been married to the same woman for 63 years. We sleep in twin beds positioned right next to each other. However, we had 2 kids, 6 grandkids and 3 great grandkids. However, we never ever kissed because I am afraid of catching germs. One does not need to mouth kiss at all as long as the sex organs can connect. After many decades we also do not have intercourse anymore. My sex organ does not respond for the last 30 years. I'm 88 and she is 84.
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I've been thinking about your post. I think by never kissing, you maybe missed out on a most important aspect. I know of course you had your reasons. But may I say to me kissing has always meant far more than any other aspect of an intimate relationship. Kissing is real intimacy. It's such a shame to miss that aspect of a loving relationship. I hope you don't mind me saying this.
 

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