Just stood there and cried...

debodun

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Which is very unlike me. I am a pretty even tempered person, but lately it seems everything is fighting me. Anything I try to do, I end up hurting myself or making a mess.

This weekend I dropped a wooden pallet on my foot packing up the garage sale.

I get tangled up in my clothes and put them on inside out and backwards.

Then I had a cactus that rotted and was trying to dispose of it by wrapping it in several sheets of newspaper and still got stuck.

I tried to pour myself a cool beverage and the glass fell over and I poured the drink all over the kitchen counter.

This morning I was clearing out the weeds that had over-grown around the house foundation and when I got inside, I was covered from shoulders to shoelaces with little burdock-like seed pods of some plant. They were frustrating to try to pick off cloth.

Finally I got the garbage together for pick up tomorrow and couldn't even open new trash bags to use for the coming week. It's like there's no opening at ether end (like the plastic bags in the grocery produce). That was the last straw.

I am growling, throwing things that frustrate me and crying. The more I try to do, the worse it gets. It's like suddenly I'm physially incompetent.
 

debodun said:
I am growling, throwing things that frustrate me and crying. The more I try to do, the worse it gets. It's like suddenly I'm physially incompetent.
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The more I try to do, the worse it gets.
Stop Doing, but you can't because if you do you might realize you're having a panic attack. Moving is one of the most stressful things a human does, even under the best conditions. You, after 60+ years of living are finally moving into your very own home for the very First Time in your life. Of course you're a wreck. Take a deep breath, settle down, do Nothing.
 

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debodun said:
Which is very unlike me. I am a pretty even tempered person, but lately it seems everything is fighting me. Anything I try to do, I end up hurting myself or making a mess.

This weekend I dropped a wooden pallet on my foot packing up the garage sale.

I get tangled up in my clothes and put them on inside out and backwards.

Then I had a cactus that rotted and was trying to dispose of it by wrapping it in several sheets of newspaper and still got stuck.

I tried to pour myself a cool beverage and the glass fell over and I poured the drink all over the kitchen counter.

This morning I was clearing out the weeds that had over-grown around the house foundation and when I got inside, I was covered from shoulders to shoelaces with little burdock-like seed pods of some plant. They were frustrating to try to pick off cloth.

Finally I got the garbage together for pick up tomorrow and couldn't even open new trash bags to use for the coming week. It's like there's no opening at ether end (like the plastic bags in the grocery produce). That was the last straw.

I am growling, throwing things that frustrate me and crying. The more I try to do, the worse it gets. It's like suddenly I'm physially incompetent.
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Stop. Take a deep breath? Say your mantra if you have one. if not it might be a good to get one or write one. I wish I could help but can’t, except say, bless your heart, and hope things start improving immediately.
 
I think you're overworked too Deb, you're likely over-tired and just doing too much. Your body is getting weaker because of it, and it's stressing out your mind. Be careful so you don't hurt yourself, and don't sweat the small stuff like opening the bag, or spilling a drink....it happens to all of us. Give yourself a break and take care of yourself first.
 
I agree with others that this is a very stressful time.

I wish that I could tell you that things will get better quickly but I’m afraid that this emotional roller coaster will continue until you get settled and the existing house is sold.

Now more than ever try not to sweat the small stuff.

Things will get better when you can create a new routine in your new home.

Keep your eye on the prize, Deb!
 
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Maybe it's the multitasking you're doing.
Slow down and if something doesn't get done today you can do it tomorrow.

Just remember to make a list of what you need to do tomorrow.
Or, use post-it notes.

I'm the queen of post-it notes to put it mildly. I remember years ago,
I actually got written up at work for using too many post-it notes...geesh...there were only 8 :LOL:

 
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Sometimes a good cry is the best therapy. That cry released a lot of tension.

You’ve been in overload for weeks. So many decisions. So much work. Eventually it will ease up.

If you truly feel overwhelmed, contact a health care agency. Sometimes it takes a little bit of outside help to put things back in perspective.
 
Lots of good advice here Deb.

One thought that has always helped to calm me down when stressed is to ask myself "How much will this matter in a hundred years?" and mostly the answer is "Not one little bit". Then I take some time out and come back later when I am more composed.

If tears help, then have a good cry rather than bottling everything up.

Another mantra I find helpful is the old standby "This too shall pass". And it will. And things will get better.
 
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So sorry Deb, I noticed when a few stressful things happen in a row more is to come so get away from it for awhile. Do whatever you do that is relaxing for you.
Take a nap, a nice shower or bath get some ice cream and don't stress over what has happened so you get a good nights sleep.
Tomorrow will be a better day.
 
Slow down and engage in your tasks mindfully. Shut out everything else and just concentrate on the task at hand. If your mind wanders, keep your eyes still. When we're thinking too much, our eyes are active, so make a conscious effort to keep them focused. It's what meditators do to quiet their minds, and what we can do to become fully engaged. And if you do spill something, clean it up mindfully. It's all good.
 
@debodun It's really hard when you have to do everything by yourself. Believe me, I know. Perhaps don't do anything for a day or two and then take it a little slower. When things happen to me like that, I always think they only happen to me and no one else. And that's just not true.
 
Deb, once we're frustrated, our tolerance for frustration diminishes--so that anything that impedes our intended actions seems a bigger problem even if neither the intended task or the impediment is a 'big deal' in and of themselves. It becomes a kind of cascade effect where each new delay or issue seems much larger than it is.

You've got lots of good advice here, but more importantly this thread should tell you that there are people that feel for you, that care how you feel.
 
@debodun You really need to do down time......i know, you set sites for so much to do, not a bad thing......but.....you're driving yourself much to hard.
One person can do only so much. You're made great progress in a short time.
But
You are neglecting what " Deb " needs.
Please.....take a few steps back.....do some Deb time, ask for help.
Release your emotions....cry....do whatever you need to, to get relief.
Many have given you caring suggestions.
I know.....when you are alone.....you feel you have to do everything yourself, but try to ask for help.
Ease back and take care of yourself, Deb.
 
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@debodun You really need to do down time......i know, you set sites for so much to do, not a bad thing......but.....you're driving yourself much to hard.
One person can do only so much. You're made great progress in a short time.
But
You are neglecting what " Deb " needs.
Please.....take a few steps back.....do some Deb time, ask for help.
Release your emotions....cry....do whatever you need to, to get relief.
Many have given you caring suggestions.
I know.....when you are alone.....you feel you have to do everything yourself, but try to ask for help.
Ease back and take care of yourself, Deb.
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Like @MickaC said .. getting someone to help with the process would ease that stress somewhat. Too much for one person.
 

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