Just too much on my plate:(

I think it's hard being alone, without a mate, but I know when I was married it was hard as well because the men I picked just weren't able to let me be me. They wanted to fix, control, and manipulate. Not all men are like that I know, it was just my picker was broke. Maybe still is, but I've stayed on my own 18 years to make sure :lofl:
 
Never say never, just heard from a gal I went to highschool with and she met someone about a year ago, and they got married on the 24th. She was single many years too, and she told me she NEVER thought she would meet someone that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. But she was busy doing her biz (she is rodeo all the way, and her and her kids run a belt-buckle factory, and a dress-shop) came around the corner to help someone pick out a design/belt-buckle, and there he was;) They were smart though, dated a long while before gettin hitched;)
 
nwlady said:
I think it's hard being alone, without a mate, but I know when I was married it was hard as well because the men I picked just weren't able to let me be me. They wanted to fix, control, and manipulate. Not all men are like that I know, it was just my picker was broke. Maybe still is, but I've stayed on my own 18 years to make sure :lofl:
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20 years on my own for me. Third time was the charm...I won't try it again! The third one told me, when I wanted to do something that was really just for me, 'If you can't do it for me don't do it at all and that applies to everything!' (That's the very censored version.

I filed for divorce 3 days later and life has been much more peaceful even though there has been a lot financial difficulty along the way.
 
Hi Linda,

Wonder if we were married to the same guy?? LOL!! Well, I am not bad-mouthing the good guys out there;) But like I said, my picker was broke, and mostly because I was afraid of being alone. I'm not afraid anymore, well, most of the time;) It's great to meet another person that's been single a long time. I kind of feel like a misfit, but hey, there's at least two of us misfits, just kidding;) Denise
 
I don't think it's particularly unusual for women our age, really. I was afraid of being alone, too. I'm not anymore. No, they aren't all bad, there are lots of great men out there. I just seemed to be drawn to the bad ones. Sadly, for a long time after the split with that one, I was afraid of everything and now I don't even have any women friends. This forum has helped me a lot. I read the posts and know that I'm not alone and that maybe it is possible to find a life even at my age!
 
Denise, I have times like you are having.I call them my "sky is falling" days. Sometimes, it all piles up at once, I am overwhelmed, and out the window goes all my positive mental attitude.
I come from a background of "bad picking", too; and I think when our whole life is a battlefield filled with pain and fear, we learn to expect bombs to drop just anytime. Then, the panic just sets in, and rational thinking goes out the window.
You will be better, it just has to wear off. Try to deal with things a little at a time.
The Identity theft is already being dealt with by the IRS, since they sent you a letter, and know it wasn't you. Now that you have reported it to the police, they will be working on it , too; besides that, there is not a lot you can do about it yet.
What is going on with the computer ??
 
Gads Linda, we must have been separated at birth! I could have posted that last reply of yours;) Denise
 
Happyflowerlady said:
Denise, I have times like you are having.I call them my "sky is falling" days. Sometimes, it all piles up at once, I am overwhelmed, and out the window goes all my positive mental attitude.
I come from a background of "bad picking", too; and I think when our whole life is a battlefield filled with pain and fear, we learn to expect bombs to drop just anytime. Then, the panic just sets in, and rational thinking goes out the window.
You will be better, it just has to wear off. Try to deal with things a little at a time.
The Identity theft is already being dealt with by the IRS, since they sent you a letter, and know it wasn't you. Now that you have reported it to the police, they will be working on it , too; besides that, there is not a lot you can do about it yet.
What is going on with the computer ??
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Mornin Lady,

the computer is doing much better, and I have some good help from majorgeeks.com. I haven't been able to do a lot, download some programs like Bigfish, miss that. But luckily I can still get here;) hugs, Denise
 
kcvet said:
whats wrong with the PC ?? maybe we can help
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Thank KC, it's water-under-the-bridge, I hope. I never found a virus, so not sure what went wrong. All I know is I was finding broken links in my Programs & Features, and in a few other places. Then, my Firefox would not open, I can't remember what all went wrong. I'll have to look at my first post;) Oh yeah, it's under "Computers" section, not many answers, so I just kept googling until I found majorgeeks.
 
nwlady said:
Thank KC, it's water-under-the-bridge, I hope. I never found a virus, so not sure what went wrong. All I know is I was finding broken links in my Programs & Features, and in a few other places. Then, my Firefox would not open, I can't remember what all went wrong. I'll have to look at my first post;) Oh yeah, it's under "Computers" section, not many answers, so I just kept googling until I found majorgeeks.
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ok. we're talking on 2 different posts
 
oh yeah, the first thing I noticed was I couldn't upload a photo from my libraries, because they were just gone:( But luckily, they were all under the C drive.
 
nwlady said:
That's true to BD;) I do have friends online, especially here:) I would miss them so much:) I am getting out more now, even invited to a bbq at the place I puppy-sat 2 weeks ago;) All new folks to meet in person, that is a real switch since I have been stuck home for so long;) But I don't want to lose touch with folks here. It's a comfort to get up at 5 a.m. and know I will have folks to visit with while I drink my coffee;) hugs, denise
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Exactly! Nor should you. My "cyber friends" have been through so much with me, I cannot imagine just losing them in a flash of ill-mannered computer smoke. I don't know how long you've been making online friends before this board, but I have active friendships with people I befriended in 2000.
 
I have roomies but don't own the house, lovely house, every rented, room has it's own entrance, and there is a separate kitchen for the renters, 4 of us, 6 if you count the landlords son and DIL. My true landlord has been in Korea with his wife for going on a year. So his kids are basically my landlords, really nice, love them bunches. But the roommates are pains in the ass, young students, and used to mommy and daddy doing for them I guess. I am so fortunate to live here though, I need to remember that. After I turn 62, I am getting my own place, looking forward to that, but yet, I need to keep social, stay involved with folks, not just online either. I tend to isolate, and although I love my own space to come home to, I don't want to cut myself off from the world.

Denise;)
 
Are you in or near a metro? Because I cannot recommend meetup.com highly enough. It's essentially like community ed, I don't know if you had that, but we would get a quarterly paper saying "sign up here, and a bunch of is are going to the MN Zoo, or Como Park, or what have you." First you find a group that has similar interests, and then you RSVP for dinners, field trips; whatever.
 
I've actually tried to get a group going in this area, no, not metro at all:( There was a group, but I couldn't get them to "go" when I could go. Something will come up. I plan to move to our Oregon coast where there are lots of retirees. I will find things to do there, and there are more lakes where I can use my kayak, nearby lakes.
 
Nothing wrong with that if you are happy that way. I just wasn't is all. I was very social in school, and over the years, until I had some major troubles in 2006. Then something just snapped, plus the fact I was into Menopause too. Probably a combination of things.

But I'm glad you are living the way you want;) I can't wait to be in my own place, but having more things to do when the finances are better;) Denise
 
Figures, lucky bum, can I come live there? Kidding, I thought about relocating from Oregon but I would miss it bad. Well I did, I moved all over the US, even up into Canada for awhile (visit, not a move) Horrible hot up there where I was, Salmon Bar, geesh! And CA, geez, it never rains, and I love the rain, LOL!!
 
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