I have experienced a lot of what you've written too Jeni.... especially the twisting of words & the added BS to make me look bad... and you're right people are so wrapped up in themselves they're not listening when you're talking. I've experienced this many times in recent years... Take for example the Hairdresser..I know she talks to Dozens of people a day..but, she's working on MY hair, she asks me a question..I answer her.. she's not listening obviously because 5 minutes later she asks me the same question.. and I give the same answer... god help me, she asks a 3rd time..about 10 minutes later.. so I give a completely different answer. opposite to what I said before.. and she said.. ''oh yes you said before''... true story.... , and that seems to be typical of so many people..if they're not listening properly.. or they're willing to make their own BS to fit the narrative.. that's how it seems to be now..I no longer chose to talk deeply keep everything just an outline no real details. I once had people twist words and add BS to make me look bad backfired as they guess wrong details and the lie could not stand up....... but i saw even friends could do something like that.
With many people now ..... i noticed people near me are so wrapped up in themselves ..............they do not remember what anyone had told them... lol
Just yesterday the neighbor told me something thinking i might be interested........... but it was an item i told him long time ago ... not sure if someone else mentioned it and he just thought he would share with me.
I find it easier to chat online as @hollydolly referred to no one knows details or such about me.
That said I've had people do it here on this forum and others..jump in to attack when they're read a post of mine.. not read it properly.. twisted what I said , to try and make an attack on me.. despite the fact that Dozens, nay possibly hundreds of people have seen exactly what I wrote in the first place.. ...and can see these people have egg on their face,..it doesn't stop them