AZ Jim
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Kid blows college fund, Mom and Dad's fault!
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I apologize in advance to those who may be offended by what I'm about to say but I must say it: I'm not a religious person but I literally thank God every day (sometimes several times in one day) that I do not have
children or grandchildren. Thanks again, God! You're the best!
raying::thankyou:
children or grandchildren. Thanks again, God! You're the best!
raying::thankyou:
AZ Jim
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I apologize in advance to those who may be offended by what I'm about to say but I must say it: I'm not a religious person but I literally thank God every day (sometimes several times in one day) that I do not have
children or grandchildren. Thanks again, God! You're the best!
You're certainly entitled and there's no need to apologize! I, though, am glad I had two sons and have two granddaughters. Yes, they can certainly be a headache and suck up all your money, but to me it was worth it.
I would say that this young lady was not taught the value of money - and I agree it is the parent's doing. This should not deter anyone from having children. I thank the powers that be every day for my son, who although not perfect is the best thing that ever came into my life.
Shalimar
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I am so grateful for my children. I cannot put into words what joy they bring to my life.
Raven
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She was so very fortunate to be left money for college by her grandparents
and now she is complaining!
She needs to get a job and quick.
I am so glad to have a son and grandson. They are the lights of my life and worth
more than gold.
and now she is complaining!
She needs to get a job and quick.
I am so glad to have a son and grandson. They are the lights of my life and worth
more than gold.
Don M.
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I apologize in advance to those who may be offended by what I'm about to say but I must say it: I'm not a religious person but I literally thank God every day (sometimes several times in one day) that I do not have
children or grandchildren. Thanks again, God! You're the best!
We have wonderful kids, grandkids, and now...great grandkids. We are blessed that they are all turning out to be fine young people. However, I fear for the future that some of them...especially the little ones...will have if this crazy world continues to decline the way it has in the past couple of decades.
Grumpy Ol' Man
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I apologize in advance to those who may be offended by what I'm about to say but I must say it: I'm not a religious person but I literally thank God every day (sometimes several times in one day) that I do not have
children or grandchildren. Thanks again, God! You're the best!
Ma'am, I have no idea why you would offer an apology. Your life is YOUR life. Your beliefs are YOUR beliefs. One of our daughters and her husband could not have children. They decided to adopt. Our other daughter's next door neighbors are a couple who have chosen not to have children. What a wonderful couple and what good neighbors to our kids and grandkids!!! From what I've seen on this forum, you would make just as wonderful a neighbor... even sans kids!!!! :>)
Yes, I have a difficult time accepting lots of what I see in the current generation. Lack of work ethic... social skills destroyed due to being glued to digital communication devices... "entitlement" mentality... So glad our kids are grown and have their own families. I can be disgusted at some of the kids such as the young lady in the OP's link. Our parents and grandparents had their doubts about our generation. Shoot! Growing up in the '60's with the drug culture of that time, burning of bras, loose sexual morals, etc. But, ya know... We made it. And, so will this next generation. If each generation's challenges were identical, everyone would have a "play book" and merely follow the instructions given on their Smartphone. Each generation faces its own challenges and, thereby, learn from their experiences. This young lady will have some hard lessons in life before she... if she ever reaches a level of maturity that would include simple common sense.
jujube
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Parents of teenagers understand why some animals eat their young.
I have to say that I was very lucky with my daughter and granddaughter regarding work ethics. They both grew up understanding that they would have to exert a certain amount of work for anything they wanted and learned by the experience. For example, my daughter at 12 wanted a $66 pair of jeans....she could not survive without those $66 jeans. That was a lot of money in those days for jeans. I told her I'd pay $30 for a pair and she'd have to earn the other $36 dollars herself. So she and a friend went off to a nearly flea market and got a job dipping ice cream on Saturdays. She worked two Saturdays and ended up with about $40. I gave her the $30 I had promised and dropped them off at the mall to buy jeans. When I picked them up later, she only had a $5 t-shirt in her bag. I asked why she didn't buy the jeans and she said in a horrified voice, "BUT MOM! IT WOULD HAVE TAKEN ALL MY MONEY!!!" An "ah-ha!" moment indeed.....it would have taken all HER money. I think that was a lesson that all the lectures in the world couldn't buy. This is the same kid that was working at a health club at 14 and for a regional airlines at 16.
My granddaughter has also learned the value of a dollar. She's worked as many as three jobs at one time during school breaks and is now in her first year teaching school and is socking the maximum amount she can in her 401k. She's driving a 18 year old car and lives in a small one-bedroom apartment with her boyfriend so that she can pay off her very small school loan ($14,000 - thank goodness for athletic and academic scholarships or she'd owe $160,000 in college debts).
I watched my niece and nephew get everything handed to them on a silver platter and get rescued from every financial crisis/bad choice they were ever in/made. They don't seem to learn. One's 35 and the other one is 23. I don't see any improvement. I don't expect any either.
I have to say that I was very lucky with my daughter and granddaughter regarding work ethics. They both grew up understanding that they would have to exert a certain amount of work for anything they wanted and learned by the experience. For example, my daughter at 12 wanted a $66 pair of jeans....she could not survive without those $66 jeans. That was a lot of money in those days for jeans. I told her I'd pay $30 for a pair and she'd have to earn the other $36 dollars herself. So she and a friend went off to a nearly flea market and got a job dipping ice cream on Saturdays. She worked two Saturdays and ended up with about $40. I gave her the $30 I had promised and dropped them off at the mall to buy jeans. When I picked them up later, she only had a $5 t-shirt in her bag. I asked why she didn't buy the jeans and she said in a horrified voice, "BUT MOM! IT WOULD HAVE TAKEN ALL MY MONEY!!!" An "ah-ha!" moment indeed.....it would have taken all HER money. I think that was a lesson that all the lectures in the world couldn't buy. This is the same kid that was working at a health club at 14 and for a regional airlines at 16.
My granddaughter has also learned the value of a dollar. She's worked as many as three jobs at one time during school breaks and is now in her first year teaching school and is socking the maximum amount she can in her 401k. She's driving a 18 year old car and lives in a small one-bedroom apartment with her boyfriend so that she can pay off her very small school loan ($14,000 - thank goodness for athletic and academic scholarships or she'd owe $160,000 in college debts).
I watched my niece and nephew get everything handed to them on a silver platter and get rescued from every financial crisis/bad choice they were ever in/made. They don't seem to learn. One's 35 and the other one is 23. I don't see any improvement. I don't expect any either.
applecruncher
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My cat did something really cute this morning.
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Butterfly
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The girl in the article is a self-absorbed, entitled brat. She reminds me of the TV character of long ago (was it Maynard B.[or G.] Krebs in "Dobie Gillis"???) who always said "what???!! ME WORK???!!"
Warrigal
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I once read in a book that people like this student are in need of a Copernican revolution to help them realise that they are not the centre of the Universe.
My solution would be to take a break year from college, find a job that pays a reasonable wage and reapply later to complete the course as a part time student. She would then have work experience as well as a qualification and a sense that finally she is standing on her own two feet.
My solution would be to take a break year from college, find a job that pays a reasonable wage and reapply later to complete the course as a part time student. She would then have work experience as well as a qualification and a sense that finally she is standing on her own two feet.