Kissing before you go to work each morning(?)

grahamg

grahamg

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A ritual upheld during the seven years of my marriage was a quick kiss before we both left for our respective places of employment, (my wife's wish to follow this routine as I recall).

Cher once famously sang that "If you wanna know if his love is true its in his kiss" didn't she, and it is true that my soon to be ex's enthusiasm for the morning peck or kiss waned, again as I recall?).

My feeling is the "eyes" are where you're most likely to learn if someone is true, whether they show true/honest feelings, but the theme of this thread is people feeling about demonstrations of affection one or other feel means something, but maybe doesn't(?). :)
 

Always give dear husband a kiss on his way out the door. Have done so from day one.

My mom did with my dad, too.

After almost 40 years of marriage, the kiss I give hubby each morning is out of habit more than anything, a long-standing tradition/practice if you will, but it still holds meaning.

Edited to correct spelling.
 
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Proper research now:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/em...ouples-who-stay-together-do-every-day-0425185


"......., research identifies an important dynamic that healthy and emotionally intelligent couples exercise: turning toward one another. Turning toward is a subtle or brief positive exchange that helps to deepen a couple’s emotional connection.

When partners turn toward one another, they are practicing what a doctor refers to as “bids.” Bids are attempts to connect using affection, support, humor, or attention. These interactions can be verbal or nonverbal. A person may be aware or unaware of the use of a bid, which may look like any of the following:

  • A gentle touch
  • A hug or kiss
  • A smile
  • A kind remark
  • Listening
  • A playful gesture
  • A word of encouragement
  • Sharing a news event
  • Saying “I love you”
 
grahamg said:
Proper research now:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/em...ouples-who-stay-together-do-every-day-0425185


"......., research identifies an important dynamic that healthy and emotionally intelligent couples exercise: turning toward one another. Turning toward is a subtle or brief positive exchange that helps to deepen a couple’s emotional connection.

When partners turn toward one another, they are practicing what a doctor refers to as “bids.” Bids are attempts to connect using affection, support, humor, or attention. These interactions can be verbal or nonverbal. A person may be aware or unaware of the use of a bid, which may look like any of the following:

  • A gentle touch
  • A hug or kiss
  • A smile
  • A kind remark
  • Listening
  • A playful gesture
  • A word of encouragement
  • Sharing a news event
  • Saying “I love you”
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I’ve known people who split up / divorced after retirement and it’s sad unless one or both have been waiting for that time , and it’s so easy to just drift apart with no touching or simple peck

I honestly feel you have to keep the love alive by doing something together at least weekly , other than going to a club or pub for a meal ( I’d rather eat my own cooking ) it may be as interesting as going on a short weekend trip , if and when we go to the city ( Adelaide ) we usually stay in pretty upmarket suburbs with lots of trees and big gardens or parks , so we will take a walk together admiring gardens in homes and parks simple things in life.



We often walk along the beach at home cause we are only a 4 min walk from the beach

we are both on our 2nd marriage coming up 35 years together married 34 . As allot already know we both enjoy our time together by dancing once or twice a week( social ) ballroom.
 

The Kiss​

Grow to my lip, thou sacred kiss,
On which my soul's beloved swore
That there should come a time of bliss,
When she would mock my hopes no more.
And fancy shall thy glow renew,
In sighs at morn, and dreams at night,
And none shall steal thy holy dew
Till thou'rt absolved by rapture's rite.
Sweet hours that are to make me blest,
Fly swift as breezes, to the goal,
And let my love, my more than soul,
Come blushing to this ardent breast.
Then, while in every glance I drink
The rich overflowing of her mind,
Oh! let her all enamored sink
In sweet abandonment resigned,
Blushing for all our struggles past,
And murmuring, "I am thine at last!"

Thomas Moore
 
Love and marriage

"Still the question I must parry,
Still a wayward truant prove:
Where I love, I must not marry;
Where I marry, can not love.

Were she fairest of creation,
With the least presuming mind;
Learned without affectation;
Not deceitful, yet refined;

Wise enough, but never rigid;
Gay, but not too lightly free;
Chaste as snow, and yet not frigid:
Fond, yet satisfied with me:

Were she all this ten times over,
All that heaven to earth allows.
I should be too much her lover
Ever to become her spouse.

Love will never bear enslaving;
Summer garments suit him best;
Bliss itself is not worth having,
If we're by compulsion blest."

Sir Thomas Moore
 
Lying

"I do confess, in many a sigh,
My lips have breathed you many a lie;
And who, with such delights in view,
Would lose them for a lie or two?

Nay,--look not thus, with brow reproving;
Lies are, my dear, the soul of loving.
If half we tell the girls were true,
If half we swear to think and do,
Were aught but lying's bright illusion,
This world would be in strange confusion.
If ladies' eyes were, every one,
As lovers swear, a radiant sun,
Astronomy must leave the skies,
To learn her lore in ladies' eyes.
Oh, no--believe me, lovely girl,
When nature turns your teeth to pearl,
Your neck to snow, your eyes to fire,
Your amber locks to golden wire,
Then, only then can Heaven decree,
That you should live for only me,
Or I for you, as night and morn,
We've swearing kist, and kissing sworn.
And now, my gentle hints to clear,
For once I'll tell you truth, my dear.
Whenever you may chance to meet
Some loving youth, whose love is sweet,
Long as you're false and he believes you,
Long as you trust and he deceives you,
So long the blissful bond endures,
And while he lies, his heart is yours:
But, oh! you've wholly lost the youth
The instant that he tells you truth."

Sir Thomas Moore
 
Mrs. Robinson said:
Every morning when he leaves for work (lately,for some reason,at least two kisses),a kiss or two when he gets home and a kiss before we go to sleep. He is big on kissing (and hugging).
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Mine to @Mrs. Robinson i often get up half hour before my hubs ,and when he gets out to the kitchen / family room he will say where’s my morning hug .....and my reply is what he’s expecting “oh hurry up then I’m busy” 😀 😀 he will also give me a hug at the end of a nice dance
 
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