Life in general..

[Leah]

Here is my story . I grew up in a very dysfunctional family.My mother left all of us girls at the babysitters one day and never came back .She took our baby brother at the age of four months old and we saw him again at fifteen months old . I grew up with an abusive father who enjoyed hitting me with everything that he could get his hands on .

My grandparents built us a home and moved in with us and basically raised us .Life was hard for a very long time .You see I live with cebreal palsy and I walk with a limp this made me the perfect target for my father to belittle,beat anytime that he wished to .

At the age of seventeen I decided to find my mother and I did find her but this enraged my father and I was kicked out of the home and am now no longer part of the family on that side of the family. I have not seen my dad since that day nor do I want to ,nor do I see my sisters are brother at all .It's sad but true .

My mother has colon cancer since the age of 66 years old and I have just learned that my youngest sister whom want speak to me because of my dad has cancer also pancreatic cancer .It's hard knowing this and never knowing what's going on with her is very stressful and hard .but I pray for her and my mother too and try to have hope that some day she will want to speak with me .

At this time in my life family is everything to me the most important thing in life ..So I tell you my story simple,y to say tell your love ones that you love them each and every day because tomorrow is not promised ..Thanks for letting me tell my story Leah

 

[Sassycakes]

I'm sorry to hear what a hard life you had,and hopefully things are much better for you now. As a Mother now and a grandmother I will never understand how some families are,and the harm they can cause. I had one brother and one sister. My brother is gone now and I will never understand how he walked away from the family.We were all raised the same way,but for some reason he never really cared about me or my sister. People can be very cold and strange.

 

[Leah]

I'm sorry to hear what a hard life you had,and hopefully things are much better for you now. As a Mother now and a grandmother I will never understand how some families are,and the harm they can cause. I had one brother and one sister. My brother is gone now and I will never understand how he walked away from the family.We were all raised the same way,but for some reason he never really cared about me or my sister. People can be very cold and strange.

Thank you and yes some times life has other plans for us .But we get through it and move forward. I have a great husband beautiful children and grandchildren and I am blessed for that ..Leah

 

[Marie5656]

Sorry to hear your life has not been great. I just retired from a 30+ year career of working with people with disabilities, my last job was a 12 year job working as a habilitator with a lady with CP. She is much more physically involved with her CP than you, but I get it. It is sad when a parent or primary caregiver uses a disability as an excuse to belittle or abuse someone. The lady I worked with just finished writing her autobiography, as she is proud of how she has worked to live as independently as possible despite her challenges.
This forum has a great group of people, you will see you can feel free to be as open as possible with folks here. For the most part, I find this to be a judgement free zome

 

[chic]

Hugs Leah. Life isn't fair. My family is the most important thing to me. When all is said and done. Your blood is your blood.

 

[Iodine]

Thank you for sharing this Leah. Was your mother glad to see you when you found her? Did she ever say why she left you behind? Surely she knew you were being abused. This is all so sad but I know you appreciate your husband, children and grandchildren. I'm glad they are there for you. Now that your sister is facing death do you think you can send her a note or message through someone else, asking if she'd care to talk to you? Maybe she's changed. Also do these people live close to you or in another state or something?

 

[Leah]

Thank you for sharing this Leah. Was your mother glad to see you when you found her? Did she ever say why she left you behind? Surely she knew you were being abused. This is all so sad but I know you appreciate your husband, children and grandchildren. I'm glad they are there for you. Now that your sister is facing death do you think you can send her a note or message through someone else, asking if she'd care to talk to you? Maybe she's changed. Also do these people live close to you or in another state or something?

They all live in my home town Greenville SC. I have texted my sister via Facebook with no response but I heat that she's with my father often so no surprise from not hearing from her.as for my mother she was happy to see me then but we have had issues over years about the way she left us behind.as for why she did it because of the way she says my father treated her .Life goes on and yes I am grateful for my husband and friends and family without them I don't think I could of made it through it all back then .Leah

 

[Iodine]

Thanks for answering my questions Leah. It sounds like from what you've been through that you have a good head on your shoulders.

 

[Ruthanne]

They all live in my home town Greenville SC. I have texted my sister via Facebook with no response but I heat that she's with my father often so no surprise from not hearing from her.as for my mother she was happy to see me then but we have had issues over years about the way she left us behind.as for why she did it because of the way she says my father treated her .Life goes on and yes I am grateful for my husband and friends and family without them I don't think I could of made it through it all back then .Leah

So glad you made it through the storm Leah, you are a real trooper. I have had a sordid past I won't go into. It is too painful for me to lay it all for all to see and comment. I just hope your life will be better now.

 

[Leah]

Thanks for answering my questions Leah. It sounds like from what you've been through that you have a good head on your shoulders.

I think that it's made me stronger in life and more open to being kind of heart to others going through tuff times in there life's . I believe that me being the way that I am shows me who has a pure heart and who doesn't as I go through this life of mine ,if that makes since ..Leah

 

[Leah]

So glad you made it through the storm Leah, you are a real trooper. I have had a sordid past I won't go into. It is too painful for me to lay it all for all to see and comment. I just hope your life will be better now.

Thank you max if my story helps anyone see that family is most important thing in one's life and to appreciate what they have then it's worth it to put some of my story out there .Sorry for what ever you went through wish you the best now in your life..Leah

 

[Uncontrolable]

Tough story. Your father should have been reported to police immediately. The fact that he wasn't and your mother ran from the situation may mean that your father threatened your mother with harm, or even threatened you and your siblings with harm if she reported anything, or if she returned. I hope you haven't spent a lot of time feeling guilty about this. PTSD sufferers often feel like they caused the situation, or that they could not help. As a sufferer myself I understand this very well. Your father picked on you because it gave him a feelings of power and control. He likely confused the power with self esteem. What this means is that your father likely felt very inadequate and was afraid of losing control. There is nothing you could have done to change the situation outside of reporting it, or leaving yourself. Never beat yourself up because you weren't able to say I Love You. Never discount what is possible in the present or future. Most important do not be ruled by your past. Accept that it happened, treat yourself well and move into your future.

 

[exwisehe]

Sorry for all that's happened to you, but glad that you have risen above it. I will add you to my prayer list and send up prayers now.... praying...