Living Alone Should Be Temporary ONLY

Mitch86

Mitch86

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If folks live alone, they should always be on the lookout for someone of the opposite sex who is also living alone. Two lonely people can get together and never be alone again. I am married for 61 years now, BUT, if my partner died, I'd be looking for another mate. There is always someone out there who can be a companion to ease your loneliness if you agree to ease their loneliness.

By the way, we each cover a unique part of our joint existence. My wife is my caregiver, food preparer and home maker. I am the financial manager. We each fill weaknesses in the existence of the other.
 

I married my high school sweetheart at the age of 20 and will be married 35 years this year. Once one of us dies and if it is me who survives the longest, I do not feel I will not be completely lonely because I will feel I will have years and decades of memories to continue to look back on and those memories will make me smile everyday that I have left. I will still also have my daughters and my soon grandchildren in my life for the remainder of my life to keep me happy and to keep me from being lonely. I just don't feel anyone can replace the love of my life(my husband).
 
Mitch, too many men of your generation think the role in which you have cast your wife is the only suitable one for women.. just another housekeeper. If it works for you two, fine, and it seems that some women of that age are satisfied with that role.
I’ve lived alone since the last adult child moved out, and they are both grandparents themselves now. I’ve met some nice gentlemen friends during that time but no interest on either side about moving in together. And I’m not about to do anyone else’s cooking and cleaning except my own.
 
I have been a stay at home mother to my two daughters and housewife pretty much all through my married years although my husband had/has no choice in casting me into that role. That is a role that I took on and enjoyed my entire life. It is also not an easy life as well. My husband if I went to him today and said I want to start applying for jobs he would be all for it.
 
Husband's grandfather was widowed and later shared living accommodations with a woman who was in the same position. It worked for them. After she passed on, he went to a couple of senior's residences.

It may or may not work for everyone, but, it worked for them.

If I should be widowed, I would choose to live on my own.
 
This topic came up between me & husband only a few months before he died suddenly, no forewarning. When we asked each other that question, we shouted our answer, practically in unison!! NO, NO ONE IS GOING TO BOSS ME AROUND EVER AGAIN!

I was so flattered that he thought I bossed him! I never did remarry but it had everything to do with a decline in my health than anything else.
 
I'm content to walk these last few miles alone.

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Mitch86 said:
If folks live alone, they should always be on the lookout for someone of the opposite sex who is also living alone. Two lonely people can get together and never be alone again. I am married for 61 years now, BUT, if my partner died, I'd be looking for another mate. There is always someone out there who can be a companion to ease your loneliness if you agree to ease their loneliness.

By the way, we each cover a unique part of our joint existence. My wife is my caregiver, food preparer and home maker. I am the financial manager. We each fill weaknesses in the existence of the other.
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Why should we always be looking for someone of the opposite sex? Some people like the same sex for friendship or a sexual partner.

We are not all cut out the same as you. Some enjoy living without someone.
 
I am alone now for the first time in my life. I had to do everything I could to get out of a miserable marriage four years ago and I would never live with anyone ever again. I wish I had done it when I was in my twenties. I do though, have a relationship with a man who also lives alone. I told him right from the start that I will never live with him nor marry him and he understood. I think he actually likes it now. Having his own place and able to do what he wants.
 
Pepper said:
This topic came up between me & husband only a few months before he died suddenly, no forewarning. When we asked each other that question, we shouted our answer, practically in unison!! NO, NO ONE IS GOING TO BOSS ME AROUND EVER AGAIN!

I was so flattered that he thought I bossed him! I never did remarry but it had everything to do with a decline in my health than anything else.
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Unsure of what you mean decline in your health? Please explain
 
You're assuming that everyone who lives alone is lonely. I assure that is not the case. Many people are perfectly content to live alone, especially if the alternative is to be at someone else's beck and call.
One of the reasons I left my husband was because he enjoyed being an invalid and I knew what the future held if I stayed with him. Ironically, he is now living with his invalid brother!
 
Autumn72 said:
Point is not to get together with a bossy jerk.
Or someone who wants to play dead. No, I mean a mutual love to love each other and do couchless potato events as dating
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But you can do that and not get married or even live together. I go out with my bf often. He talks to me on the phone every single day. First thing he does when he wakes up in the morning is to call me. But he has a lot of friends and family so he does other things that I do not care to do. He is more social than I am. So it works out good for us.
 

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