Living alone, single or not, is not happening anymore for me.

fancicoffee13 said:
The details are: I had lived alone successfully and happily for about 4 years. I had prayed and asked for a husband but said I would be happy if He didn't want me to have a husband. Tom came into my life, he lived in the apartment building I did. I talked with him just as I do my other neighbors. He came over more often than I expected and he is quite a talker and so am I. We enjoyed each others company so much, I invited him in for a glass of tea. And I had dogs, he had dogs. After 4-5 months he popped the question. I said yes. The rest is history. Of course, we had the discussion about our passed spouses and us being seniors-the inevitability of our handicaps. We had both been caregivers. So, we got married. And very happy we are 2 yrs. later!
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Well, that is simply wonderful. Very happy for you both. ♥
 

fancicoffee13 said:
Maybe their experiences bring them to these conclusions. I leave well enough alone and just accept the fact that they are done, and really done! Judgement is left well enough alone. Really, because if you only knew, you wouldn't want to know-sometimes.
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Judgement is left well enough alone. Really, because if you only knew, you wouldn't want to know-sometimes.

Well said, @fancicoffee13
 
Gaer said:
Oh, There are MEN but I think my life plan (preplanned) now is to be alone.
I must toughen up because the years ahead will be hard I can do this.
Any man in my life would have to be pretty incredible and I refuse to settle
for a lesser man. I could only live with a man I honor and respect completely.
But, for those who have chosen to do this to combat being lonely I think it's wonderful.
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Incredible men might be hard to find. Bill Gates and Jeff Bozos are just too busy and just too rich. It's OK to reach for the stars but sometimes you have to accept only getting to the moon! Reaching only to the moon can still be nice. Better the moon than never having got off the ground.
 
Packerjohn said:
Incredible men might be hard to find. Bill Gates and Jeff Bozos are just too busy and just too rich. It's OK to reach for the stars but sometimes you have to accept only getting to the moon! Reaching only to the moon can still be nice. Better the moon than never having got off the ground.
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Ha ha! That's funny!
Money means nothing!
Intelligent! Spiritual! well-read, tender, robust, eloquent, confident, dependable, masculine, laughing eyes, rugged spirit, unafraid.
I have a whole list but most of all he has to have a tender heart.
I'm sure you're right! He probably doesn't exist! Oh Well!
Nope! Rather be alone than settle!
 
Packerjohn said:
Incredible men might be hard to find. Bill Gates and Jeff Bozos are just too busy and just too rich. It's OK to reach for the stars but sometimes you have to accept only getting to the moon! Reaching only to the moon can still be nice. Better the moon than never having got off the ground.
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Well I wanted, and prayed for more than the moon, and got the best!!!!!!! Dream big I always say.
 
Gaer said:
Ha ha! That's funny!
Money means nothing!
Intelligent! Spiritual! well-read, tender, robust, eloquent, confident, dependable, masculine, laughing eyes, rugged spirit, unafraid.
I have a whole list but most of all he has to have a tender heart.
I'm sure you're right! He probably doesn't exist! Oh Well!
Nope! Rather be alone than settle!
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Actually, there is nothing wrong with having a "dream guy" with a dozen or so wonderful qualities. However, there is always compromise in a relationship. So, if you can't find anyone with all 12 of those "must have" qualities, finding someone with just 8 or 9 of those features would still be a good deal. However, I tend to agree that someone with absolutely none of your requirements, just 2 legs, a filthy mouth and a bottle of beer in his hand, is a guy that you definitely don't want to know. Good luck!
 
fancicoffee13 said:
The details are: I had lived alone successfully and happily for about 4 years. I had prayed and asked for a husband but said I would be happy if He didn't want me to have a husband. Tom came into my life, he lived in the apartment building I did. I talked with him just as I do my other neighbors. He came over more often than I expected and he is quite a talker and so am I. We enjoyed each others company so much, I invited him in for a glass of tea. And I had dogs, he had dogs. After 4-5 months he popped the question. I said yes. The rest is history. Of course, we had the discussion about our passed spouses and us being seniors-the inevitability of our handicaps. We had both been caregivers. So, we got married. And very happy we are 2 yrs. later!
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Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
You have given me inspiration to do as you have to make a world of difference in a time as reality is.
Your outcome from your efforts proves that it's better to be naturally yourself with others without fear of the unknown day to day interactions of covid-19 instead of isolation even though your meetings was when covid-19 was not around then.
 
Autumn72 said:
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
You have given me inspiration to do as you have to make a world of difference in a time as reality is.
Your outcome from your efforts proves that it's better to be naturally yourself with others without fear of the unknown day to day interactions of covid-19 instead of isolation even though your meetings was when covid-19 was not around then.
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I am glad you liked my article. I never liked isolation. When I retired, those people I worked with were work friends and now I had go make up my mind to go out and find other friends. I also chose a senior center, they are a lot older than me, but I made some friends there and have known them for 9 years now. So, being yourself is really ok, even though some might not like it. I don't care, I will find someone who does. Keep on keeping on.
 
Gaer said:
...Intelligent! Spiritual! well-read, tender, robust, eloquent, confident, dependable, masculine, laughing eyes, rugged spirit, unafraid. I have a whole list but most of all he has to have a tender heart. I'm sure you're right! He probably doesn't exist! Oh Well! Nope! Rather be alone than settle!
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Make it simple.
Be lovable and then choose someone who loves you just as you are. Then love him as he is. Now you have the freedom to enjoy love without boundaries. You're free to love. A few necessary qualities are okay to desire, like a tender heart, but I'd destroy the long list of "must haves".

"Love keeps no record of wrongs".
No one has all the qualities on your list at all times. Keeping a list and not settling for less is just a set-up for failure.

"Love does not dishonor others and is not self-seeking".
I would write your list of qualities for the perfect man down on a piece of paper. Then I would let go of the list as it floats down the stream, or off into the ocean, or take a match to it and let the ashes blow to the wind. Or bury it.

It sounds dramatic but it will help you let go of your list as a whole...and know it's final.
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Lara said:
Make it simple.
Be lovable and then choose someone who loves you just as you are. Then love him as he is. Now you have the freedom to enjoy love without boundaries. You're free to love. A few necessary qualities are okay to desire, like a tender heart, but I'd destroy the long list of "must haves".

"Love keeps no record of wrongs".
No one has all the qualities on your list at all times. Keeping a list and not settling for less is just a set-up for failure.

"Love does not dishonor others and is not self-seeking".
I would write your list of qualities for the perfect man down on a piece of paper. Then I would let go of the list as it floats down the stream, or off into the ocean, or take a match to it and let the ashes blow to the wind. Or bury it.

It sounds dramatic but it will help you let go of your list as a whole...and know it's final.
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We love each other with these in mind. Working out great!
 

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