Living Your Life

There are those in my life who I love & am devoted to, but I'd be no good for them unless I took care of my needs first. And I am by no means a self absorbed, greedy individual about what I need. Just the basics will do. Once that is done, then I can give my time, love, energy and attention to others. So to answer your question Ina, I live my life for myself.
 
Lived my life for family. Got married at 18, so never experienced independence, tho I did run for local public office, which involved a certain amount of independence.
 
I'm very passionate, compassionate, and altruistic. Years ago I prayed for a servant's heart. I wouldn't say I've lived for others but I've always been available to help others and gone out of my way to help those I love and those in need.
 
I didn't win, but I came close, and was asked to run again, but refused. It was alot of work, and glad for the experience, but once was enough for me. :)
 
Misty said:
Lived my life for family. Got married at 18, so never experienced independence, tho I did run for local public office, which involved a certain amount of independence.
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Same here, my friend. Now though, I live for me, but family is included most the time..:D I am actually learning who I am, now, that I am on my own. I am not sure yet, who that is. Although I do remember my husband saying something about my independence, like it was a bad thing. ;)
 
Capt Lightning said:
I spent the first part trying to please my parents, the next part realising nothing would ever please them, and the rest pleasing myself and my own family.
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Pretty much the same. Although I think my parents were satisfied with my choices.

I mentioned in another thread about not enjoying my job over the years. Part of it was probably due to staying close to home to please my parents. I wish I had been more like my nephew. When he graduated from high school, he took off and headed to Colorado to pursue a career in the restaurant business. We all thought he wanted to just go out there for the skiing and having fun with his buddies. That was certainly part of it, but today he is in his mid 30's and is the owner of 3 bbq restaurants. Living his dream and doing well for himself.
 
I have always been me and never gone with the crowd. I have never intentionally set out to please anyone even as a kid, which certainly didn't please my mother! However my kids seem to think I did a good parenting job, and seem fond of me.
 
Vixenator said:
Same here, my friend. Now though, I live for me, but family is included most the time..:D I am actually learning who I am, now, that I am on my own. I am not sure yet, who that is. Although I do remember my husband saying something about my independence, like it was a bad thing. ;)
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It's really impressive how you have grown in being independent. my Friend. You have added so many accomplishments to your life, and I'm Very Proud of you!
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When my husband was alive, and my children were growing up, I mainly lived for them. But making them happy and seeing them thrive made me happy, so it was also "for me."

Now I've reached the stage of life where I'm responsible only for my own happiness. After 54 years of marriage, of course I miss my husband, but I've been surprised at how much I'm enjoying living on my own. Want to go on a trip? I do it. Want to eat a meal, or not eat a meal, go to a movie or a concert, or whatever, it's entirely up to me. So, much as I enjoy visits to and from my kids and grandkids, I am definitely living for me now.

I guess the answer to that very interesting question partly depends on what stage of life you are in.
 
I grew up as an only child, and one that was not even supposed to have survived; so I was very close to both of my parents; and my whole life circled around trying to please them. I think we all three did our best to take care of each other, in the ways that we could; so while I was not selfish, I was also living life for myself.
When I got married, then pretty much my life was living for my husband and children. But I never felt like this was a problem, or wanted it to be different.
After we were divorced, and the kids were grown and gone; I lived alone, and was enjoying that, too. No one to be responsible for but myself, and that was nice.
Now, I am remarried, but we live pretty independently, so it still works out fine.
 
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