Look at me, looking at you, everyone looking at each other, (a thread about our appearances!)

grahamg

grahamg

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Recently I've upgraded my appearance a tad, and just a few people have noticed and commented, and I do think maybe people start to take you a bit more seriously etc. 🕺

However, as a trait or attribute I'm never probably never going to be described as "well groomed", (so there we are!). 👨‍🌾

I have been told often enough how much we're all judged by our appearances, and my mother used to tell my father he was wrong if he believed "folks were not looking at him" when he went out, (though in his case he always wore his trilby hat at a jaunty angle as a sign he did take some pride in his appearance, though nothing like his father did I'm told). 🕵️‍♂️

Do I judge whoever I meet by their appearance, or by the "real you inside", (kidding myself I can see through their mere presentation)? :unsure:

All I can say is I suppose I do, more than I know perhaps, but its not the "be all and end all" is it(?). :rolleyes:
 

I think it's ingrained in us to almost our disadvantage to judge others by their appearances. I wish I didn't and have tried not to but even though I've progressed I still do, I admit it.

I have upgraded my appearance by getting a covergirl coverstick to cover my blemishes or flaws on my face. It has helped me in the way of not feeling as self conscious. I don't know how much good it really does tho.

But I don't even know if I'm still on topic and forgive me if I'm not.......
 
grahamg said:
Recently I've upgraded my appearance a tad, and just a few people have noticed and commented, and I do think maybe people start to take you a bit more seriously etc. 🕺

However, as a trait or attribute I'm never probably never going to be described as "well groomed", (so there we are!). 👨‍🌾

I have been told often enough how much we're all judged by our appearances, and my mother used to tell my father he was wrong if he believed "folks were not looking at him" when he went out, (though in his case he always wore his trilby hat at a jaunty angle as a sign he did take some pride in his appearance, though nothing like his father did I'm told). 🕵️‍♂️

Do I judge whoever I meet by their appearance, or by the "real you inside", (kidding myself I can see through their mere presentation)? :unsure:

All I can say is I suppose I do, more than I know perhaps, but its not the "be all and end all" is it(?). :rolleyes:
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We are human after all and first appearances count until we look for the "real you" within and that takes time!
 

Ruthanne said:
I think it's ingrained in us to almost our disadvantage to judge others by their appearances. I wish I didn't and have tried not to but even though I've progressed I still do, I admit it.
I have upgraded my appearance by getting a covergirl coverstick to cover my blemishes or flaws on my face. It has helped me in the way of not feeling as self conscious. I don't know how much good it really does tho.
But I don't even know if I'm still on topic and forgive me if I'm not.......
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Dead on topic, (100%!!!!).
I suppose it goes beyond clothes though doesn't it, to someone's smile, (or even their reluctance to show any smile when meeting you), and probably our body language, how were move etc. creates a big impression.
I remember going to the Davenport theatre in Greater Manchester, UK, to see a well known comedian. However, his support act was a young female singer, and arriving early I happened to catch sight of the back of her walking towards a rear entrance the stars used. There was something about the level of confidence, and no doubt fitness, this young woman possessed, and probably the "high" generated by performers in the build up to the show, well it made you realise you were looking at someone who was out of the ordinary!
 
Shero said:
We are human after all and first appearances count until we look for the "real you" within and that takes time!
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There is a song lyric of "We're all human after all" isn't there, (someone will perhaps remind us who performed the song perhaps).

I've an embarrassing tale to tell about my greenhorn behaviour as a young man looking for a girlfriend, where the point you made came up, but I'll save it for now, (to avoid derailing the thread!). :)
 
grahamg said:
There is a song lyric of "We're all human after all" isn't there, (someone will perhaps remind us who performed the song perhaps).

I've an embarrassing tale to tell about my greenhorn behaviour as a young man looking for a girlfriend, where the point you made came up, but I'll save it for now, (to avoid derailing the thread!). :)
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well, don't forget - I want to know!
 
grahamg said:
Recently I've upgraded my appearance a tad, and just a few people have noticed and commented, and I do think maybe people start to take you a bit more seriously etc. 🕺

However, as a trait or attribute I'm never probably never going to be described as "well groomed", (so there we are!). 👨‍🌾

I have been told often enough how much we're all judged by our appearances, and my mother used to tell my father he was wrong if he believed "folks were not looking at him" when he went out, (though in his case he always wore his trilby hat at a jaunty angle as a sign he did take some pride in his appearance, though nothing like his father did I'm told). 🕵️‍♂️

Do I judge whoever I meet by their appearance, or by the "real you inside", (kidding myself I can see through their mere presentation)? :unsure:

All I can say is I suppose I do, more than I know perhaps, but its not the "be all and end all" is it(?). :rolleyes:
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What did you do to upgrade your appearance a tad?
 
I think it’s probably some ancient survival instinct to judge or size up anyone that approaches us.

I’ve developed a miserable resting bitch face that I wear most of the time to ward off approaching strangers.

The only time I make an effort to really upgrade my appearance is when I go to a social function and then it just makes me feel more awkward than usual.
 
Shero said:
well, don't forget - I want to know!
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It wasn't much really, just saying to a very beautiful young woman at a night club "I think people should be judged by what was inside them", and she immediately pointed out, "How do you know when you first meet them "?
Perfect logic and sense, in the face of this fool's angst, (following the break up of my marriage). :)
 

Look at me, looking at you, everyone looking at each other, (a thread about our appearances!)​


For long enough I was one of those 'invisible' old codgers, so I decided to 'tweek' my appearance a little.
I think the bright green 'mohican haircut' and the Rudolph the Reindeer red nose helped. :)
 
timoc said:
I think the 'mohican haircut' helped. :)
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Now there's a sight!

What you wear can have an impact on others, depending on what you do. A manager for example, displays gravitas when dressed in a suit, collar and tie, with shoes highly polished. The staff know whose boss and the clients expect a professional to be suitably attired.

But if, for example, a truck driver turned up dressed as the manager dresses, it might cause smiles all round, there again the trucker could be an owner-driver so he's the head honcho too.
 
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Now there's a sight!

What you wear can have an impact on others, depending on what you do. A manager for example, displays gravitas when dressed in a suit, collar and tie, with shoes highly polished. The staff know whose boss and the clients expect a professional to be suitably attired.

But if, for example, a truck driver turned up dressed as the manager dresses, it might cause smiles all round, there again the trucker could be an owner-driver so he's the head honcho too.
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I was a managing director for a good many years with the expensive suit, collar and tie and shiny shoes, now, I dress to please me and just me, however, I did exaggerate just a teeny weeny bit with the haircut and the red nose. 😊
 
i was taught not to pass any kind of judgement on anyone until i'd had some interactions with them and/or observed them with others. My Dad agreed with Einstein's injunction to talk to everyone from University Presidents to the janitors the same, meaning with same basic human respect. Life experience of course taught me that sometimes people talk/behave in ways that will cost them some of my respect, not that it matters to them unless they come looking for favors of some kind from me.

Everyone gets same baseline respect, consideration, understanding from me until/unless they show they don't deserve it. So many people will tout the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Yet many of those same people get quite incensed if you treat them as they treat you and others.
 
Llynn said:
bluejeans and Carhart T shirts are appropriate for geezer activities. I got rid of all of my "fuddyduds" when I retired.
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Used some of my 'work clothes' from last job (HR at a University) until they wore out then replaces with jeans, t-shirts and flannel shirts (live in place with serious winters). Had to scramble to find something suitable to wear to Navy son's retirement function.
 
When I was growing up my mom would always say, "there is no need to be dirty everyone can afford a bar of soap." That is so ingrained in me that I do have a tendency to judge dirty and smelly people with hair that hasn't been washed or combed in a month.
Although today there could be many reasons for folks wearing dirty clothes.
Clothes can be tattered, worn and full of holes and it doesn't bother me at all.
Ill fitting clothes gets my attention. I don't judge them but do wonder why they are wearing clothes 3 sizes to small.

As for myself, I find I will go to the store in clothing that just a few years back I would never wear out but everything is clean and neat.
I still iron my blouses.
More than once I've said to my hubby on the way out to the store that I hope I don't run into anyone I know looking like this.
I guess its not to bad because he just shrugs.
 

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