Gene,Hi my name is Pat,not can I relate.
My hubby died in 2006 and I really didn't have a desire to date,I don't go to bars,don't drink at all,I have 2 left feet when it comes to dancing,pretty much an introvert with my 2 kitties,I am a Mom of 2 grown kids.
Anyhoo,a little over 2 years ago,I was asked out by this guy,who I knew from when we both were volunteers at a nursing home,he called,asked if I wanted to have lunch at the Italian restaurant,I said sure once we were seated he wanted to know if I wanted him to sit next to me in the booth,uuh,no,he immediately started telling me about his ex and how mean she was to him after they split(this was a girlfriend,he's never been married,we ended the lunch with asking me if I wanted a relationship which I said,if we take it slowly,no promises.
So,I friended him on facebook,he immediately sent friend requests to my kids and their spouses,red flag!
He started phoning daily coming up with ideas for dates,wanting to go with me to doctor appointments,help around my house,accompany me to stores,wanted to be involved with stuff with my kids and grandson(red flag 2)also kept dropping hints about moving in here,not...
It took me a couple of months to realize this
guy is mentally retarded,he can't write legibly,he can't read,if we went to a restaurant,he would order exactly what I did,not being able to read the menu,I guess,he has a driver's license which I can't figure out how he got,has a terrible tremor in his hands.
Around this time a year ago,I was trying to complete a difficult online transaction for my granddaughter and he was burning up my phone with calls to tell me,he had seen the ex while caroling at the nursing home and he didn't want me to hear it from someone else,I lost my shit and told him I was done.
He didn't take it well started calling non stop,pestering my kids on Facebook to the point where I blocked him on my FB,told my kids to do the same,I also blocked his number on my cell,which I quickly learned the phone won't ring but it's possible to leave a voicemail,aargh.He also says I love you non-stop and if I ignored him,he would answer himself,he also has a junior high type drama and carries on if I even mention another man friend,he touched way to much,he insists on kissing me which I don't respond to and has grabbed the boobies every so often,junior high style.
Sadly,I ran into him in the spring and I agreed to be friends,nothing more,well,as we well know doesn't fly,it's now back to the beginning.
He needed to go get food and he doesn't have a car so I agreed to take him,square one,stands to close,etc.
I am honestly considering asking my son,stepson and son in law to go have a chat with him.
Apologies for the length,just wanted to let you know I'm pretty much in the same boat
Have a peaceful night.
BTW,IMHO,she's after a meal ticket.
My creeper wants a family,he took care of his mom until she passed so has no kids,has a brother who really doesn't want anything to do with him and a sister who lives in Georgia who has a control freak husband,basically he wants to be "adopted"
Not happening!!!!!!!!
Good luck
