Man vs Woman and Aging

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I realized something today about how different a man and a woman accept they are getting older.
When I mentioned to my Husband that his birthday is only 8 days away. I wanted to know what he would like. I couldn't believe the look on his face. He said, "Did you have to mention my birthday !"
It confirmed what I always knew. Men don't like the fact that they are getting older while most women just accept it. What are your thoughts about who accepts getting older better, Men or Women?
 

Anybody here ever heard the joke about why Jewish men seemed to be smiling in their caskets? Come on goils this one is a giver.
 
We don't get too concerned about growing older....we're just happy to see another year. So long as we can remain fairly fit and healthy, and lead a normal life, "years" is of minor concern. The kids usually have a birthday dinner for us the weekend before or after our birthdays, and we've developed the habit of going to a casino to celebrate the arrival of another year.
 
I know it isn't it's just me (though it might be specifically men in my generation). I'm pretty sure most men on the downside of the hill ask themselves repeatedly "Did I do a good job?" Did I do right by my wife, my kids, my friends, my boss or business? Did I earn enough, spend too much, was I involved enough, say I love you enough? Was I strong enough, or did I miss something while I was being strong? Did I fail someone who depended on me?

And the worst part about that is knowing that it doesn't matter anymore because you no longer have the power to do anything about it.
 
Murrmurr said:
I know it isn't it's just me (though it might be specifically men in my generation). I'm pretty sure most men on the downside of the hill ask themselves repeatedly "Did I do a good job?" Did I do right by my wife, my kids, my friends, my boss or business? Did I earn enough, spend too much, was I involved enough, say I love you enough? Was I strong enough, or did I miss something while I was being strong? Did I fail someone who depended on me?

And the worst part about that is knowing that it doesn't matter anymore because you no longer have the power to do anything about it.
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Maybe not. However you can control what is happening in your life right now. And that is better than nothing.
 
I never minded getting older, and my husband doesn’t either. The one birthday that REALLY knocked my socks off was when our oldest son turned 50!!

I thought, “Really??? How can I possibly be the mother of a 50 year old??? Impossible!”
Then I looked in the mirror and thought “Oh ya...well guess not! 😂😂

that was a few years ago so I’m used to it now when I see these old men, who I call my sons, walking towards me đŸ„°
 
I think it bothers men when they find they can no longer do something due to their health. My boyfriend was a over the road truck driver and a race car driver and can't do either now. So it bothers him and I have been told he would get quite depressed till we got together. But health concerns for women are hard to accept also. Maybe it just depends on each person and what they can or can't do. Not a male or female thing.
 
I never thought much about it until I looked in the mirror one day and did not recognize me. Hahaha, okay sweetie, you are officially over the hill. Get on with it. My son who will be 55 this year looks 10 or 12 years younger, hasn't one gray hair and just a few crow's feet, loves older women. He did marry a girl 2 years younger than he, but he lost her 3 years ago. I don't recall anyone other than my youngest brother bellyaching about getting old.
 
Kathleen’s Place said:
I never minded getting older, and my husband doesn’t either. The one birthday that REALLY knocked my socks off was when our oldest son turned 50!!

I thought, “Really??? How can I possibly be the mother of a 50 year old??? Impossible!”
Then I looked in the mirror and thought “Oh ya...well guess not! 😂😂

that was a few years ago so I’m used to it now when I see these old men, who I call my sons, walking towards me đŸ„°
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I know how that feels. My son is 58 and when he hits 60, I'll probably have a strong drink or two.

I have obviously not hit my "expiration" date yet, but I have certainly passed my "best by ...." date and I will have to go with that.
 
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hollydolly said:
My husband says exactly the same thing. He never even wants a gift.. or any mention of it.....
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That's me all over. I can't speak for others, but there's no vanity involved in that I wish to look younger. For me, for a lot of men, I don't like having a fuss made of me.

On my 60th birthday, we were at a festival with many, many friends. my wife had a birthday cake made with an edible photo of me from a time gone by. There was much celebrating, the band played happy birthday, everyone made a big fuss. I kept smiling, thanked everyone, having an inkling that something was on, I had a short speech ready, made light of my age, a few jokes, the booze flowed and everyone had a good time. But inwardly I hated being the centre of attention.

What seems at odds with that is I enjoy celebrating someone else's birthday, just as those guests enjoyed celebrating mine, that's why I smiled, didn't be a party-pooper and hide away, but I still admit, I didn't enjoy it.
 
I very much mind getting older. Most men, in my experience, think they're Brad Pitt clones when that is so far from true.

But never let it be said that I cannot bury my true feelings for a celebration, gifts and joy. :giggle:
 
I read about a study recently, where they asked a bunch of U.S. guys, 60 and older IIRC, from all walks of life, what, now that they're getting older, mattered the most to them about how their life had been. And they asked the question in such a way, kinda slipping it into small talk, that the guys would answer quickly without having much time to think about it, and they said about 95 percent of the guys answered, "Work" or "my job" or "my career." 95 percent, that's the first thing they thought of.
 

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