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And 384,000 British men died in combat.
Many Women Will Never See Justice in This Lifetime
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hollydolly
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yes I'm very aware of that... that total was for British soldiers, I can't find a total for RAF and Naval personnel
70,000 civilians died in the bombing raids...
hollydolly
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I have no idea we don't have Craigs list here.. but regardless of whether people are single mothers or not you're always going to get gold diggers wherever you go...
Remy
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Wasn't it horrible. I read a book by one of the other student's and actually have a copy of the book this woman wrote. I found it at the thrift store. Her name escapes me right now. I haven't read it yet.
Remy
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I sure don't believe that. With the horrible Park Fire in Northern California still going, I have seen the trucks after trucks after trucks of Cal Fire, with whom I assume, are mostly men going up into the hills, out there in those horrible conditions fighting this fire and others.
My bio-dad was a dead beat who didn't care about me and the stepfather a provider but an abuse enabler. What I would not have given to have a dad.
My mother even bragged she never went after any of my bio-dad's military retirement. She f-ing didn't have to. She got someone who was stupid enough to marry her and had a good job.
carouselsilver
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- Eastern PA
I don't believe that anyone meant to trash the male species here.
I was a single mom, and I made my own way with my child. The state went after her father for child support, but they also said that if he paid it, that he was entitled to visitation rights. We had both barely escaped with our lives from his abuse, but they wanted us to endanger our safety in order to receive money from him. I had to forfeit the child support.
Yes, there is a lot that isn't fair, but somehow we survived it.
I was a single mom, and I made my own way with my child. The state went after her father for child support, but they also said that if he paid it, that he was entitled to visitation rights. We had both barely escaped with our lives from his abuse, but they wanted us to endanger our safety in order to receive money from him. I had to forfeit the child support.
Yes, there is a lot that isn't fair, but somehow we survived it.
gruntlabor
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Nobody is owed justice --there is no such thing except as a lofty ideal. To the children and the helpless we owe all the help we can give. And we have created churches and charities and institutions for that. Male or female adults who can't cope maybe should seek help, not justice.
Brookswood
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When will females be required to register for the draft?
Debrah N.
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- Alberta, Canada
Are you accounting for how many women get married, have kids and then their husband walks out on them? The way you say it, it sounds like you're blaming all single mothers for the situation that they find themselves in and that's not fair. My father walked out on my mother and left her with two small children to take care of. Never got a nickel of child support.
Debrah N.
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- Alberta, Canada
I don't think anyone is suggesting that most men are bad or outrightly evil.
That is so true. I remember those days. Expecting people to survive well without sufficient income and alone was one of the worst ideas ever.
Mobilman44
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A very wise manager I once had passed along two thoughts on the subject.
- No one has promised you that life would be fair.
- Justice will be served - eventually. You may never see it done, but that doesn't mean it wasn't. And justice isn't necessarily something physical or that you can see. It could just be something going on with in the person's head.
- No one has promised you that life would be fair.
- Justice will be served - eventually. You may never see it done, but that doesn't mean it wasn't. And justice isn't necessarily something physical or that you can see. It could just be something going on with in the person's head.
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By the way some of us define it, your mother was a divorced mother, not a single mother. When the term first became common it was a new way to say "un-wed mother." Only years later, after it started to become a way to praise women ("oh the waitress is a brave single mother I always tip her well") did divorced and widowed women start calling themselves that.
When my son was ten, I divorced his father and I left with nothing, no alimony, no child support, no furniture, no car. Just me and my minimum wage job. I never called myself a single mother. I had waited for marriage to have children and married in good faith. It didn't last but at least my son had a father he knew and had bonded with.
George1959
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Not in this forum I hope, but there are some very radical feminists who have this opinion.
IMHO we need to quit casting men as villains. Example being claiming that the majority of unwed mothers are "victims."
According to the CDC only 5% of pregnancies are the result of rape.
dilettante
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- Michigan
I honestly flat out do not believe that figure, which seems grotesquely high.
https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(96)70141-2/abstract
So 5% of rapes result in pregnancy. A far lower figure. Still tragically high.
VintageBetter
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Stupid Pledge of Allegiance we repeated every day in school. There was no dsclaimer that came along with it. That would be funny - teacher reads a warning every morning before the kids solemnly say the pledge.
The teacher says, “Disclaimer: the words in this pledge may or may not apply to all circumstances in This American Life depending on many factors including your gender, age, income, societal caste group, racial group, your disability status, mental health status, family name, religious identification, your physical strength, and whether or not you or your family can afford high quality legal counsel. This pledge expresses ideals only, not reality, and should by no means be interpreted as reflecting reality."
"I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all"
LOL.
How’s that? Tell those kids the truth, darn it. Don’t let them be lied to like we were.
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VintageBetter
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I cannot look at the unfairness of the whole world, which is why I have never wanted to be a foreign correspondent.
Do you know what the murder rate is in some parts of Mexico? You do not have to travel far to see highly dysfunctional neighbor nations. I am mostly regularly appalled at how unjust American society is, or my local society, because we were brainwashed otherwise for so many decades.
VintageBetter
Senior Member
I agree.
One thing that has been very odd to me locally is how many Family Law lawyers are female and CHILDLESS. If I were Queen of the World I’d would declare that any lawyer in Family Law has to have a child. They have NO IDEA of the workload children create, but they are negotiating for child support, usually with a man (ex-spouse) who also has NO IDEA of the workload that children create because his wife was doing 80% of that work.
So, that would be my rule: If you want to work in Family Law, you must have a child. If you don’t, go into other fields.
VintageBetter
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It's funny - in my region, women, moms, are far more likely to be cast as gold diggers (because the salary disparities between men and women’s work is so cavernous), and men are seen as the victims.
Go ahead - list famous, wealthy men society has cast as victims.
My #1 choice is always O.J. Simpson because he played that victim role so expertly for so many years.
Then go ahead and list single moms. You may not be able to because they are so busy working and doing child care they don’t have time to get their names in the news.
Also remember that just because something is a stereotype, repeated over and over again in the media, that does not make it a fact. When someone repeats a LIE over and over again that just means they might be good at selling bull-pucky. It still doesn’t make it a fact.
E.G. Climate change deniers repeated lies for 20 years. They are just lying. Lying for 20 years and will lie to their graves.
Paco Dennis
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I think that you got that wrong, very wrong.
Timewise 60+
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If they at some time "took them in" and then they walked away...they still own that mistake of making a bad judgement. It is not a question of fairness; it is just the way things sometimes work out. They should always use the legal system to even the score...as much as possible.