Marriage and Taking Spouse’s Surname?

I am ok either way. If it were up to me I would have people keep their names, taking the spouse's name is fine but not necessary.

My wife uses her maiden name at work and seems to use mine or the double name thing other times. Not recommending that approach, it can be confusing.

Have some friends both named Chris, she took his name when married, now they are both Chris XXX. Even more confusing...
 
Personally, I would not change my last name again if I ever found myself in that situation. I changed my identity once and I won't do it again.

What I am surprised at is how many young women I know getting married that are taking their husband's name. Both family and co-workers. When I was working I couldn't believe the numbers of women changing their last names. Sometimes they changed it in the company records before the marriage actually took place!
 
I took back my maiden name when I divorced my last husband. I have no intention of remarrying again so I will pass with it. I have changed my mind about a lot of social conventions over the years and that is just one of them. If I were to go back in time , I would not change my name at all - but it's what women did then - and I never even heard anyone question it. Over time I learned a lot about marriage and social conventions associated with it - and I grew somewhat resistant to many of them
 
If I had it to do over again, I would keep my original name. I quite like it. I'm not fond of my current last name. If my husband dies before I do, I am going to change my name back to what it was.

When we were getting our marriage license, my husband said he would not marry me if I didn't take his name. Oh, how I wish I had taken him up on that. I should have stood up for myself. Circumstances (not pregnancy) dictated that I had to take his name.

I am not fond of hyphenated last names -- too bulky. So I would have made sure that my husband understood that our children could change their last names with no guff from him. Meanwhile the kids all had his last name (of course), but he would not agree to have my maiden name all their middle names. I thought about doing that on the birth certificate forms I had to fill out, since my husband wasn't at the hospital when I was doing so, but decided that would be dishonest.
 
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