I apologise if I've said this already on the thread, but I used to discuss divorce etc. with my young daughter, (a subject she was fairly well versed on, and her views at ten were that what she had in regard to her relationships with her now divorced parents was "okay", but parents staying together might have been "better"!). When she used to put forward the view that if she were "unhappy in her marriage she would just get divorced", my comment in response was "Dont get married then"!
As far as I can remember the marriage vows I took included the words, "I take thee N.
to my wedded wife,
to have and
to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for
richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, and
forsaking all others keep thee only unto her/him ,
to love and
to cherish,
till death us do part,......."
I'd say that was a fair comment to make to my daughter, if marriage now means, "I take thee N. to my wedded wife, until you or I are no longer happy, and then I will not assign any fault to you, (and I will not accept any criticism or fault on my part), and divorce do us part, whether you or I are worse for it, or poorer, or ill, or no one better takes my fancy, and only until all those things are avoided will the marriage be expected to last until death"
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