Well, I am beginning to feel like I'm going crazy. I underestimated how difficult it would be to move to a new city alone at age 60. I've been here about 7 months, can't say I really like it but not sure if I need to give it more time. I haven't been really digging in to life here because part of me is wondering if I should go somewhere else.
I sold my apt. and left a place that was home for 20+ years because I really wanted to get out of there for many reasons. I had a couple of friends as well as a few acquaintances there. I don't really miss the area but am realizing it gave me stability.
I am very homesick for where I grew up and wonder if I should move there, but I don't really have anyone there anymore...my mother died a few years ago and I am estranged from my sister who is there. But that's where my heart is. I think some of the homesickness is yearning for what I had there and lost with loss of family.
Now I am feeling really ungrounded, partly from being alone and partly from being uprooted. I go round and round in my head about what to do and come up blank...give it more time here, go back to where I was most of my adult life and try to resurrect a life there, or go back to area where I grew up and like but have nothing but memories there. Nothing feels right.
I feel I've made a mess of my life now and worry that there's no place for me anywhere now. Can anyone relate?
Yes, I sure do. Feel like you.
I too have been 20 years in same state.
Also, wanting to go....where....
Your story is sure familiar in thoughts.
I am still in limbo, haven't taken the leap as you have.
However, I do think as you in every part
I too wondered of Hometown where all are estranged from me.
The word so far is ostracizing to the max.
Even though I have 7 sisters under me and one brother.
4 daughters minus one.
Even the penpals have deserted me.
Guess, I am that bad
There are reasons for everything, of course.
I'm at a point of ...is it shock?.....or a fish out of water....whatever it's mind boggling if you dwell into the deep ocean of why's, you can bury yourself in too deep and forget you don't know how to swim.
Why I long to move away somewhere else.......
As you and now you too are lost as ever, trying to find something lost and not knowing the road less traveled to finish this crazy race with finding humane interaction at a age no one wants to face the look and feel of it all the grandchildren
also cold too far removed from you
There has to be more somewhere, this desert is all too consuming some who are facing it alone without a partner to turn to. I believe causes one to feel less with too much time on your hands. No rule books, all hiding in shame or busy with traveling
Good Lord, have I dumped the can of worms all over the damn sidewalk!
Forgive me if I have offended anyone. For I do not mean to at all.
I'm waiting to find out too, the way to the happy fields of homelike the journey twhere it all went, is, has gone to, .must be another angle to this massive wave of no return. We were too busy to find out by the grandparents everyone avoided....hmmmm. 2 late now if only mom would had been kinder to her mother who died very much aline seems so sad that there is massive info for the young and mothers but nothing for us now.
8 have broke the barriers of staying too long at a POST. GRACEFULLY slipping away in embarressment...