Might help you you get some books by Maya Angelou too. OMG, that poor woman did not get much in the traditional family support stuff but she figured out how to make a life for herself anyway, probably thanks to her grandmother and her own great intelligence.
I have one of her most famous quotes, adapted by Oprah Winfrey is seems, taped to my wall:
"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time."
They have shown you who they are. Believe them and find support for this time elsewhere, even if it's only from God. And don't let their titles fool you. I have met even pastors and church leaders who were total *******s when it comes to actually HELPING others through hard emotional times. Lots of pastors are just businesspeople, IMO.