My Final Resting Place Is Paid For

STOP!! The topic is final "resting" place, not where your icky remains will be dumped, burned tossed or hidden. My final resting place is hopefully where my current "{resting place" is, my fabulous couch, second choice, my fabulous bed. After that, I will not offer any objections what happens.:nodisturb:
 
jujube said:
The Spousal Equivalent has it all in place. Plot reserved (it's his family's part of the cemetery so no cost there). He even has his stone in place. Yep, the stone is already there with his name and birth date. Just waiting to put the death date on it at the proper time.

Don't ask me what I think of this. I come from a "cremate 'em and scatter 'em somewhere appropriate" family.

We're heading out for his mother's funeral tomorrow morning. She's already had one funeral in the city in which she died and now there's another funeral at "home". Again, don't ask me what I think of this. What's more, both funerals were/are going to be "open casket". Truly, I beg you, don't ask me what I think of THAT......
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That has been the traditional American funeral ever since I've been alive.

Even though my son had an autopsy [because he was young and died at home]
and was not embalmed [so not available for public view] I was able to see him
one last time in his coffin. I am so glad I did because God had a very important
message for me there.

My son and I have a double plot with a gravestone there with his and my name.
 
I recently purchased my plot and my gravestone is being prepared as I write this. I am going to be cremated but didn't really want to be scattered (for fear that my ashes might mingle with my ex husbands since he will be scattered). This is a very windy state. I kind of like having my own "space" so to speak. I would love to see the looks on the faces of future grave diggers when they dig me up and find only ashes in the funeral home box, not even a fancy urn that can be sold. Anyway, my ex husband died earlier this year. He was only 69 and it was completely unexpected. Our daughter has been trying to deal with probate, locating his accounts, settling his accounts. He said he wanted to be cremated and scattered but gave no indication as to where. It has really created some stress for her so his ashes are still in a box on her mantle where they have been for six month. So my advice is to talk to your children and do as much pre-planning as possible, unless of course you want to make things absolutely miserable for your children.
 
I'm claustrophobic. I do want to be cremated but don't want to be in an urn. Of course, I know that my ashes won't be me, but nevertheless. Scattered somewhere. Not in the ocean. I do NOT like thinking about being in the depths of the ocean--cold and no sunshine or trees,. etc. I'll have to think about it.
 
Olivia said:
I'm claustrophobic. I do want to be cremated but don't want to be in an urn. Of course, I know that my ashes won't be me, but nevertheless. Scattered somewhere. Not in the ocean. I do NOT like thinking about being in the depths of the ocean--cold and no sunshine or trees,. etc. I'll have to think about it.
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I'm with you...NO scattering my ashes on water of any kind! I'm scared to death of water and never learned how to swim (I think I drowned in a past life...haha) and the kids know my wishes.
 
dkay said:
I recently purchased my plot and my gravestone is being prepared as I write this. I am going to be cremated but didn't really want to be scattered (for fear that my ashes might mingle with my ex husbands since he will be scattered). This is a very windy state. I kind of like having my own "space" so to speak. I would love to see the looks on the faces of future grave diggers when they dig me up and find only ashes in the funeral home box, not even a fancy urn that can be sold. Anyway, my ex husband died earlier this year. He was only 69 and it was completely unexpected. Our daughter has been trying to deal with probate, locating his accounts, settling his accounts. He said he wanted to be cremated and scattered but gave no indication as to where. It has really created some stress for her so his ashes are still in a box on her mantle where they have been for six month. So my advice is to talk to your children and do as much pre-planning as possible, unless of course you want to make things absolutely miserable for your children.
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Years ago when my mother asked my grandmother what she wanted for her burial arrangements, my grandmother said, "Do whatever you want with me, but DON'T bury me next to your father!" She was most adamant that she didn't want to be lying next to him for eternity. So we just had her name chiseled on the double headstone and scattered her ashes on her parent's graves in another state and also scattered them on the family farm where she was born and grew up.

My grandfather never gave my grandmother much peace when he was alive and I guess she was afraid he was never going to let her rest in death......
 
jujube said:
Years ago when my mother asked my grandmother what she wanted for her burial arrangements, my grandmother said, "Do whatever you want with me, but DON'T bury me next to your father!" She was most adamant that she didn't want to be lying next to him for eternity. So we just had her name chiseled on the double headstone and scattered her ashes on her parent's graves in another state and also scattered them on the family farm where she was born and grew up.

My grandfather never gave my grandmother much peace when he was alive and I guess she was afraid he was never going to let her rest in death......
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That's sad...and funny....at the same time. Hopefully, now, she's finally resting in peace :)
 
Olivia said:
I'm claustrophobic. I do want to be cremated but don't want to be in an urn. Of course, I know that my ashes won't be me, but nevertheless. Scattered somewhere. Not in the ocean. I do NOT like thinking about being in the depths of the ocean--cold and no sunshine or trees,. etc. I'll have to think about it.
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I read one person had her ashes mixed in with the food for her cats! I wonder if she thought about being in a cat litter box and then in to a garbage can.:)
 
Cremation for me and the hubs. The ashes of whoever dies first will be held until the other passes. Then our ashes will be commingled and scattered in some of our favorite places. Some in the ocean, some next to my Mom, GM and baby sister in my primary family's cemetery plot, and who knows where we'll decide we want other bits to go. No prepaid planning - there will be ample funds in our estate to cover whatever final arrangements and memorial event (or whatever) that our children choose.

p.s. I think the planet's land should be reserved for current and future generations rather than being occupied in perpetuity by those who have already had our turn here.
 
Congratulations to you who have taken care of your final arrangements, no matter the method. For those who haven't, hope you don't leave your loved ones (or whoever) scrambling to make arrangements. Muslims believe one must be interred but if that was not the case and I chose cremation, I would definitely want my ashes to be scattered over the ocean.
 
My wife and I prepaid the Neptune Society for our arrangements six years ago. And we've told everyone who matters that we don't want any type of service. Heck, if nobody knows I'm gone, it's like living forever, right? Ha!
 
My father bought cemetery plots, but both my sister and I moved to Florida. After our mother passed she was buried next to our father. My sister and I sold the remaining plots back to the cemetery. My wife and I have opted for cremation and our ashes are to be scattered in the gulf.
 
Being avid hikers, my wife and I have opted to have our ashes scattered in the mountains. When my granddaughter asked me how she would find our final resting place and spend time with us, I did not have an answer. She enjoys visiting grave sites of relatives. It makes her feel closer to her family.

After a lot of thought and discussions with other people opting for cremation, I created a public website so that the exact scattered ashes site of a loved one can be marked on a google map. Now my granddaughter feels much better knowing that she can always find us. And I feel better knowing I didn't let her down.
 
My husband and I prepaid for our creamations and cripts (sp?) so our kids won't have to make any decisions. All of our important documents are located in a plastic box in a specific location. It's a peace of mind for us.
 
I have $10,000 Life Insurance policy made out to my 3 children to pay for my burial. Don't know the ins and outs of what to do to set up burial info. I do not want to be cremated! (creepy, I want to be laid out in an unlocked coffin in an above ground private chamber with its door unlocked in case I want take a walk. lol) I've thought of "Natural burial"--wrapped in a cloth and buried in a hole in the ground somewhere in nature--as fertilizer. :)
 
Spouse did want to be buried in family cemetary. I said no I didn't want to be snowed on. He claims I don't understand the concept of 'dead.'
He has since changed his mind after buring his mom. He said don't you dare bring me here.

I want both of us to be creamated and turned into a Reef. I think having fish swimming around and through me would be the bomb! I'd connect the outside link on here but am new and don't know if that is 'undesirable.' Goggle living reefs.
 
I don't know where if my wife wants me near where she can go see me , a couple of Military people have asked me to have a military funeral, its already planed out except, where to put me., my friend George Bush, they stared final planning of his about more than a year ago, he's there now, with his wife.
 
My parents are buried in the same draw...Not in the ground....When my brother died we bought a draw above my parents...There is one more person who can be in the draw....

NOT ME!!!! I TOLD MY KIDS TO CREMATE ME....My sister in law lost her husband last year, she has the ashes in an urn in her living room....It was way to much money to bury....She said the kids

will do the rest.....Whatever they want....when she dies.....She has 3 girls married and they can sell the house and get the sale of the house....And any money she has in the bank....
 
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