My heart is so very broken....just got back from the vet.

CindyLouWho

CindyLouWho

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I wasn't going to post anything but I'm in so much emotional pain, I just can't stop crying.There is nothing they can do for my best friend. I know there is nothing to really say or do, I just can't lose him, can't do this. I don't want to go through this. He's been my best friend for 13 years and 8 months. I'm so terrified to lose him. This just sucks beyond belief. I know what I would say to comfort someone else, but my own advice isn't cutting it right now.
 

My daughter went through this last year when she had to say goodbye to a much loved member of the family named Precious. He certainly was well named. She grieved deeply. You will too.

For Christmas she received three silky hens and they are helping her to heal. She is besotted by them and they like to be cuddled.

You too will find a time to heal but don't hurry the grieving process. Wounds take time to heal; so do broken hearts.
 
It is difficult when we have to say good bye to a long time companion. Hope these words will help you through this time:

And God asked the canine spirit Are you ready to come home? I believe so, replied the precious soul My toys and bones can remain As a reminder of love and dedication

Can you come then? asked God Soon, replied the tail-wagging angel But I must come slowly For my human companions are troubled For you see, I am their best friend

But don’t they understand? asked God That you’ll never leave them? That your souls are intertwined. For all eternity? That nothing is created or destroyed? It just is…forever and ever and ever

Eventually they will understand, Replied the glorious dog For I will whisper gently into their hearts That I am always with them I just am…forever and ever and ever


 

Oh I'm so sorry for you Lindylou.... my daughter lost 2 last year in the space of 18 months and was horribly upset , and 2 more of her dogs have been given a terminal diagnosis by the vet this year , because they are all so old and now sick..although not in more pain than the drugs can manage ..

Nothing eases the racking pain of losing a constant companion and dear loyal member of the family, you can only spend as much quality time with him, and make the best memories with him until he leaves on his last journey to over the Rainbow bridge....and although you won't hear of it now, nothing takes the grief away faster than a new pet... you never forget , but it really works.
 
I'm so very sorry. I just don't get why they have such short lives. Just plain wrong! One of my dogs did live to 17 years (mixed mutt) and the last year I had to carry him around and he loved that. Shortly after he passed away, he visited me in a very real feeling dream. I was kneeling down and he ran to me from across the yard. He was no longer skinny but was full of life. He jumped into my arms where he slowly left. I think he knew how devastated I felt and just wanted me to know he was okay and would be waiting for me. I absolutely believe they will be there for us when we pass ourselves.
 
I'm very sorry CindyLou, hugs. Do you still have him home with you, or have you already said your last goodbye to him? What kind of a dog is he, and what is his name?

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CindyLouWho said:
I wasn't going to post anything but I'm in so much emotional pain, I just can't stop crying.There is nothing they can do for my best friend. I know there is nothing to really say or do, I just can't lose him, can't do this. I don't want to go through this. He's been my best friend for 13 years and 8 months. I'm so terrified to lose him. This just sucks beyond belief. I know what I would say to comfort someone else, but my own advice isn't cutting it right now.
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Make him as comfortable as possible
Hold him as much as you can (for both of you)

If he’s in great pain or obvious misery
You’ll need to have him put to sleep
In yer arms

I did this
Many years ago now

It was the sweetest of sorrows

You’ll never regret how you handled this regretful event

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thought sure I'd posted this somewhere in the forum

if so
forgive me

it begat the rhyme I created on the previous post

I’ll Never Forget My Best Friend

I was three.
He was a few months.
Neither of us had much to play with….but each other.
We never lacked.
He’d look up at me with complete unwavering trust.
Trying to read my face.
Ears perked up when I spoke.
Wherever I went, he followed.
He rapidly grew, and soon we were face high to each other.
We’d roam the patch of woods up the hill from our place, him guarding my every step, sometimes blocking my way when I got too close to the cliff edge. I didn’t know it at the time.
I’d take my naps nestled into his chest.
He’d lie there, never moving a muscle.

As I grew to boyhood, he remained a part of me, my shadow.
We’d wrestle….he’d let me win.

We’d hunt.

We’d fish.

Not that he took part.
He was no hunting dog.
Just my companion.
We’d share lunch.
He’d listen to my every word, as we sat on the creek bank.

Years passed.
I got very busy, but not so busy that we wouldn’t still roam the woods every so often, even though he had a bit of a time keeping up.

The day came when he just didn’t get up.
I was sixteen.
Mom told me to take him in to the vet.
‘He’ll be able to fix him up.’

I gathered him up and laid him in the passenger’s seat of the pickup, right beside me, and we had one of our conversations while I drove the twenty miles.
It had been awhile.
Too long actually.


I sat on the stool beside the exam table, while the vet did his thing.
Once again my best friend and I were face high to each other.
The vet was talking with my mom.
He handed me the phone.
It was time.
He had to be put to sleep.

OK, I brought him in to get fixed up, and now he’s going to be put down….just like that.

I was told I had to leave the room.

Like hell.

The vet did…..something. I don’t recall.

I held my bestfriend’s face with both hands.
His ears perked up as we had what would be our last conversation, telling him the reality.
Then I just cradled his head, holding it to my chest, not moving a muscle until, feeling his last breath against my heart, he went to sleep.

Even though the wipers were going, I had a hard time seeing through the raindrops on the way back home.




……..I’ll never forget my best friend

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CindyLouWho said:
I wasn't going to post anything but I'm in so much emotional pain, I just can't stop crying.There is nothing they can do for my best friend. I know there is nothing to really say or do, I just can't lose him, can't do this. I don't want to go through this. He's been my best friend for 13 years and 8 months. I'm so terrified to lose him. This just sucks beyond belief. I know what I would say to comfort someone else, but my own advice isn't cutting it right now.
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My heart breaks for you, Cindy. I know the pain and helplessness you are feeling and I wish something could be done to save your precious friend. We lost our little dog, Harry, on May 26 and there has been a hole in my life since that day. He was only 9 years old but had cancer and his kidneys failed a couple of days before he was scheduled for his tumor to be removed. He was my little heart and I miss him so much.

I know that your pain is deep. My heartfelt sympathy to you.
 
I feel for you cindylou and pray for you to be comforted. I'm without words because I know how hard this is. Peace and love be with you from friends and family.
 
Always tough to lose a pet. My labx is 9 years old so I know his years are numbered. But he has given me a lot of good years of companionship as I hope I have for him. It won't be any fun when the day comes to say goodbye, but my quality of life has been far better with him.
 
I can only say I am so sorry. I have been through this so many times in my 80+ years I don't have the heart to do it again. I hope the best for you.
 
CindyLouWho said:
I wasn't going to post anything but I'm in so much emotional pain, I just can't stop crying.There is nothing they can do for my best friend. I know there is nothing to really say or do, I just can't lose him, can't do this. I don't want to go through this. He's been my best friend for 13 years and 8 months. I'm so terrified to lose him. This just sucks beyond belief. I know what I would say to comfort someone else, but my own advice isn't cutting it right now.
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My heart goes out to you. It's so hard to lose a loving and beloved pet. Let yourself cry.
 
So sorry, Cindy. I'm glad you decided to post because it's obvious you are surrounded here by other animal lovers who understand your sadness and loss. Even though there will always be a special place in my heart for all my pets that have passed, Pappy is right, it does get better with some time. My heart goes out to you.
 
Thank you so very much for all your support and stories of your beloved pets, it really does help. My sweet Beagle is still hanging on, he is so incredibly strong. He has Liver cancer that has metastasized, an Enlarged heart and Bradycardia, his heart is only at 25%. I'm pretty tired with worry and keeping him comfortable but grateful he is hanging on. Like some of you wrote, we know when we get a pet that it's inevitable we will have to say goodbye at some point it doesn't make it any easier when that time does arrive.
Thanks again for all you caring words:love_heart:
 
It doesn't make it easier when it's time to say your final goodbye, hugs to you and your boy.
 

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