My husband is a mess.

PamfromTx

PamfromTx

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My husband needs a hearing aid and does not want to get his hearing checked. I have tried to get him an appointment... to no avail.

He can't hear me and misunderstands me more often than not.

Here's the funny story:

He enjoys taking a daily walk in the early evening hours and has met a few 'walkers' and their pets. He is in love with a basset hound. The woman told my husband the pup's name. Hubby comes home after meeting this beautiful pup and tells me he met, "Pamela". I was so excited that a pup was named that.

Well, during the second time he meets these two on their walk, hubby calls out to, "Pamela". The woman looked at him and told him her pup was not named, "Pamela", but rather, "Donatella". Hubby said he turned beet red and excused himself and continued walking.

He hasn't seen Donatella since that day; hope the owner doesn't think my hubby is nuts; because he isn't. He just can't hear.

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Gary O' said:
@PamfromTx

Has he got one good ear, or one better than the other?

I've got one decent ear
Can't hear diddly squat with the right one, save that pesky ocean wave noise
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Both are troublesome, one more than the other. He is reading my lips now... most of the time. :oops: I guess, we will have to learn sign language since he refuses to wear a hearing aid.
 

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I also have serious problems hearing. I only can understand what men with deep voices are saying.
I don't understand a single thing women say.

If I could make a suggestion ?
If you got him a cell phone that translates speech into a printed text, he could use a phone like hearing people. In other words, you or anyone else could call him and he'd see your words as text.
Any deaf center could fix you right up.

I realize this is only a partial solution but it would make his, and your, life better.

PS: This service is free in some states.
 
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My grandmother refused to wear one, she would take it out, throw it on the floor and it would become a cat toy.

I cannot get hubby to even go get tested let alone wear one. He can hear the tv but it has to be loud. Loud enough for the neighbors to hear. Good thing he is not into dirty movies.....that would be embarrassing.
 
PamfromTx said:
My husband needs a hearing aid and does not want to get his hearing checked. I have tried to get him an appointment... to no avail.

He can't hear me and misunderstands me more often than not.

Here's the funny story:

He enjoys taking a daily walk in the early evening hours and has met a few 'walkers' and their pets. He is in love with a basset hound. The woman told my husband the pup's name. Hubby comes home after meeting this beautiful pup and tells me he met, "Pamela". I was so excited that a pup was named that.

Well, during the second time he meets these two on their walk, hubby calls out to, "Pamela". The woman looked at him and told him her pup was not named, "Pamela", but rather, "Donatella". Hubby said he turned beet red and excused himself and continued walking.

He hasn't seen Donatella since that day; hope the owner doesn't think my hubby is nuts; because he isn't. He just can't hear.

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Have you asked him why he doesn't want a hearing aid? I am trying to get my older son interested in getting one. It is a time-consuming process and there are many different audiologists out there and most push to have you buy from them. Cost is a big factor and there there hundreds of different types of programming for hearing aids and the added extras can make it a major purchase. Making an appointment with an audiologist is the first step. Someone needs to be with them every step of the way. BTW I did convince my younger son to get one (especially for his part time work) and he wears it when he goes.
 
Murrmurr said:
I'm where your husband's at. Michelle has asked me to get my hearing checked. I don't want to.
My argument?...Why can't everybody just speak up?

She's asked me to get my vision checked, too. Why can't they just make the words bigger?
There's nothing fine about fine print.
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Ya sure, everyone can speak up but when it gets to the point that you need everything LOUD then it can be a problem. You are missing so much when you can't hear (in my experience) and the benefits outweigh all the times you missed things that people said. Sigh...I wish I had done something about my hearing a long, long time ago.
 
My hearing is still good but every once in a while I miss a word or misunderstand what someone says. It usually sends my thoughts in an entirely different and inappropriate direction.

I would encourage anyone experiencing hearing or vision loss to have it checked. Even if you choose to do nothing other than a little watchful waiting you will have an idea of the cause, treatment options, out of pocket costs, possible outcomes, etc...
 
PamfromTx said:
Both are troublesome, one more than the other. He is reading my lips now... most of the time. :oops: I guess, we will have to learn sign language since he refuses to wear a hearing aid.
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Reading this has triggered an "aha" moment with me. I have noticed that I can't hear people nearly as well when they are wearing a mask. Even the paper kind. Especially the younger people. I wonder if I "read lips" when people speak and didn't even realize it. I think looking at someone who is talking is a big help in "hearing" what they are saying.

I do not want an argument on masking. I am just making an observation on my experience. I wonder if this is the same with others?
 
PamfromTx said:
My husband needs a hearing aid and does not want to get his hearing checked. I have tried to get him an appointment... to no avail.

He can't hear me and misunderstands me more often than not.

Here's the funny story:

He enjoys taking a daily walk in the early evening hours and has met a few 'walkers' and their pets. He is in love with a basset hound. The woman told my husband the pup's name. Hubby comes home after meeting this beautiful pup and tells me he met, "Pamela". I was so excited that a pup was named that.

Well, during the second time he meets these two on their walk, hubby calls out to, "Pamela". The woman looked at him and told him her pup was not named, "Pamela", but rather, "Donatella". Hubby said he turned beet red and excused himself and continued walking.

He hasn't seen Donatella since that day; hope the owner doesn't think my hubby is nuts; because he isn't. He just can't hear.

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I don't think you can force him into it Pam. Donatella is a strange name to many seniors, so the owner probably didn't think he was nuts, maybe just a senior with hearing problems or a bad memory.

The bad thing is that his poor hearing may harm him or someone else someday, when what he hears may be important. Doctor's instructions, emergency vehicle or train while driving, etc. Good luck with him, maybe it will take some more embarrassing incidents for him to wake up and take action.
 
SeaBreeze said:
I don't think you can force him into it Pam. Donatella is a strange name to many seniors, so the owner probably didn't think he was nuts, maybe just a senior with hearing problems or a bad memory.

The bad thing is that his poor hearing may harm him or someone else someday, when what he hears may be important. Doctor's instructions, emergency vehicle or train while driving, etc. Good luck with him, maybe it will take some more embarrassing incidents for him to wake up and take action.
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I have discussed all that you mentioned to him. Perhaps, he will succumb ... soon.
 
I put off getting mine for several years but have never regretted finally buying them. My entire family had hearing problems and did nothing about it. My dad would say he didn't want to go around with a button in his ear.

In later years my mom and dad would sit in dead silence in a restaurant because they didn't want to yell in a public setting to be heard.

My only problem is the price.

I didn't get the best which allows for better hearing when with a large group of people.
I will be going to a wedding this week and I know I'll never be able to figure out where the voices are coming from. Occasions like this don't come up very often so I didn't think it was worth the extra thousand for that feature.
I'm on my second set and next time I will really take the time to shop around only because of the price, but I will never go without aids again.
 
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