My name isn't "dear", "dearie" or "hon"

Had an experience today. *as a reminder, I am 69. I was in the grocery store, waiting in line at service desk. Another customer , a man about my age (or younger) came up behind me. I did a polite head nod, you sometimes do with a stranger. His response...."Hello, young lady, how are you". Now, like others I really do not like terms of familiarity from strangers. For some reason, I took offence at the Young Lady remark. Lit into him that I was NOT a young lady, I am 70 and please show respect. He got all offended and started saying he did not mean any disrespect etc.
Granted, I was a bit cranky, and did not really feel like waiting on customer service,,,the customer ahead of me was taking a VERY long time. And only one clerk. I just told him to leave me alone.
 
Most people just call us Miss Rae or Mister Ray and it seems to be accepted by others with Miss or Mister with their first names and sounds kinda nice to me.
 
Rae said:
Most people just call us Miss Rae or Mister Ray and it seems to be accepted by others with Miss or Mister with their first names and sounds kinda nice to me.
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Yes, I was raised never to call any elder by his/her first name. It was Mr. or Miz, or if they were close family friends, they could be called Aunt or Uncle so-and-so using their first name. But times change.
 
See, even seniors have triggers.
Maybe people should wear a nameplate with the acceptable ways to address them?
There are enough things to worry about than how people greet you.
When some people with social issues make derogatory comments about me, I have one response;

"I've been called worse, by better" Sometimes they get it, other times I leave them scratching their head.


Boundaries don’t keep other people out, they fence you in.
 
gruntlabor said:
Yes, I was raised never to call any elder by his/her first name. It was Mr. or Miz, or if they were close family friends, they could be called Aunt or Uncle so-and-so using their first name. But times change.
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Same here. And to this day, at 76 years old, I still put the word Cousin in front of their names when I address two cousins who are a few years older than me.
 
Sassycakes said:
I don't care what anyone calls me as long as it isn't B---h
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Well, let me think about it. As a non native speaker in English could it have been 'bit.ch'? :ROFLMAO: This word is most often used even in my country by young people for young women. For example: "Look at all the bit.hes here!" It has become a loan word.
 
George1959 said:
Well, let me think about it. As a non native speaker in English could it have been 'bit.ch'? :ROFLMAO: This word is most often used even in my country by young people for young women. For example: "Look at all the bit.hes here!" It has become a loan word.
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But here in the U.S., it's rude. Although not in some circles.
 
It doesn't bother me at all. And I can't understand why some people dislike it. They are being polite. Nothing more. I get called hon, dear, in stores. Doesn't bother me at all. Especially if it is a young woman or any other woman for that matter. I'm older now. When I was younger and in stores, women cashiers never spoke like that. After all, they wouldn't want a younger man to get the wrong idea. I have been working in nursing homes for years. Nurses and CNA's have always spoken to residents like that. It's a sign of friendship and understanding. In all of these years, I haven't seen or heard of not even one resident complain about it. Not one.
 
Leann said:
I don't get rankled easily but lately I've noticed that young women have started calling me "dear", "dearie" or "hon". Case in point, I was paying for some groceries last week and as the cashier was giving me my change, she said "thanks, dear". Later the same day I had a similar instance where another person called me "hon". I realize I'm not a young chick but I must be an old hen to these younger people. I don't mind if someone calls me "ma'am" but the other names ... no. It sounds insulting to me.

Have you encountered anything similar?
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Yes, I just let it slide right on by. I don't think anything of it. Now, if it was something slang, that's different.
 
Hi Mz Fani .....that was ment funny. ..... :ROFLMAO:
I get sort of tired of long names, say Roger William Rondelet. RWG sort of works ,ROG. Would he rather be called RWR or awr. He'll say if he don't like it. So Mint, Doll, Mary Braden (Mare's Breath) (MB) is how I am. ..... (y) ..(n) .....
 

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