My Neighbors Sit Under My Window To Spy

Lee

Lee

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Location
Chatham, Ontario
I was aware they do this and generally close the windows when they are outside. And they do have a big enough yard and a deck so there is no need for them to sit in such close proximity to my house.

Another neighbor repeated something to me that she could have only heard through them. I had a conversation yesterday with my cousin about moving and she asked me about it. No one else was privy to this conversation.

When they first moved in we did talk but after awhile I found they give me the creeps and I want to be polite but distant. I never initiated conversations, and made excuses to excuse myself when trapped.

This resulted in them going to another neighbor who they know I am friendly with to ask this person why I was not talking to them. Then to add to it they confronted the handyman doing some work on our house. Both people felt as if they were put on the spot.

Don't laugh, it's not funny, but I have thought of discouraging their behavior by turning on the computer to either a porn site with moans and groans or perhaps to an evangelical Christian broadcast.

Think they might get the message?

Suggestions welcome.
 

I am sorry for your situation .... this type experience IMO is why some people do not want to engage with many neighbors.
so many people make assumptions and fill in the blanks as they create gossip to share among others....
so doubt any specific broadcast or sounds will help your situation...
I once aware a near neighbor tried to overhear or insert herself into conversations etc...
I just loudly announced ........"how sad it was she had such a small life she needed to think she was connected or spy on others "
she avoids me and my property like the plague.
 

People here think they know about me too. Yes they watch with binoculars and sneak around at night. I am tired of caring. Damn gossips. None are worth the time of day. The things I came upon when I used to walk my dog were definitely creepy as well. Right now I am staying here because it is cheaper than moving, but I often have comforting thoughts about burning stuff down. Yes I know this is wrong but it makes me feel better and I admit that if stuff actually caught fire I'd feel even better. Clock is tickin'.
 
Sounds like your neighbors need something to do... Spying on most people is pretty boring.
Lee said:
I have thought of discouraging their behavior by turning on the computer to either a porn site with moans and groans or perhaps to an evangelical Christian broadcast.
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I suspect that might make you an even more interesting target for spying... Kinda like the idea though, perhaps you could alternate, something for everyone that way.
 
Jules said:
You could also talk about the affair that husband or wife is having. No, I wouldn’t do that. It just seems so tempting to play with them.
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Oh yes, it is tempting. But as much as I drool at the thought of really giving them something to make their eyes pop something just tells me it is a bad idea.

You just get bad vibes from some people, I am not alone in this, others have said the same.

But give me a suggestion or two.....they play with my mind, tit for tat :ROFLMAO:
 
Run up and tell them you are now selling life insurance and you are dying to explain the benefits to them.
or,
Run up and ask loudly if they have found Jesus.
Follow Pepper's advise: Ask if they can hear everything all right. Won't that embarrass them?

Seriously though.

When I have a problem with a neighbor, I walk over and talk to them. Ask if they can move from
hearing distance from your conversations because it makes you uncomfortable. You cherish your
privacy. If done in a nice way, I think they may back away.
 
Back in our 20's we'd visit a friend who lived in an apartment. Her unit was next door to a nosy, busybody apt. manager who stood at her screen door, listening to us & watching everything.
We started giving her something to listen to. We pretended we were a gang of drug dealers, we left home-made marijuana joints in front of her door (made from cigarettes), a few pills, & also made sure she could hear us discuss how to get rid of a competing drug dealer.
After that, she kept her front door closed & stopped listening. :ROFLMAO:
 
Lee, These are all funny responses but you don't want to cause any MORE animosity.
You're a lovely lady. Show your graciousness.
Bring them homemade cookies or something and compliment them a few times.
Start a conversation about the weather, anything, to set an ambiance of cheerfulness.
Bring up the subject that their sitting under your window, listening to your private conversations
bothers you, but don't confront them. Just mention it casually, in a friendly manner.
Tell them how important your private conversations are to you.
Do this at a time when you are not angry. You can softly ask them not to do that anymore.
Thank them for understanding your feelings.

I think this will work.
 
Gaer said:
Lee, These are all funny responses but you don't want to cause any MORE animosity.
You're a lovely lady. Show your graciousness.
Bring them homemade cookies or something and compliment them a few times.
Start a conversation about the weather, anything, to set an ambiance of cheerfulness.
Bring up the subject that their sitting under your window, listening to your private conversations
bothers you, but don't confront them. Just mention it casually, in a friendly manner.
Tell them how important your private conversations are to you.
Do this at a time when you are not angry. You can softly ask them not to do that anymore.
Thank them for understanding your feelings.

I think this will work.
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They would get real angry and defensive as most guilty people would do and deny it to the end of the earth.
 
My worry is feeding the trolls which essentially is what they are. However, they do sound creepy and these freaks can and do make stuff up. Went through this myself with that house I owned. I was also essentially run out of the place and sold.

I don't know what advice I have because often there is no dealing with these people. They will lie, project and deflect. There is no true, honest conversation.

I may be wrong Lee, but do you live in a mobile park? I may have you mixed up with someone else on the forum who posted a picture. If you do, is it all ages or senior.
 
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