My son is missing

911 said:
Ronni———Is there anyway you or the police could get his picture on the local TV network news shows? Now is the time to do it. It’s been over 5 days, so this is now a second stage missing person case as we would label it. I have also had luck with billboard companies willing to donate an empty board to put a missing person’s picture on it. I would really try to get his picture out there.

Is he on any special medications? That can also be important. Check where he gets his refills and ask if he has had any of his meds refilled lately.

I would try to get his picture out there.
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Here on our news they have silver alerts for adults missing,What about missing persons posters too , you could ask to put them in store windows just any place people may see them I sincerely hope he comes home soon!
 

Oh Ronni,what a terrible thing for you to have to go through. As a mom whose son was troubled for several years(late teens and most of his 20s) I feel so strongly what this is like. The not knowing can truly make you feel you are losing your mind. Please try to take 911`s advice "Ronni—-I wouldn’t go to pieces just yet. It’s still early since he’s been missing. The FBI has reported that 98% of missing people do eventually either show up or contact a relative or friend. He may be just taking a timeout if he has been dealing with some personal issues."

Better to keep that in your mind. A delicate question-and please do not feel obligated to answer-is this the son that had a substance abuse problem in the past? If so,given the stresses he has been facing,perhaps he had a relapse? And as far as not taking his ar,did you,by chance,help him purchase the car? If he did have a relapse,he may have felt he shouldn`t take it.

Sorry if I`m totally off base. I truly hope that all ends up being fine.(((HUGS)))
 
Mrs. Robinson said:
Oh Ronni,what a terrible thing for you to have to go through. As a mom whose son was troubled for several years(late teens and most of his 20s) I feel so strongly what this is like. The not knowing can truly make you feel you are losing your mind. Please try to take 911`s advice "Ronni—-I wouldn’t go to pieces just yet. It’s still early since he’s been missing. The FBI has reported that 98% of missing people do eventually either show up or contact a relative or friend. He may be just taking a timeout if he has been dealing with some personal issues."

Better to keep that in your mind. A delicate question-and please do not feel obligated to answer-is this the son that had a substance abuse problem in the past? If so,given the stresses he has been facing,perhaps he had a relapse? And as far as not taking his ar,did you,by chance,help him purchase the car? If he did have a relapse,he may have felt he shouldn`t take it.

Sorry if I`m totally off base. I truly hope that all ends up being fine.(((HUGS)))
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@Mrs. Robinson you’re fine ..it’s hard to keep track of who’s who on forums like these. I’m not at all offended.

It’s his car, I sold it to him some years ago. It was paid in full, per our agreement, a month after purchase. I noticed that the tags are expired. Perhaps he didn’t want to run the risk of being pulled over.

No, this is not my addict son. He’s still working a strong recovery many years later thank God.
 
Here is a link to the FBI’s missing and kidnapped picture board. If you have a good closeup, maybe you should post it.
FBI Missing Persons

Does he have a favorite hangout or someone he sometimes crashes with? Does he have a Facebook page you can post that he is missing? Do you guys own a second home or have a hunting cabin he may have sheltered in?

Like I said before missing people can come and go as they please. About 98% of them do eventually show up, but if someone wants not to be found, it can be really hard finding them.

If you do decide to show his picture around, be sure to go to the local hangout for the homeless people and show the picture around.
 
Jace said:
@perplexed..hadn't heard of silver alert..
but, that's a v.gd. Idea...if they have it there.
@Ronnie...Such be checked out.😉
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I realize this is for Ms but looks like each state would have it or should have it.

I would think he would qualify if he was despondent over things in his life.
A Silver Alert is activated when an elderly, developmentally, or cognitively-impaired person has gone missing and is determined to be at-risk. Silver Alerts provide immediate information to the public to aid in the swift recovery of at-risk persons meeting the criteria.

The Silver Alert System increases public awareness of preparation, prevention, and response to wandering behaviors of our state’s most vulnerable adults. After a family member or caregiver files a missing persons report with local law enforcement, information will be entered into the National Crime Information Center and the Bureau of Investigation of the Mississippi Department of Public Safety.


If the person missing is believed to be in a vehicle, information and photos can be sent to statewide communication systems, news media, and other public communication resources.
 
Oh Ronni, I'm really so sorry to read all this. Heartbreaking.
You and your family will be feeling so distraught and helpless, words which probably don't even come close to how you are all feeling.
I've no more words than others have already said that may help you feel less distraught until you get the answers.
I hope you can feel all those reaching out to you and I dearly wish, as others do, he will be found very soon safe and well.

As others have said, thank heavens for 911 - someone who knows how the procedures work and the guiding words he gives.

Please all try to take care of yourselves too.
 
FB can be helpful. If he belongs to groups, you could join and say you’re looking for him. You can do the same on local groups. You do have to be prepared for jerks who just want to be involved or nasty.

Does he normally use cash or his cards. If he doesn’t use cards, he might just be doing his own thing on his own agenda and not realizing that people are searching for him.
 
Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers, love, suggestions. I'm sorry I'm not responding to each individually.

He doesn't do social media. He has a facebook but he hasn't posted in many years and doesn't keep up with it. He doesn't do Instagram, Groups, Tik Tok, Snap Chat, YouTube, Twitter etc. He games online, and is connected to his gamer friends through Discord, but he hasn't been on since several days before he disappeared.

He has a debit card but no credit cards. He had a credit card many years ago but fell into the trap of using it indiscriminately and got himself into debt. Took him several years to climb out of that hole and he's never been tempted since.

I've been struggling with the way he left, obviously wanting no-one to know that he was gone, or what his plans were. If he doesn't want to be found, either he's already dead or he's ghosted himself so completely that tracking him is impossible. Last time I checked with the police there was no money trail, no card usage. They haven't found him in jail, hospital or morgue, or if they have found him and he's alive to request that I not be told, then I won't know.

A friend of mine has a son who's actively involved with the homeless community in this area, and the son has been asking around, showing my son's picture, checking in with the homeless folk in case anyone there has seen him.

A couple of dear friends of the family, young people with a couple of kids, who live in this area, are also checking low rent motels in the area, showing my son's picture, just as they go about their errands and running around.

I am slowly working my way through the tiny house where my son lived, cleaning and looking for any clues. He left the place a mess which is an indication of his mental state. He's never been a fastidious housekeeper but he let slide a couple things that Ron had specifically asked him to keep up with to preserve the integrity of the interior. In the scheme of things that's so minor, but does give an indication that he was dysfunctional in some manner.

I am dreading the holidays coming up. My niece is flying in from Salt Lake to spend Thanksgiving with us, and we have around 25 people who will be attending our Thanksgiving celebration....most are family because we have a large one, but several other folks too. My missing son's birthday is on the 10th December, which we always have a a big family celebration for, as we do for all the kids. And then there's Christmas just around the corner. I don't want to deal with any of it. I want it all to just go away.

I will of course celebrate these things, because shutting down isn't doing me any good. I don't need to wallow or give in to despair. Nor do I need to be depriving my kids and grands of these seasonal celebrations that they love so much. It will give me something to focus on other than my son who is MIA and I need that external focus, because I'm way too much in my head. My thoughts are obsessively ricocheting around about the thousand what ifs and scenarios surrounding his disappearance.

This sucks, folks.
 
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I've been struggling with the way he lift, obviously wanting no-one to know that he was gone, or what his plans were. @@R
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@Ronni ... Last Sunday, could someone have come over and picked him up at his house, without you knowing?

You have access to his computer, but not his phone ..right? ... he took his phone with him, but it's turned off? I would keep checking it for activity.
I know you said his computer was checked by the police.
 
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Did you get his picture out there on the news or on a circular ir whatever means you can think if? People do react to pictures of people missing. People want to help, so they will look and use their memory if they have seen the face on the picture.

We have found or located several runaways using pictures.
 
911 said:
Did you get his picture out there on the news or on a circular ir whatever means you can think if? People do react to pictures of people missing. People want to help, so they will look and use their memory if they have seen the face on the picture.

We have found or located several runaways using pictures.
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Twitter uses the hashtag, - "Missing" for all missing persons. No age is too old. It's a great idea to get an image out there. You never know.
 

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