Re the dishwasher convo, we have one but rarely use it anymore unless I'm on a baking kick, we're entertaining, or one of us is sick (sanitize cycle). An able bodied person piling up a dirty dishes (even inside a DW) until it's full seems a bit lazy and definitely gross- but maybe that's just me. Also, I don't want anything in my house that may be perceived as a welcome mat for bugs and vermin.
What don't I have that others do? Certainly nothing that I want or need. I have great relationships with my children and grandchildren, a near 40 year marriage to a man I continue to adore, a beautiful home, and plenty of technological gadgetry, all of which I'm deeply grateful for.
No debt, no evident body breakdown or health issues yet, no lack of close relationships and no marital woes.
Much or all of the above could change without a moment's notice so I take none of the above for granted.
The happy circumstances of the country and era of my birth, my race, family religion, and parents' social and economic class laid the foundations for a relatively easy, relatively blessed life. From there I mostly continued to merely ride that wave without screwing things up with drugs, alcohol, poor decisions, or unfortunate accidents or illnesses.