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oldman

oldman

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Later today, we are attending a wedding celebration for a couple that have been previously married. This is my nephew’s third wedding and his new wife’s second. Do we give a gift and if so, what should it be worth? I have read conflicting answers on the net. One said that no gift is necessary if we had attended previous weddings and gifted. Another site wrote yes, but not to over-spend, meaning to keep the gift value around $50.00. Their suggestion was either a gift card or cash.

What say you?
 

Bonnie said:
I don't understand ... they were previously married to each other?

Gift card is always in good taste.
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No they were married to different spouses.
 

Here is my answer in poetry:
Three little words
There are three words, the sweetest words
In all of human speech—
More sweet than are the songs of birds
Or pages poets preach.

This life may be a vale of tears,
A sad and dreary thing—
Three words, and trouble disappears
And birds begin to sing.

Three words, and all the roses bloom,
The sun begins to shine.
Three words will dissipate the gloom
And water turn to wine.

Three words will cheer the saddest days.
“I love you”? Wrong, by heck!—
It is another, sweeter phrase,
“Enclosed find check”.
 
The wedding gift shouldn't be affected by previous marriages. I would put cash or check in a card for them. In my opinion, fifty dollars is not nearly enough to give, unless that's all you can afford. I just gave my great nephew $250 just for his high school graduation, and I'm far from rich. I'd say the gift should be at least a hundred dollars.
 
Cash or check in a wedding card is good. If they are young then the gift card should be from a store like Bed, Bath, & Beyond or a nice Department store where they can buy necessities they need. If they are older, like your nephew is, then, yes, a restaurant is good.
 
Cash and a card to put it in.

That seems to me what they appreciate the most these days.

In fact there was one couple's invite I got and they said, we like to travel so instead of a traditional gift we would appreciate cash.

I sent them $50 American which is $75 Canadian to buy.

It was much simpler for me.

If you are attending a wedding where food and drinks are served I would double that because that's what catering costs these days.

My old friend would say. O.K. but if you split up you have to give me the money back so I can save it for your next wedding.
 
Since GCs can be/are easily hacked these days, I'd give a beautiful card with crisp cash enclosed. I give no less than $100 to acquaintances. For close friends and family, no less than double that amount, regardless of how many times they've been married.
 
oldman said:
Later today, we are attending a wedding celebration for a couple that have been previously married. This is my nephew’s third wedding and his new wife’s second. Do we give a gift and if so, what should it be worth? I have read conflicting answers on the net. One said that no gift is necessary if we had attended previous weddings and gifted. Another site wrote yes, but not to over-spend, meaning to keep the gift value around $50.00. Their suggestion was either a gift card or cash.

What say you?
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It's a relative, so I would, as Mimi suggests, give at least between $100 - $200. No gift would be tacky, to say the least.
 
a portable roulette wheel cost around $ 125.00

Addendum: there is also an eleven inch portable wheel for around fifteen bucks.
you can put that on your lap as you cruise among the prospects
(go ahead, kill me, I ain't no good)
 
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Went to the party and put a check in the envelope with the card. I had a good time. It was the first time that I had been anywhere since being released from the hospital. I was up most of the night with pain in my lower bowel. I am going to have to call the surgeon again in the morning (Monday). Something just isn't right.
 

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