Need to have people care about me

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Jane

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Shalimar says I'm shy,what does that mean?

I can't get anyone to talk to me here,she did for a while,then nothing.

I guess I'm too boring and pathetic.

I keep reaching out,but get little response.

I'm so scared and depressed.
 

Jane said:
Shalimar says I'm shy,what does that mean?
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Jane said:
I can't get anyone to talk to me here,she did for a while,then nothing.

I guess I'm too boring and pathetic.

I keep reaching out,but get little response.

I'm so scared and depressed.
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Jane, I am sorry you feel as you do. As far as I recall, you stopped pm me. If I missed answering one of your pm, and that led to you feeling I had rejected you, that is not the case. I have a busy practice, and my off time is limited, as is my energy. It can take some time for me to respond. Once you cut me from your friend list, I presumed you preferred to be left alone.
 
:rose::wave: Hi Jane, they say the best way to make a friend is to be a friend.

So just visit the many threads our members have started and just add your opinions or share your experiences or offer help to others. You know, just light stuff. Maybe play some games...although I don't for some reason unknown to me. But there is a group that has a lot of fun playing the many games SF has.

After a while our members will begin to get a sense of who you are and they'll feel like they know you. It takes a little time.

Think positive. Look for the good. Have fun because there's a lot of drama in the world and you want to remove yourself from that once in a while. Forget your troubles and let loose here. If you see a thread that is going downhill...leave and find a fun thread. I look forward to seeing more of your posts :)
 

Hi Jane, come and play the word games, it’s fun and some of the replies are very funny, they often put a smile on my face !

look forward to seeing you there :)
 
Hi Jane! Do you have a hobby/project/interest that you might write about? I've found that there are so many interesting people here that I just enjoy the reading about their topics even if I don't add a comment.
I started a diary with my philosophical views, then switched to my new gardening project (way fun and had just started it to get outside more :cool:) Didn't know if anyone would be interested, but I got some nice replies to both topics and now I can't wait until the garden blooming starts so I can post more photos.
Oh, and the games are great!
:cheerful:
 
Sadly you were wrong.

I just thought you didn't have the time or energy. Wish you could have just said as much.

I hope your life gets less hectic soon and you and Philly can be together.
 
Jane said:
No,can't afford one,meaning to take care of. I have a cat from across the street who comes over from time to time,I give her treats:)
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Jane that's so nice to have the cat visit you and give her treats!
What color is he and do you know her name?
Does she let you pet her.

I have a small dog but no cat at the present.
Yes, pets can be expensive.

Tell me more about the cat or anything else.
What shows do you like on TV? :)
 
Jane said:
No,sorry I have no hobbies.

I just watch tv and go on the internet.
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Don't wait for someone to care about you. Find something you really care about, and go with that. If you find that there is nothing at all that you can care about, then maybe find out what is making you feel that way. There are therapies and medications that can help you. No person by themselves can help you. You have to want to help yourself. And that will likely take professional help. No one here can or expect to take the place of that. It's up to you.
 
Olivia said:
Don't wait for someone to care about you. Find something you really care about, and go with that. If you find that there is nothing at all that you can care about, then maybe find out what is making you feel that way. There are therapies and medications that can help you. No person by themselves can help you. You have to want to help yourself. And that will likely take professional help. No one here can or expect to take the place of that. It's up to you.
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Exactly. Not that you need professional help but you have to ‘want’ to ‘be’ a friend to have a friend.
 
She is black.We call her Bella because she has a crooked tail,Bella is a character from the Twilight books and movies who was a little clumsy.Yes she let's us pet her and she talks to us too:)

I watch all kinds of shows,I watch Live PD,Supernatural,Arrow,The Flash,Agents of Shield,Legends of Tomorrow,and I will be watching So you think you can Dance and The World of Dance.
 
Jane said:
I watch all kinds of shows,I watch Live PD,Supernatural,Arrow,The Flash,Agents of Shield,Legends of Tomorrow,and I will be watching So you think you can Dance and The World of Dance.
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Do you ever watch Youtube videos of dance competitions? I'm subscribed to several World Dancesport Federation threads; they're so beautiful -- especially the ones from Vienna every Spring. :cheerful:
 
JFBev said:
Do you ever watch Youtube videos of dance competitions? I'm subscribed to several World Dancesport Federation threads; they're so beautiful -- especially the ones from Vienna every Spring. :cheerful:
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Vienna? OMG, I'd love to see them. My mom was from Vienna and I was born there. I love everything about Vienna!
 
Jane said:
She is black.We call her Bella because she has a crooked tail,Bella is a character from the Twilight books and movies who was a little clumsy.Yes she let's us pet her and she talks to us too:)

I watch all kinds of shows,I watch Live PD,Supernatural,Arrow,The Flash,Agents of Shield,Legends of Tomorrow,and I will be watching So you think you can Dance and The World of Dance.
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I watch a lot of TV too, sometimes I also watch Live PD.
Do you live with your family Jane?
 
Jane said:
Sadly you were wrong.

I just thought you didn't have the time or energy. Wish you could have just said as much.

I hope your life gets less hectic soon and you and Philly can be together.
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Apparently we have a different perspective re what occurred. There seems to be a disconnect between what I say and what you hear. I explained to you that my pm response time was affected by my work load. In no way did I suggest I was too busy

or exhausted to converse with you. When you ceased contacting me that was your choice, I assumed your needs were not being met. My decision to back away came after I read the first comments

you posted re your dissatisfaction with my behaviour. I believe you expected too much from me, and I think it inappropriate to air such things publicly on the board rather than message me privately.
 
Jane I don't know you, but I care.

I care that you are reaching out and looking for someone or something.

I may not have the time or energy, but please don't give up.

Keep seeking for what you want/need.

I can't be here as much as I want, but I want to be here.

I miss so much that flies by on this site but I'm hangin' in.

"HUGS"
 
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