... The funny part is that the women do the choosing. But, they still want the guy to be 6' and have a high double figure income. That makes sense biologically. Yet, those same women can come to feel alone in those kinds of relationships. It is like there has too be chemistry, but also a kind of spiritual intimacy. That is a rare commodity. Those are the people who stay married for 50 years. ...
I've been thinking about your last post, and this part set off alarm bells. I still remember vividly the day my mother gave me the following awful (imo) advice. I was 16:
Boys don't like girls that are smart. ... Ask them a lot of dumb questions. ... Pretend not to be able to do things.
A pretty big put down of men in general, imo. There are many that eventually figure things out. Not so many at age 16 though, and I understand why. It takes two level-headed people to make the best decision about who you are going to spend the rest of your life with, or else you have to be incredibly lucky. Very few are that level-headed at 16, or even 25. I surely wasn't.
Of course my mother's purpose was to get me married off, but her advice backfired, because they also drilled into me to be honest. I could never play those games or try to manipulate. Looks to me like a recipe for disaster down the road, again, unless you are very lucky. I would like to say it was just "the times", but I still see those kinds of discussions on web pages of teenage girls today. {sigh}