No light at the end of tunnel I cannot find

@Pepper, when I have little kerfuffles with SF-ers - especially those I've known for a long time, I overlook them and allow time to heal my wounds. Truth is, nearly all of us have thrown a sharp elbow now and then, especially when discussing subjects near and dear to our hearts.

Errant messages on other topics aren't reliable indicators of how SF friends of many years feel about you or their support for the emotional difficulties you're facing right now.

Even the very closest of friendships hit a few bumps now and then. In my experience, pot stirrers thrive on keeping wounds raw and open, making for more misery than the original hurt.
 
Just letting you know Pepper that you are still being thought about. Would be nice if a private apology was extended and being the gracious lady that you are can accept that or reject it but return in any case.

That being said, two sides to every story and a third person to come between and stir the pot.
 
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Shalimar said:
Pepper, I am so sorry to hear about Buffy. Losing a furchild bites deep. Grieving is such a painful journey. As for hurtful comments, please do not let them

define you. Many of us here love and honour you. You burn bright, stalwart, principled, genuine, and fierce to the end. 🤗💕 RESPECT
Yikes, I am all choked up.
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((Hi, Shalimar. Love you.))

Dear Pepper, Shalimar said it best, You burn bright and principled, and that is why, when you said what you said on the abortion thread, (I was there that morning) I laughed out loud. I then read it to my son who also laughed.

I said, "Pepper's got the fire in her belly this morning," and we laughed and loved you for your commitment to your beliefs. I then went on with the day and it was all over when I came back so I don't know who was mean to you. I wish I had stayed to defend you because I firmly believe that an occasional show of temper and passion about certain issues, is a very good thing, particularly at our age.

I agree with everyone who says to call your doctor about your meds. My son's been taking Abilify for 20 years now and his hands shake a little, but he wouldn't give up that life saving drug for anything.
 
Pepper, words of condolence seem so standardized these days, but everyone who sends them means them from the bottom of their heart. I know how awful it is to lose your favorite pet. It's similar to losing a child, since they depend on you so. Buffy will live in your heart forever and tug those heart strings of yours from time to time. But, she loved you unconditionally for taking such good care of her. 🙏 xxoo
 
Pepper, you will get better. You will remember Buffy always, but you will remember the good things. This gloom will pass. You will remember it, but you won't be living in it. I think I know you well enough to tell you that. Grieve now, grieve hard and then move on. You are strong.
 
I'm so sorry this happened to you and that you were made to feel as you do! I know losing Buffy is adding to your pain. They are our babies, our constant companions and it's natural to grieve so hard. I know...been there, done that. I hope that something in your life can shine light on you and make you feel better. I didn't see the posts you referred to but those who would seek to kick you when you are down...well, they should be discounted! There are those of us here who have your back; focus on the positive. I will pray for your comfort and peace. For now, sending.....

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The only thing I've ever found to help me with the death of a pet is to get another. Quickly. There are so many animals in need of a home in shelters. Last time I took three! Two have since passed, and I have one now. He's not clever, and frankly hates to cuddle. But he's a doofus, and that's enough for me.

Sorry, I don't know your story, or your sister. Mourning a loss is normal, never good or pleasant, and is a test for us all. You hold on to the arms of your chair and ride it out.

Meds? You can't just stop taking many of them without side effects. So beware of that. If need be, consult a medical professional.
 

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