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Paxton's dad, Cole, had a long phone conversation with Tara's mom, Jackie. Tara was out for the afternoon so Cole felt free to explain what happened, why it happened, and what he's planning.
It was Cole who called the police the day he got arrested. He said Tara verbally berated Paxton for several minutes, getting right up in his face and yelling at him that he was a bad boy and she didn't like him. Cole pushed her away from Paxton and told her to leave him alone....forever. He told her HE'D take care of Paxton, and that Paxton was off-limits to her from now on. Then he took Paxton into the bedroom and shut the door. Tara went in and tried to grab Paxton away from Cole, and Cole picked her up under her arms and deposited her in the hallway. She went back in and started slapping and punching Cole, so he punched her in the arm and she ran out of the room screaming. He called the police and told them every detail of what was happening, and said he wanted them to come out there and bring CPS. And that's what they did.
Cole told the police and the CPS worker that Tara was mistreating Paxton and that she was using drugs. He told them all that Tara was very good to the twins, she only had it in for Paxton. He asked the CPS worker to take Paxton to my house.
The CPS worker did do a drug test on Tara while the cops were there, and it came up negative. But it was a cheek swab test, which is not real reliable. Plus, the kids had no marks on them, and Tara denied everything, and that's why the CPS worker didn't take the kids....not at that time. But she had further testing done on the swab, and it came up positive for methamphetamine and heroine. (the meth was probably cut with heroine, which is fairly common.)
Also, while the police were at their house, the worker told Tara to request a restraining order against Cole, which the cops filed immediately. Five days later, CPS took the kids based on Tara's positive drug test and the fact that she let Cole go back to their home while a restraining order was in place. So, basically, the CPS worker kind of tricked Tara.
The thing is, Cole knew the cops would take him to jail that day even though he told them that Tara hit him first and that she abused their son every day. But he knew that, if Tara didn't press any charges against him, it would only be a 5-day parole hold, which is protocol. She didn't press any charges. He was also sure that Tara would fail a drug test, and he was shocked when that first test came up negative. He told Jackie he was elated when he found out the second one came up positive. Also he knew he'd be drug-tested at the jail, and his would be negative for sure, because he's clean. He told Jackie he doesn't even smoke pot anymore, but he does like to have a few beers once in a while. Jackie asked him how often, and he said two or three times a week.
So, to summarize, Cole risked jail time to report Tara to CPS and protect Paxton. He hired an attorney. He wants to ask the court to let Paxton live with me and give him visitation rights, and he's gonna ask that Tara get custody of the twins. Only the twins. But I'm pretty sure it's not gonna turn out that way. I think there's a good chance Cole and Tara will both lose custody of all 3 kids, and that CPS will put them up for adoption. That will be sad for Cole, but it could be a really good thing for Paxton and his siblings, especially if they all go to the same family.
Meanwhile, the case worker is going to ask the foster parents if I can get visitation. The case worker's name is also Tara, btw. I talked to her on Thursday, and she said she'd call me on Tuesday...so, later today I should know whether or not they'll let me visit Paxton. And while I have her on the phone I'm going to ask if the foster parents are a foster-to-adopt home. If they are, that could mean the kids won't be bouncing from one foster home to another. But just in case that starts happening, I told Tara (the worker) that I'll foster all 3 kids.
Paxton's dad, Cole, had a long phone conversation with Tara's mom, Jackie. Tara was out for the afternoon so Cole felt free to explain what happened, why it happened, and what he's planning.
It was Cole who called the police the day he got arrested. He said Tara verbally berated Paxton for several minutes, getting right up in his face and yelling at him that he was a bad boy and she didn't like him. Cole pushed her away from Paxton and told her to leave him alone....forever. He told her HE'D take care of Paxton, and that Paxton was off-limits to her from now on. Then he took Paxton into the bedroom and shut the door. Tara went in and tried to grab Paxton away from Cole, and Cole picked her up under her arms and deposited her in the hallway. She went back in and started slapping and punching Cole, so he punched her in the arm and she ran out of the room screaming. He called the police and told them every detail of what was happening, and said he wanted them to come out there and bring CPS. And that's what they did.
Cole told the police and the CPS worker that Tara was mistreating Paxton and that she was using drugs. He told them all that Tara was very good to the twins, she only had it in for Paxton. He asked the CPS worker to take Paxton to my house.
The CPS worker did do a drug test on Tara while the cops were there, and it came up negative. But it was a cheek swab test, which is not real reliable. Plus, the kids had no marks on them, and Tara denied everything, and that's why the CPS worker didn't take the kids....not at that time. But she had further testing done on the swab, and it came up positive for methamphetamine and heroine. (the meth was probably cut with heroine, which is fairly common.)
Also, while the police were at their house, the worker told Tara to request a restraining order against Cole, which the cops filed immediately. Five days later, CPS took the kids based on Tara's positive drug test and the fact that she let Cole go back to their home while a restraining order was in place. So, basically, the CPS worker kind of tricked Tara.
The thing is, Cole knew the cops would take him to jail that day even though he told them that Tara hit him first and that she abused their son every day. But he knew that, if Tara didn't press any charges against him, it would only be a 5-day parole hold, which is protocol. She didn't press any charges. He was also sure that Tara would fail a drug test, and he was shocked when that first test came up negative. He told Jackie he was elated when he found out the second one came up positive. Also he knew he'd be drug-tested at the jail, and his would be negative for sure, because he's clean. He told Jackie he doesn't even smoke pot anymore, but he does like to have a few beers once in a while. Jackie asked him how often, and he said two or three times a week.
So, to summarize, Cole risked jail time to report Tara to CPS and protect Paxton. He hired an attorney. He wants to ask the court to let Paxton live with me and give him visitation rights, and he's gonna ask that Tara get custody of the twins. Only the twins. But I'm pretty sure it's not gonna turn out that way. I think there's a good chance Cole and Tara will both lose custody of all 3 kids, and that CPS will put them up for adoption. That will be sad for Cole, but it could be a really good thing for Paxton and his siblings, especially if they all go to the same family.
Meanwhile, the case worker is going to ask the foster parents if I can get visitation. The case worker's name is also Tara, btw. I talked to her on Thursday, and she said she'd call me on Tuesday...so, later today I should know whether or not they'll let me visit Paxton. And while I have her on the phone I'm going to ask if the foster parents are a foster-to-adopt home. If they are, that could mean the kids won't be bouncing from one foster home to another. But just in case that starts happening, I told Tara (the worker) that I'll foster all 3 kids.
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So I don't get to see her much but my granddaughter (her mom) sends me loads of pictures. I have 3 GREAT-grandkids. She's the youngest.