How do you know the husband wasn't the toxic one? His actions or inaction may have spurned resentment during the marriage, especially when having to take care of a man who may have been mean or even physically abusive. Most women who have had good marriages and loving husbands gladly take care of them during sickness. I feel there is a reason, yet unknown to us, as to why she posted what she did.
We are on parallel lines, mrstime. My wife and I met in June of '53. She was 17 while I was 19 and serving in the Coast Guard. We were married in Feb of 1956 and are still together today. We have 4 kids, all in their 60's with a flock of grands and great grands.
Yes, very rare and not just these days; as far back as I can remember, I didn't know anybody who had that kind of life, only on TV and in the movies.
I just tune it all out, my main coping mechanism. And I see my spouse for what he is. Probably shouldn't elaborate. Boring.Welcome fwtxcitywoman!
There's zero advantage to be gained in disliking our spouses, when in sickness we are honor bound to stay. If we just tweak our reality -- our attitude a little, we can begin to enjoy ourselves again.
I know a lot of very happy, long-term marriages - a lot more in my generation than in my parents' and grandparents' era. Sure, those marriages lasted a long time, but many were a lot closer to endurance tests than joyful partnerships.
I've found that responses to kindness or hostility are strong and lasting. If we treat everyone like company, they often behave like company.
you and your wife are of the same area as my parents. They married in '55... she was 21 he was 28.....he had been married and divorced already ...
I feel pity for the new wife because under those circumstances she could be soon left alone as well. That's not nice. Get a dog and hire a cook!
Boy, if that ever true!! ;-)
That's how it should be, of course. But it sure doesn't always work out that way.
