Odd But True Statement About Most People & Their Money

fmdog44

fmdog44

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I was watching PBS and a woman author was talking about people and their relationship or views with their money. She said she spoke before a crowd and one question she threw out to them was, "what is your favorite sexual position?" She said many people openly answered the question. Next she asked how much money each person had and not one person responded. The more I thought about it the more true it seemed to be. I think of all of the friends and associates I have and I would never even ask what their financial situations but we have often talked about our sex escapades, likes and dislikes. So now I am puzzled why we, including me are so tight lipped about our money. We discuss loves, likes and dislikes, fears, relatives, friends, etc., but money seem like the ultimate taboo. Kind of weird, no?
 

Me, too. I don't know why everyone suddenly feels they have to "come out" and/or discuss their sex lives. I do not care what anybody else does in the bedroom and it is nobody else's business what I do in mine.
 
Agreed !!!... I hate all this free talk about people's sex lives. ..I don't want to know !!

However in reply to the OP>..I think the reason for not disclosing your financial assets may be the fear that someone will prey on you, or take it from you... a very real fear I feel !!
 
I think we Brits are quite reserved and there are plenty of thinks we don't like discussing, but, and correct me if I'm wrong,
it seems to me that Americans are much more open about money and status. Perhaps it is that Americans celebrate success while we Brits keep things much more low key.
 
I totally agree with holly. There are too many predators out there searching for new victims for home invasions every single day. I normally carry very little cash, but do carry my bank card and maybe a few credit cards. A lot of these thieves are satisfied with just getting the cards. You are only putting yourself at risk by divulging your financial position.

I know how many people feel about guns, so I won't get started on that topic, but I do carry my 9mm with a concealed holster most everywhere I go. It's a little harder to keep it concealed in the summer, but I have found a way to manage it.
 
Oh noooo way does a conversation about our sex life ever come up. We aren’t really open about talking about money either but would definitely feel more comfortable talking about money than sex. Any comments I ever make that are sexually related, and there aren’t many, are always in humour. I’m not sure where you get your resources from fmdog but I’ll have to disagree with them. Most people aren’t comfortable talking about that sort of thing. Thank goodness.
 
Sex discussions? Sure! Ask me about how much money I make/have? Get outta town! Yeah, it's a matter of not setting oneself up for getting taken for a ride. Oh, wait........
 
I have no problem discussing sex, my sex life or anyone else's. ;) Like tree guy, it's just no big deal to me. And not because it's become the thing to do. I've always been this way.

I don't have a problem discussing how much money I make, or have. Maybe that's because I have very little ;) My son-in-law though is VERY closed mouthed about his income. I mean, I know how much he makes, because he and my daughter trust me to not disclose the information, and also because they know I'm not going to be hitting them up for dollars, which is NOT the case with his side of the family. He's the most successful of them, and even though they don't know what he makes or his savings or whatever, the see the new house they built, the nice cars, the fun vacations to Disneyworld and Hawaii and other places, and so of course they just figure he has the big bucks and he is the first person they hit up when they're in need.

He is also not a braggart, and so any discussion of how much money he makes or has, even if he were comfortable with the subject, would feel like bragging to him, especially because he KNOWS he makes more than anyone else in his family.

So I think status also plays some part in folks' unwillingness to discuss the subject. Like my son in law, they don't want to brag. OR, at the other end of the spectrum, they make little enough (even if only in their own minds) that they are ashamed to admit it.
 
fmdog44 said:
I was watching PBS and a woman author was talking about people and their relationship or views with their money. She said she spoke before a crowd and one question she threw out to them was, "what is your favorite sexual position?" She said many people openly answered the question. Next she asked how much money each person had and not one person responded. The more I thought about it the more true it seemed to be. I think of all of the friends and associates I have and I would never even ask what their financial situations but we have often talked about our sex escapades, likes and dislikes. So now I am puzzled why we, including me are so tight lipped about our money. We discuss loves, likes and dislikes, fears, relatives, friends, etc., but money seem like the ultimate taboo. Kind of weird, no?
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In another thread, I believe it was already established that you and I relate differently to people we're close to. Financial matters are not an uncommon topic among my circle of friends. I've a couple of close friends who are successful real estate professionals and we occasionally discuss RE trends or specific investments, especially relative to properties that we personally own. Another friend is part of an informal securities investment group and we've been known to share thoughts on the economy, markets, strategies, and particular investment opportunities. And there have been any number of discussions recently related to coming to grips with the recent changes to the US tax code.

Even on this forum, there have been some good discussions regarding retirement income, insurance, and estate planning.

Do I get together with "the guys at the local bar" and swap yarns beginning with "Hey Erm, how much money do you have today?" Well, um ... no. That would be rather pointless and pedestrian. But we do share ways in which we've planned for our futures and how those plans are working out. It's no great secret. We learn from and encourage one another.

No, we don't swap bedroom stories. And I'm not aware of any successful friends who get much of their financial information (or any other type of information for that matter) from PBS.

Thanks for asking. :eek:k:
 
Only financial things we tell my wife's oldest sister and her brother are vehicle repair costs or something like that. They pretty much know that we do "ok" financially right now. Once we move, that "ok" will be somewhat gone, but we already know that's going to happen.

As far as discussing sex, well...……….. (you figure out what the rest of the sentence would say) LOL
 
We have never talked about sex with family members. There is always some innuendo and joking with the siblings, but no specifics.

But money, yes. DW was a CPA in a former life, and I have been into saving and investing since my 20's. We have assisted siblings in investing and tax ramifications, and we have specifics on their investments and savings. They come to me to discuss investments, and DW helps them with tax questions. It's all strictly 'business' --- nothing about who has how much as far as some rivalry or anything. We have an entire family prepared for retirement, wills, estate planning, POA's, etc. as a result of these discussions.
 
treeguy64 said:
Sex discussions? Sure! Ask me about how much money I make/have? Get outta town! Yeah, it's a matter of not setting oneself up for getting taken for a ride. Oh, wait........
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How does folks knowing how much you have/make.....lead to them taking it?

I have a blue truck, you going to take it?
 
Actually, rgp, I was wondering about the same thing about treeguy64 post. About talking to folks about money and hoping nothing happens. There are folks that will post pictures of the firearms they own and even talk about them. I wouldn't do that, but some do. People will post a picture of the inside of their house, if someone's topic is the inside of their house.

But, then again, I do really understand about treeguy64's post. Just can't be to revealing to others. Not in this "day and age".
 
We discuss what we are invested in but never get down to the actual amounts. We share news about investment ideas but never push one idea on each other. We all know each others sex lives in general terms but no explicit details, well not every detail at least.
 
Sex, at our age, is pretty much history....but, it was fun while it lasted. As for money, that is no one's business, other than our two daughters...in case something happens to us, or we can no longer manage our lives. They are fully informed about our wills, long term care insurance, financial accounts, etc., and we trust them to assist us if/when we need help in our later years....and not to divulge any of this info to others.
 
ClassicRockr said:
Actually, rgp, I was wondering about the same thing about treeguy64 post. About talking to folks about money and hoping nothing happens. There are folks that will post pictures of the firearms they own and even talk about them. I wouldn't do that, but some do. People will post a picture of the inside of their house, if someone's topic is the inside of their house.

But, then again, I do really understand about treeguy64's post. Just can't be to revealing to others. Not in this "day and age".
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Well, if you're talking here on the net? Then yes I agree. I was thinking more about personal conversations.

I don't trust anything on the net.
 
I have no interest in other people sex lives or money.
 

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