I know it sounds like a dreadful thing to say, but I almost wished my mother-in-law had Alzheimer's. She passed away when she was 90 years. She was very mentally alert until shortly before she died. Very aware of all her aches and pains, very aware that all her friends, siblings, husband, son and a grand-daughter had passed away before she did. She refused to go to a nursing home and ended up living with a niece that she did not get along with. Her niece worked during the day and then, would fuss over her when she got home. My mother-in-law was by herself every day, as she even refused to be picked up and taken to a senior citizen center to join in on any of the senior activities. She died with a frown on her face.
Whereas, my grandmother did have Alzheimer's and lived in a nursing home for several years before she passed away. She happily joined in on many of the activities, lived in a blissful world and never complained. She could not remember who her son was (my Dad) but she died with a smile on her face.
We all worry about losing our minds. But I don't want to spend my last days lonely in a relative's house where no one comes to visit me because they are either dead, or don't want to hear me complain. I don't want to be living with a relative who hovers over me but then, never really listens to a word I say. Nursing homes are not my preference either, but I want to make sure there is indeed a BETTER alternative.
I wonder whoever wrote 'Old Age Home' if English is their second language. It just sounds like a translation from another language. At least it says 'Home' and not 'Old Age Institution'.
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