Older men dating younger women and visa versa.

[PeppermintPatty]

He’s what wiki’s says


That's a pretty bitter article.

If the prospective partners' ages are too divergent it poses many problems. Worldviews based on life experience will be wildly different. Even conversation at the same level of maturity could be difficult.

Yet the guy can get those things anywhere: relatives, other guys, neighbors. The one thing he needs and can only socially acceptably get from one significant other is sex.

Before long a lot of guys face problems of their own, of course. Soon enough they begin to disparage sex as well. It just doesn't start coming on at 51 years of age and isn't as abruptly catastrophic.

I found it a fairly realistic article. It addresses the many reasons why many men prefer a younger wife besides just for sex.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

My husband was twelve years older than me. He fought in Korean War when he was only 15. He lied about his age, called himself 19 and Canadian Army accepted him.

Omg. He was a child fighting a brutal war.

 

[Pepper]

Omg. He was a child fighting a brutal war.

He was angry that a ceasefire was declared soon after he arrived. He did see action, though. He left home at 13, so he said he felt like a man.

eta
I have pictures of him serving in Korea. He was 15, but over 6 ft. tall. He looked like a grown man.
He was like a bridge between my parent's generation & mine. He filled in the gaps. I appreciated his vast experience.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

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[RichardNSanAntonioTx]

It's ok if it's a repeat topic. I'm a new member. As for dating older than me.. I'm 55 years old and I prefer to date women older than me. I know this sounds cliché, but age is just a number.

 

[RichardNSanAntonioTx]

Do huge age gaps really matter?

Of course it does not matter either way,
just that many people have strong opinions
about the overall topic.

What are the reasons that you can think of
about why either male or female chose to
date much younger in years?

Open topic for chat~

It's ok if it's a repeat topic. I'm a new member. As for dating older than me.. I'm 55 years old and I prefer to date women older than me. I know this sounds cliché, but age is just a number.

 

[Teacher Terry]

My second husband was 8 years older than me and my last husband was 5 years younger than me. Neither made a difference. I think the age gap would have to be 15-20 years for it to be a problem for some people.

 

[Oldeagle66]

For me it's a very simple, I just mind my own business and don't judge other peoples relationships.

 

[VaughanJB]

Do huge age gaps really matter?

Of course it does not matter either way,
just that many people have strong opinions
about the overall topic.

What are the reasons that you can think of
about why either male or female chose to
date much younger in years?

Open topic for chat~

Can I be perfectly honest? I've not read the rest of this thread, but I wanted to comment.

When we're younger, we tend to hang around people our own age. Society structures itself that way, we go to school with same aged people, we listen to the same music, go to disco's (ha!) and the like. It's normal to be with someone around your age, albeit with the odd exception.

Now I can look at this from a different perspective. I've more years behind that I have ahead. In essence, I'm old. But let me tell you, while I am not in a relationship with a younger person, I confess I find younger women pretty hot. And why wouldn't I? Having spent a life loving the female form, I'm not going to stop now.

In old age, beauty broadens. There is so much to love in the opposite sex, and in life. But when it comes to the, erm, carnal - is it surprising that a man would want to relive those glory days? That the youthful beauty wouldn't still attract?

Again, not that I'm interested in a younger woman, they'd likely lead to an early grave. And yes, I've matured, so there is so much more to a relationship at this stage of my life. But to deny that more youthful bodies aren't amazing would be a lie. I say this out of honesty. My own body is well used. There isn't a reason in the world for a youthful person to give me a second look.

Only the women can say what attraction an older man might have. I'm guessing money, status, and...... well perhaps just money and status is high on the agenda. I can't think of anything else. It would take some medicinal assistance to...... hm........ perform like my younger self. Which of course is all about sex, and not all the foundation elements of a relationship. But does that urge for sex ever truly leave you?

Of course, there are gaps, and there are GAPS. Ten years? No big deal. Twenty years? On the upper range. But if I were a billionaire, I'd love to open my eyes to 20-somethings around a pool.