I dated a woman 2 weeks ago. We went out on Friday night and had a really great time. I asked her what she was doing tomorrow night and she said she had no plans. I asked her if she would like to go to a party with me that I was invited to. She asked what kind of party. I told her the hostess was an old work friend that invites several people to come to her home and enjoy some really nice hors d’Oeuvres and drinks. We just sit around or stand around and chit chat. There’s also an a/v room where she runs movies from back in the day. Many are in black and white. She agreed. I told her I would pick her up at 7.
It was a nice party. I think she got hit on a few times because I saw a couple of men writing down her phone number. On the way home, she was telling me about her car and how bad of shape it was in. I got the idea she was looking for an offer to help her pay for the repairs. Later, she was telling me her dishwasher went out and the roof has a small leak. She finally flat out asked me if I had $25,000 I could “lend” her until she receives her inheritance from her 97 year old mother who is expected to die within the next 1-2 months with breast and lung cancer.
I told her I needed to think about this because we just met and I’m a little reluctant to do so. She invited me in for a nightcap, but I declined, however, I did tell her if she wanted to make coffee, I would be interested and she agreed to do so. Once inside, I was able to take a good look around for myself.
I came to the conclusion that she needs a lot more than $25,000. Her windows leak and a few are broken. The ceiling’s plaster in 2 of the rooms is falling down, which is a sign of the roof leaking. The refrigerator makes a weird noise and the a/c will need replaced this summer. I figure more like $60-70,000 to bring the house back to where it should be.
I feel like I’m stuck in a mud hole and can’t move my feet. I know I should say sorry, but no, but I really could help her without doing any harm to myself. She’s a really nice person with good intentions. She does go to church and wants me to go along on Wednesday evenings for Bible study, but we are not of the same religion. She needs financial help. I am just confused right now. I want to help, but is this why she is being so nice to me? I need to give her an answer by the weekend. I don’t even care about when she pays it back.