Online Dating For Seniors

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Lon

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Because I am once again single in my life I joined a online dating service in March 2015 for age 55 plus and have received a education in male female relationships that I could never have received or even imagined in any other fashion.

Today I met and had coffee at Starbucks with my 22 nd female contact from online and had a most enjoyable two hour visit. She, like most of the women that I have met, is a widow of 18 years, and is within 10 years of my own age, which I specifically requested when putting in my
online profile. She is a retired school teacher and although I enjoyed our conversation, I doubt we will continue any serious contact or relationship. The service that I am using allows for viewing profiles and having contact within your own zip code area which is most convenient. At my age I am not interested in getting married again, but I do like females and get on with them better than my male counterparts and would enjoy a wide range of activities with them.
I have invited one of my contacts to have dinner with me tomorrow night at my apartment. She is 8 years younger than me and looks 20 years younger, is retired from 40 years in the newspaper business and is a widow of 15 years. She is my best pick of the 22 ladies that I have met so far.

I would be happy to post follow ups to my activities in this regard for any of you that might be interested. Let me say though that one of the things that I hear from the ladies is that they get contacted my men much younger than themselves that are looking for a Sugar Momma, or from men that really want someone to take care of them.

This whole dating process is soooo different from when I was a newly minted widower in my early 50's. There was no internet dating in1989.
 

If I were single I would turn to online dating. I know several people who have had good luck with it. My daughter met her husband through online dating and it's worked out great for her. Lon, I for one would enjoy seeing follow up posts of your online dating experiences.

As far as the men looking for Sugar Mommas or wanting someone to take care of them, that could be bad. I think it's a fine line to walk between sounding like you are poor as a church mouse and being comfortable and able to financially take care of yourself. Like everything else in life, you'd have to be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove.
 
Linda, I met my husband online through a companion ad I had placed for Ireland/UK. Married 15 years.
 

When I started dating again 2 1/2 years after my husband died, I met a lot of guys through the singles ads. I wasn't meeting Mr. Right, but I was having no problem meeting Mr. Wrong, Mr. Bitter, Mr. Depressed, Mr. Sleazy, Mr. Cheap, Mr. Still-Married-But-My-Wife-Doesn't-Understand-Me, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Purse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse-AND-A-Purse, Mr. My-Kids-Don't-Want-Me-To-Date and several of their cousins. Happily, though, I persevered and finally found the right guy and we've been together for six years. Persevere, Lon...persevere.
 
I have had considerable contact from females that are 20 and 30 years younger than me that surely know my age having read my profile. I am not flattered or interested. They are all divorced and it becomes obvious that they are looking for a meal ticket from some old goat that will croak soon.
 
Lon said:
I have had considerable contact from females that are 20 and 30 years younger than me that surely know my age having read my profile. I am not flattered or interested. They are all divorced and it becomes obvious that they are looking for a meal ticket from some old goat that will croak soon.
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Hey......if they are willing to entertain you, might not be a bad deal. ;)
 
jujube said:
When I started dating again 2 1/2 years after my husband died, I met a lot of guys through the singles ads. I wasn't meeting Mr. Right, but I was having no problem meeting Mr. Wrong, Mr. Bitter, Mr. Depressed, Mr. Sleazy, Mr. Cheap, Mr. Still-Married-But-My-Wife-Doesn't-Understand-Me, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Purse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse-AND-A-Purse, Mr. My-Kids-Don't-Want-Me-To-Date and several of their cousins. Happily, though, I persevered and finally found the right guy and we've been together for six years. Persevere, Lon...persevere.
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You should write an article about that, with your obvious sense of humor it would be a riot.
 
jujube said:
When I started dating again 2 1/2 years after my husband died, I met a lot of guys through the singles ads. I wasn't meeting Mr. Right, but I was having no problem meeting Mr. Wrong, Mr. Bitter, Mr. Depressed, Mr. Sleazy, Mr. Cheap, Mr. Still-Married-But-My-Wife-Doesn't-Understand-Me, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Purse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse-AND-A-Purse, Mr. My-Kids-Don't-Want-Me-To-Date and several of their cousins. Happily, though, I persevered and finally found the right guy and we've been together for six years. Persevere, Lon...persevere.
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:rofl:

Then there's Mr. I come to town on business every few weeks/months and want a roll in the hay.

:rolleyes:
 
Lon said:
I have had considerable contact from females that are 20 and 30 years younger than me that surely know my age having read my profile. I am not flattered or interested. They are all divorced and it becomes obvious that they are looking for a meal ticket from some old goat that will croak soon.
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Lon you no way look your age ,I know people including the man I have mentioned , I have been teaching how to use a computer out there on the singles sites and there are plenty of scammers out there amongst the honest people ,, good on you for weeding out the ones looking for a sugar daddy/ meal ticket .. I met my hubby through a newspaper as online dating was not there then we met in 1986 married in 1987
 
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I had my new lady friend to my apartment for dinner last night and had a great time conversing about many things. I discovered that she is Trilingual, speaking French, Spanish & English. I can speak Spanish fairly well so we chatted in both English & Spanish. A great lookin lady as well. She is 72 and looks 52. I prepared a small pork loin with angel hair pasta & mushrooms and Alfredo Sauce, a baby spinach salad with tomatoes black olives, feta cheese.
She does not drink or smoke and had Green Tea as her beverage while I enjoyed a bottle of Pinot Noir that she brought. For desert I had prepared vanilla ice cream with fresh blue berries. I will continue seeing this lady and invited her to a dinner show called "All Shook Up" to be held on the evening of the 16th.
 
Lon said:
I had my new lady friend to my apartment for dinner last night and had a great time conversing about many things. I discovered that she is Trilingual, speaking French, Spanish & English. I can speak Spanish fairly well so we chatted in both English & Spanish. A great lookin lady as well. She is 72 and looks 52. I prepared a small pork loin with angel hair pasta & mushrooms and Alfredo Sauce, a baby spinach salad with tomatoes black olives, feta cheese.
She does not drink or smoke and had Green Tea as her beverage while I enjoyed a bottle of Pinot Noir that she brought. For desert I had prepared vanilla ice cream with fresh blue berries. I will continue seeing this lady and invited her to a dinner show called "All Shook Up" to be held on the evening of the 16th.
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Sounds like a nice evening with a very nice lady! Nice dinner as well.
 
Sounds like a good evening! Good dinner too. Envious of your location-grandson and wife are taking our new greatgrandson back "home" on Wednesday-they currently live in Kingsburg. Pretty close to you,right? Probably won`t see him again til he`s walking.....(J/k-it will just seem like it lol)
 
jujube said:
When I started dating again 2 1/2 years after my husband died, I met a lot of guys through the singles ads. I wasn't meeting Mr. Right, but I was having no problem meeting Mr. Wrong, Mr. Bitter, Mr. Depressed, Mr. Sleazy, Mr. Cheap, Mr. Still-Married-But-My-Wife-Doesn't-Understand-Me, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Purse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse-AND-A-Purse, Mr. My-Kids-Don't-Want-Me-To-Date and several of their cousins. Happily, though, I persevered and finally found the right guy and we've been together for six years. Persevere, Lon...persevere.
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Goodness, I fit into a lot of your loser categories.
 
jujube said:
When I started dating again 2 1/2 years after my husband died, I met a lot of guys through the singles ads. I wasn't meeting Mr. Right, but I was having no problem meeting Mr. Wrong, Mr. Bitter, Mr. Depressed, Mr. Sleazy, Mr. Cheap, Mr. Still-Married-But-My-Wife-Doesn't-Understand-Me, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Purse, Mr. Looking-For-A-Nurse-AND-A-Purse, Mr. My-Kids-Don't-Want-Me-To-Date and several of their cousins. Happily, though, I persevered and finally found the right guy and we've been together for six years. Persevere, Lon...persevere.
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OMG!!! Jujube, I have either dated every brother of all of the above, or these "gentlemen" (use the term quite loosely) were busy two-timing you! I finally decided that dating has changed so much since I last dated (or maybe I have changed so much) that it is better that I just not indulge in such activities. LOL
 
jujube and Purp, too funny! Maybe I've just been lucky, but I haven't dated anybody I've seen online. Or maybe I'm good at reading between the lines. Or maybe I'm just too darned picky or too darned independent or too darned something. I've emailed a few times with three or four, but they just seemed to be too tied to what they used to be or do or too vested in their kids and grandkids to possibly have time in their busy, busy, busy lives for anything or anyone else.

The ones who went on and on about their kids, g'kids or dear departed wives? Meh...they had very little to say about themselves. Heck, I was looking for somebody of like mind with whom I could "keep company" as they say. How the dickens can you tell whether they're of like mind if they say nothing about themselves? Sheesh!

Then there were the ones who said way too much...positively rabid about their politics and/or religion or who waxed eloquent about the wife who died...or dissed the three or four or more ex-wives.
 
Okay, I'll confess...I was separated in my forties. Although like Richard Burton and Elizabeth Whatshername;) We got remarried...match.com in a small town...nonono...too much inbreeding. Photo's from ten years or fifty pounds back, guys looking for a one night stand...plueeeze only on the full moon...one little nightmare...

I feel for height challenged people. I know it has to be a hard life. But be honest on your profile. I'm 5'4 and he didn't come up to my chest. Plus a Napoleon complex...Then there was the gentleman, almost bald, not very attractive...who crossed the street and had the chutzpah to say " You don't look like your picture"...oh yeah? Well unfortunately YOU do, beeyatch. If I was single again online dating would be a last resort.
 
A gal I know, and she's pretty, made a date online and met the guy in some public place and he said "I need to buy gas, lets go over the gas station and then we'll go out to the restaurant." So she went to the gas station and he drove off, never to be seen or heard some again. I don't know what he was imagining she'd look like but I know she didn't misrepresent herself in the photo. I felt sorry for her because something like that can really be a kick in the ol self-esteem. She recovered though. :)
 
Something important to establish after a few months of exclusive dating...No matter your age or gender is
When do you both drop your online profile???
Really, don't just assume this person is into you and now it'll just be you two from there on. Spell it out carefully...I'm reallyfeeling it for you so lets delete our profiles if we haven't already.

With nasty little dwarf I let it slide. After several months and finding his profile still very active I sent a pretend joking response...in my cat's name. Bastard didn't see the joke and sent his picture and number all ready to hook up with a silly profile. When confronted all he said was I wanted to control him like his ex. Then he went for " Oh I wasn't on match it's just that whenever I sign on yahoo it looks like I'm there too." A mercy **** and he was still like a kid in a candy store, homely as heck or not.
Couldn't get out of there fast enough.
 
fureverywhere said:
Something important to establish after a few months of exclusive dating...No matter your age or gender is
When do you both drop your online profile???
Really, don't just assume this person is into you and now it'll just be you two from there on. Spell it out carefully...I'm reallyfeeling it for you so lets delete our profiles if we haven't already.

With nasty little dwarf I let it slide. After several months and finding his profile still very active I sent a pretend joking response...in my cat's name. Bastard didn't see the joke and sent his picture and number all ready to hook up with a silly profile. When confronted all he said was I wanted to control him like his ex. Then he went for " Oh I wasn't on match it's just that whenever I sign on yahoo it looks like I'm there too." A mercy **** and he was still like a kid in a candy store, homely as heck or not.
Couldn't get out of there fast enough.
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That makes sense, I wouldn't have thought of that. But maybe I would if I were dating. My daughter did on-line dating (and although she isn't a senior and I know this is a post about senior dating), she got tired of wasting a lot of time talking to someone and then meeting them and finding out they were a jerk, so she would suggest they meet for coffee within a week. When she and her now husband met on their "coffee date" it was for lunch at a cafe in Burbank and (Sorry if I've told this story on here already) and Garrett Morris was sitting at the next table so they tell everyone Garret Morris was on their first date with them. :) He's a comedian/actor. And he IS a senior citizen. :)
 
I remember Garrett Morris from SNL :)

Online dating is fine. I know a few married couples who met that way.

But sometimes people misrepresent themselves (as they do offline). They sometimes are married, in a relationship, or the keep delaying a personal meetup and just want to play around on emails or texting. Have to weed these out and move on.
 

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